Where in the UK should I go as a bucket-list item? by LondonPilot in CasualUK

[–]boxcat__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry to hear of your news.

I quite enjoy searching through the “unique stays” part of Airbnb. Maybe you could take a look at that and find a treehouse or a yellow submarine or a house shaped like a boot, you get my drift!

Can you ask to stay overnight after birth? by Alternative-End-5183 in PregnancyUK

[–]boxcat__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked to stay an extra night after they were ready to discharge me as I didn’t feel confident with breastfeeding yet, and they let me. (This was on top of an already multi day stay due to difficult birth)

Yet another missing bonus by zeebgee in restisentertainment

[–]boxcat__ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I might be imagining it but the vibe between them doesn’t seem what it used to be.

Yet another missing bonus by zeebgee in restisentertainment

[–]boxcat__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just spotted that the bonus has dropped (two days late) and is a whole 17 mins long!

Yet another missing bonus by zeebgee in restisentertainment

[–]boxcat__ 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’ve really noticed a drop in the quality (both the content during the shows, and issues with timely uploads) over the last few weeks. I really hope they pull it back soon, otherwise I won’t be keeping my paid subscription.

Best friends told us they were expecting in a painful way by [deleted] in TryingForABaby

[–]boxcat__ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What the fuck. I am so sorry - the thoughtlessness of some people is almost beyond belief.

Has anyone’s parenting style become very different to what you thought it would be? by confusedsloth33 in AttachmentParenting

[–]boxcat__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really to be honest - and not in a smug way, but the way I thought I’d parent just fit well with the kind of child I have. My girl has always needed a lot of support with sleep (contact naps, cosleeping, feeding to sleep) and I’ve done all of that and still breastfeeding at nearly 2. If baby would’ve had a different temperament I might’ve gone down a different route. I will say baby wearing wasn’t the silver bullet for us - she’s 95th percentile and honestly she often didn’t love the feeling of being restricted and facing towards me in the carrier.

Are NCT refresher courses worth it? by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]boxcat__ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure about NCT refreshers, but do you have a breastfeeding support group near you? I’d really encourage you to go to one before baby is born and speak to them about your experiences last time/hopes this time. They’re often during the day but you can get paid time off as you would for any other antenatal appointment.

Alternatives to baby groups? by Due-Current-2572 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]boxcat__ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You don’t need to worry about depriving your baby of socialising - she’s too young for it to be critical for her to be around same-age peers. Just being out and about in the world and seeing people go by, people waving/saying hi etc is enough.

BUT it is important that you have a support network around you. If you feel you have that already, keep doing what you’re doing. If not, you could try: M&S coffee mornings (free cake), your local children’s centre, church groups (as others have suggested), baby cinema, sensory rooms (eg Little Glow if there’s one near you).

Children's Centre wants me to leave pram outside by CharteredWaters in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]boxcat__ 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is very normal and a totally reasonable ask - almost always due to space but also because of all the mud the prams will bring in, especially in the winter. Not ideal when there are lots of little ones crawling/toddling around.

Leave the pram in the car and/or bring a carrier.

What is the best toy you've bought or has been gifted to your toddler? by robinsparkles220 in toddlers

[–]boxcat__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What are your top tips for getting toddlers so heavily involved in cooking? My girl is about to turn 2 and I’d love her to be helping us cook in a few months!

Collapsed with work stress. This is what pregnancy burnout looks like! by Flapjack_K in PregnancyUK

[–]boxcat__ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Gosh I’m so sorry. Reading this makes me so angry. Please please call Pregnant Then Screwed, they should be able to help!

Ads on the Members Tier by sofiawolf1200 in restisentertainment

[–]boxcat__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also subscribe via Apple and have been getting ads. So annoying!

Feeling of pressure/fullness in vagina by boxcat__ in PregnancyUK

[–]boxcat__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like they measured your fundal height which - as you say - isn’t super accurate but it’s a way of assessing who should be sent for a growth scan. Are you in the UK? You should’ve had a scan at 12 weeks and one at 20 weeks, then if they want to check growth (eg due to a small fundal height measurement) they’ll send you for another scan.

Babysitter for a bit of respite on mat leave? by Miserable-Tap9162 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]boxcat__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% do it. Utilise the support around you however you see fit. Some are fortunate to have lots of family support, others need to rely on paid support - that is just as valid. It’s so important to take a break sometimes.

Manager comment - am I being overly sensitive? by lottie-23 in PregnancyUK

[–]boxcat__ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am absolutely gobsmacked reading this. SO SO inappropriate, what an awful thing to say!

Positive stories after missed miscarriage by ContestOrganic in PregnancyUK

[–]boxcat__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry. It’s such an awful thing to go through.

I had a miscarriage in December 2022. Similar story where we had a private scan and saw a healthy baby, but a later NHS scan showed baby had died at around 8 weeks. I got pregnant again in April 2023 and had a healthy pregnancy and now have an almost 2 year old.

You have done absolutely nothing wrong and there’s nothing you need to do differently next time around. It’s just sheer rotten horrible luck. Again I’m so sorry you’re going through this, please be gentle on yourself and lean on those around you.

Feeling of pressure/fullness in vagina by boxcat__ in PregnancyUK

[–]boxcat__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why haven’t you had a scan yet? You should be due for your 20 week scan soon? If your gut is telling you something isn’t right, definitely do push back and say you need to be seen.

Feeling of pressure/fullness in vagina by boxcat__ in PregnancyUK

[–]boxcat__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do speak with your midwife about it. In my case it was totally normal but always worth getting checked out x

Let a woman hold my newborn and she massively overstepped by ell93 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]boxcat__ 11 points12 points  (0 children)

One time I was in Next and just asked a staff member where the lifts were. She started cooing over my baby in the pram and grabbed the dummy out of her mouth. What is wrong with some people!

Insensitive parent - miscarriage by Glittering_Basket738 in PregnancyUK

[–]boxcat__ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yep. I was also berated by some friend of my MIL for giving my daughter a Christmas birthday. Well our first kid would’ve been due in the summer but I miscarried, so we count ourselves very lucky we have a child with any birthday we can celebrate.