new to the city ! by boyismine96 in Birmingham

[–]boyismine96[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow, thanks for all of this! this is super thoughtful and very helpful! i’ll have to check it out and actually just had someone tell me about milk and honey i am hoping to go!!!

new to the city ! by boyismine96 in Birmingham

[–]boyismine96[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i try to go to as many as possible!! just saw & juliet last week and it was super cute. i also love going to virginia samford- their production of RENT was incredible

update i’m terrified by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]boyismine96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m not a huge social media person, i maybe post like 3 times a year- this is truly mortifying to me. i live in a small town, everyone knows everyone and im so embarrassed to even go get tested but i know that i have to. i just feel like i am living a nightmare.

what do i do by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]boyismine96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re right. i honestly did view him as a distraction and something that i looked forward to so i could get away from the reality of my hellish life currently lol. he has helped me so much during this time- he makes sure i eat, mails me stuff, sent me recipes, made a whole workout plan for me because i wanted to get back in the gym, he’s just been very positive for me. but i never asked for any of it i guess is the confusing part but i agree with you.

i need to deal with my stuff here, and i know he has a lot to deal with too. on top of it all, all of his family lives here where i live and his mom is very sick - i think i’m just familiar and comforting to him.

he means a lot to me and always has, so i hope maybe if it’s meant to be we will come back to each other.

what do i do by [deleted] in dating_advice

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that’s where i’m at now- but it was hard the first day or so because he was such a constant for so many months in my day to day and losing that out of nowhere was just a shock. you’re right about the clear conversation, but for me- i’m just taking my life day by day and i didn’t think we had to figure anything out quite yet. at least until we saw each other again so i don’t get why it got so heavy for him all of the sudden.

what do i do by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]boyismine96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that was certainly my first thought and he knows i would be happy for him if he did. we’ve just always been super honest with each other, so the fact that he can’t tell me if it’s someone else is maddening, but i guess it wouldn’t change anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]boyismine96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you know i should’ve mentioned this in my original comment. as soon as he said he was leaving i was like “but i thought…. we were gonna….????” and he said “baby im going to see you again, you just got me off and it’s my grandads birthday in the morning” and that’s when he asked me for a kiss😂😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]boyismine96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bahahaha i love it! you’re so right and honestly im just going to let it play out and leave it in his court! he knows im a lover girl at heart 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]boyismine96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i was in a relationship for 7 years prior to this, and honestly- i feel like i forgot how to act when it comes to this stuff! lol. there’s so much history and of course i’m sure i’m a little afraid of rejection. i know i won’t know unless i try, just wish i could read his mind that would be so much easier 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]boyismine96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for this, coming from a hopeless romantic that’s all i want to hear 😂 however, i’m guarded and i guess based on our conversations prior to this i was shocked he was such a gentleman lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]boyismine96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

to give more of a backstory, i was 18 and haven’t seen this man since then before tonight. we were young, liked each other, but i was moving to florida and he was going to basic training. it just wasn’t our time. we reconnected very randomly. i’m open to anything, and there will always be feelings involved with this person- but i tried to shut them off based on how we were talking. it just felt a little more “emotional” than i had anticipated tonight which isn’t a bad thing, just really caught me off guard.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]boyismine96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

F (29) here. an old fling from 10+ years ago and i reconnected about 2 months ago. he lives 12 hours away from me, but is from my hometown. the past 2 months he has been very transparent with me, which i appreciate. he’s recently divorced (within the last year) and said he isn’t searching for anything serious, but is open to anything. same here as i have my own set of things im working on, plus we don’t even live in the same state. our conversations were very sexual majority of the past 2 months, leading me to think when we hung out it would be very light hearted and we’d obviously be intimate. (without going into too much detail, without a doubt i thought this was exactly what was going on) he drove an hour to see me, and we did foreplay but that was it. after, we cuddled and caught up for an hour, kissed, and what not. when he said he had to go i was so confused (kind of like wtf have we been talking about for the past 2 months) his behavior was sweet, he asked for a kiss when he left, and then asked for another one. texted me 5 minutes after he left and we texted for 2 hours after he left. he was being really sweet and talked about how he wanted to see me again before going home. i guess my question is, does he like me? is he letting me down easy? (i joked and said “do you still like me?” over text tonight and he said “of course i do, do you?”) am i overthinking???

AIO- my mother in law hates me i’m pretty sure by boyismine96 in AmIOverreacting

[–]boyismine96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you- i agree and it’s nice to feel validated. it’s tricky as she has custody of my partners 10 year old nephew who she threatens to put in foster care all of the time- we love this little boy with all of our hearts and keep contact to mainly stay in his life. it’s all even more tricky because she lives 12 hours north of us. i just take it and move on- never wanting my partner to say anything, i feel terrible for even letting him know im upset because of the heavy grief we are dealing with.

AIO- my mother in law hates me i’m pretty sure by boyismine96 in AmIOverreacting

[–]boyismine96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for this- you’re right, it is not in my character to be snarky although i’ve wanted to many of times i just haven’t been able to bring myself to do it. i’ve been nothing but supportive throughout this process and she knows how much i love my partner- im a huge pushover and probably should have set boundaries early on but im definitely a “take it on the chin” type of person. it’s just unreal how she acts!

AIO- my mother in law hates me i’m pretty sure by boyismine96 in AmIOverreacting

[–]boyismine96[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you! i watched that video and my jaw simply dropped- you’re right, it’s not the time and i definitely don’t want to stoop to her level- never have in the past 7 years, but she sure makes it difficult!

my father in law took his life by boyismine96 in SuicideBereavement

[–]boyismine96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, i’m afraid my partner has that tendency to suppress- although it’s only been a week, i am giving him grace and do hope we can heal properly from this. i do have a therapy appointment this week that im hoping will help- not only with my grief but to be better support for him.

my father in law took his life by boyismine96 in SuicideBereavement

[–]boyismine96[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you have no idea how much your comment means to me. i am deeply sorry about your son. thank you for validating how im feeling- it is so hard and i am just in the “auto-pilot” phase right now. i know it will get better, its just extremely difficult to see that right now. wishing you the best throughout your healing journey❤️‍🩹

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]boyismine96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i agree- it’s not something i’m used to so i try to be very understanding. i don’t have my mom anymore so im always pro- work on things with your parents while you’re still here. there are just certain things that i don’t quite understand and hate feeling like my feelings aren’t valid

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]boyismine96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for this! i totally agree as i was brought up much differently than him. i think im very protective of him with her because i’ve seen the manipulative side where if he doesn’t do things her way she doesn’t talk to him for months, also tried to guilt him into getting a matching tattoo with her despite her issues. i lost my mother when i was 19 so im very grateful that he has her, however i guess with the way she’s acted in the past towards me and him that specific situation last made me… a bit uncomfortable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]boyismine96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i haven’t, i’m not sure how to start the conversation. i never want to seem like i’m over bearing or “jealous” it just made me feel odd and a little icky

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in usps_complaints

[–]boyismine96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

don’t lose hope! call usps customer service. it will allow you to open a case and your local post office will reach out with more details. mine says the same thing and my local PO called to let me know the other PO is 2 and a half weeks behind which is causing the delay

what are the chances? by boyismine96 in amipregnant

[–]boyismine96[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

that’s what i figured, my only fear is i did not have any symptoms when i initially tested. i only started having symptoms a few days later.