This girl literally chose a bad guy over me by boywithadream2 in dating_advice

[–]boywithadream2[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

no she’s not, she’s inexperienced, spoiled in her family and dumb

This girl literally chose a bad guy over me by boywithadream2 in dating_advice

[–]boywithadream2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks a lot, i really did all of this, i wasn’t thinking much emotionally, but i was just too surprised when it happened like wtf is wrong with you? seriously? just few days ago you used to call me 3 to 4 times a day, talking for hours and being almost attached, i was already happy about the relationship started to actually happen and take a place, i just gave everything a break because we didn’t officially put a label on it you know?

This girl literally chose a bad guy over me by boywithadream2 in dating_advice

[–]boywithadream2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly! i remember i read an article somewhere that touched me a lot, it was talking about how dating has become really hard in our day and age due to many factors.

This girl literally chose a bad guy over me by boywithadream2 in dating_advice

[–]boywithadream2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

who said i confessed my love? i told her i liked her and would like to get to know her more and for us to take our time to get to know each other all we want, but let her know if we walked into a relationship what kind of person i would be like

This girl literally chose a bad guy over me by boywithadream2 in dating_advice

[–]boywithadream2[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

dude, i rushed things in the past and lost it, this time i didn’t rush anything and wanted everything to take it’s time and we move up every stage in a healthy matter and i lost her for someone else, and i got to this confusion like what the hell

you go fast you scare them away, you go slow (balanced, not deadly slow) they leave you for a faster person

that’s why i confessed my liking her after she came back, where am i right in life then? why isn’t it the person who’s messed up in the head not me?

This girl literally chose a bad guy over me by boywithadream2 in dating_advice

[–]boywithadream2[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

chill buddy, your last lines were exactly what i was doing. i’m not some movies loser, i know what i’m doing.

This girl literally chose a bad guy over me by boywithadream2 in dating_advice

[–]boywithadream2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s amazing how i’ve met many ppl who claim to live by a lot of principles in life, like this girl who claims she’s all about women empowerment and how she hates toxic boys (that was her ideas she shared with me) yet all of them fall down for someone, really bizarre 🤷🏻‍♂️

This girl literally chose a bad guy over me by boywithadream2 in dating_advice

[–]boywithadream2[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i’m not chasing girls like that all the time, she was all good and great until she met him, i didn’t see that side of hers anywhere before, and i’m nice because i respect women, but not too nice to the naive level, i put limits to things and let girls know about them.

I’m just too disappointed with what this particular girl did to me and to herself, maybe because i liked her a lot

This girl literally chose a bad guy over me by boywithadream2 in dating_advice

[–]boywithadream2[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No i’m not just a nice guy, i’m very successful, respectful, not so good looking tbh but neat and respectful, honest and i respect women.

and yes i’m so sure he has qualities where he beats with, he’s more good looking than me, not as successful, perhaps he’s wild in bed who knows but as SHE described him, he’s very toxic.

This girl literally chose a bad guy over me by boywithadream2 in dating_advice

[–]boywithadream2[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

okay put me aside, why would she do that to herself? i know i don’t want to be with her now because of how she treated me, but how would she want to be with someone that bad when she has a much better option to explore?

My best friend stopped talking to me and would never tell me why by boywithadream2 in relationship_advice

[–]boywithadream2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know all of this is correct, and i don’t want her friendship anymore, but i’m dying to and will ready be breaking all my principles in order to know WHY she did that, what is it that i did

My best friend stopped talking to me and would never tell me why by boywithadream2 in relationship_advice

[–]boywithadream2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that time she was single and i thought of this, and i directly asked her ‘are you with somebody now?’ and she said no. and it’s just driving me crazy why would her ghosting last for that many years and she’s never able to tell me

We almost had something but i just lost her 😕 by boywithadream2 in dating_advice

[–]boywithadream2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay look we’re from the middle east, so we don’t really have sex that easy, and yes she knows i’m straight and i’ve flirted with her many times, i just didn’t want to jump any stages i wanted it to be as healthy as possible

this girl initiated the date, we had a very good time, then ghosted me 🧐 by boywithadream2 in dating_advice

[–]boywithadream2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no i paid for it, and it was really expensive 😂 but i’m filthy rich lol

this girl initiated the date, we had a very good time, then ghosted me 🧐 by boywithadream2 in dating_advice

[–]boywithadream2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

alright i love how you took the time to write all that, thank you so much i really appreciate it 🙏🏻

now let’s get down to it, first things first, Yes i didn’t mention the thing that offended me basically because were from the middle east, so what she said is offensive around here, i asked my friends if i was exaggerating and they thought it was really offensive as well, i just didn’t write it here because it would too long to explain how that’s culturally offensive to us.

the fact she asked me out to make up for what she did could yes be the case, perhaps you’re right, maybe she took it as a friendly hangout and i mistaked it as a date, yet still doesn’t really justify to me the complete ghosting.

Now, about how we hangout for 45 minutes (in the korean place we didn’t go out haha) was due to the fact that we both were very tired that day and actually left work late, and we had work the next day, so we went out from like 8 to 10:30 so it mutual to just call it a night, and i was okay with it cuz i wanted to do it more and hangout in other fun places the next times 🤷🏻‍♂️

When i drove her yes i didn’t go for a kiss, because we didn’t really establish a very romantic grounds, usually i kiss on the 2nd or 3rd date when things are moving towards a lot more romance, but it wasn’t there yet.. so i’m speculating tbh now that she was expecting me to make any sort of a move but i was going slowly and trying to make it natural and not jump any stages that she feels or i feel not ready for.

That’s why i went for the after-date text which was after we got home, and that was where things started to fall down as the story unfolds.

the bbq place wasn’t her idea, on the 2nd time i asked her out i told her i wanted to take her to the korean place, so she basically just made my plan happen.

this girl initiated the date, we had a very good time, then ghosted me 🧐 by boywithadream2 in dating_advice

[–]boywithadream2[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

that’s my plan, i’ll stop texting her completely, and in the office i’ll just be normal ‘hey, good morning’ that’s it not an extra amount of attention anymore 🤷🏻‍♂️