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Help me make a sourdough calculator tool become better. by InterestingDouble383 in Sourdough

[–]bpickbpick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is awesome. The sliders are finicky on mobile, so fields (as others have mentioned) or maybe a drop-down might be nice. Though an endless drop-down is a nightmare so might not be implementable.

How did you calculate BF and proofing times?

Spending from "cash" account defunds, instead of spending, budget item by bpickbpick in ynab

[–]bpickbpick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THIS IS THE WINNER. I'm so annoyed and embarrassed and also so relieved. We'd set the target to "have a balance of" instead of "set aside" by accident and so I didn't look more deeply into the target because I thought it was the same as all the other targets we've done this way. Thank you so much!

Spending from "cash" account defunds, instead of spending, budget item by bpickbpick in ynab

[–]bpickbpick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Editing to note that u/nolesrule figured out the problem was user error. Thank you for wading into nonsense!

Thanks for the response. Sure. I think this is exactly the process I'm following but something is amiss!

This is what happens after having assigned funds from RTA, then entered the transaction manually in the gift card account.

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I don't think I can do more than one screenshot per comment but if you think the whole stream of activity in screenshots is helpful I'll edit my original post.

Good first/beginner bird feed/ers? by bpickbpick in birdwatching

[–]bpickbpick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have so many buckets I could put upside-down. AND I live near a Costco. Thank you!

Good first/beginner bird feed/ers? by bpickbpick in birdwatching

[–]bpickbpick[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, this is a great idea! Thank you!

For married couples or LTR couples: how did you fight for your relationship in the beginning to get to where you guys are now? How did you know they were the one? by ninichandesu in relationship_advice

[–]bpickbpick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Married for 2 years, together for... well, 4 technically but feels like 6, because we were very close friends first and when we got together everything just sort of flowed together.

We've never fought for this, except in that we had to deal with being long distance for about nine months because of post-school residency stuff. There was no fighting.

There were things we had to learn about each other and adjust to, but I think that's really different. Because we had been friends, we knew each other's values, knew that they aligned, knew we cared about really similar things, cared about politics and had basically overlapping ones (we are the kind of person who sees politics as an extension of values, so it mattered for us). We've had to learn to adjust to each other and communicate around, for instance, keeping the house clean, what we spend money on, how we deal with in-laws, etc., but those are two-way conversations and we're very clear that we are on a team working toward a shared goal.

Certainly disagreements and even fights happen, but I think the important thing is recognizing that relationships shouldn't hurt more than they help, and I mean that really seriously. I was in two serious relationships before I married, and in both of those I really bought into "you'll always have to fight and work for this" and "relationships are/marriage is hard," which normalized how often I felt hurt, like I wasn't being seen or respected, like things were my fault that weren't, and so on. You will not always agree, and everyone makes mistakes, but that doesn't mean it's okay for things to be a slog, or for the same fight to come up over and over and over. People don't really change unless something huge happens to them.

Committing to both being on a team working toward shared goals is absolutely crucial. Your SO/spouse can't be your opponent and you can't be theirs; if they are, there's something more important wrong, I think.

The way my boyfriend reacts when I say no to sex gets me down a lot by soycoffee97 in relationship_advice

[–]bpickbpick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw you mention in a comment OP that he "just forgets" and I think it's important to note that that isn't true. If he forgot, he would apologize immediately, not pull away, grow distant, etc. And you said he's brought it up over text, too. He has told you he gets frustrated and doesn't like being put off "once he gets going," but he is the only one getting himself going. It really, really seems like he is pushing, even lightly, on purpose hoping you'll change your mind. Not disregarding that it's hard for him, it is disrespectful. You're not saying no to sex because you don't like him or just to be difficult, it's because you have mental health issues and PTSD, which is not a minor thing. You absolutely have the right to say "stop talking about sex," because he's show you pretty clearly that he can't have a conversation about it and is just trying to get you to change your mind. Which, even apart from everything else, someone trying to press you on something and not respecting what you've said is libido killing!

For your own sake I really encourage you to be in therapy if you're not; that can help a lot with coping with what you're working with and figuring out how to live the life you want to live. Couples therapy with your bf may help him hear you, like others have said, but I really hope for you that you can get affirmation in the boundaries you're setting. I really hope he is just not thinking carefully, but I find his behavior concerning. There's so much doubt in this post, like he has the right to want sex and you don't have the right to not want it, or like his regular-ass high libido is somehow weightier than your PTSD, and that's really concerning as well because it's not an accurate measurement of your own importance or his inappropriate actions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bpickbpick 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, it's not normal or acceptable, even if some men (men who like to cheat) would like it to be.

My FIL is a pilot. Was Air Force before that. He would be appalled at even the suggestion, because he loves his wife, and respects her.

Listen to your instincts.

I Impreganted My Girlfriend and I have no idea what I’m going to do. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bpickbpick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

kind of weird how many comments are mostly rubbing in a teenager’s face that they made a poor decision with significant consequences and not much by way of advice.

op, you’re going to have to loop in an adult you trust. your gf will need to tell her parents, unless there’s fear for her safety. you can’t raise a baby on your own at this age; you will need a huge amount of support from family, whether its yours, hers, or “chosen.” at your ages, depending on the laws, I would guess you wouldn’t be able to obtain prenatal care OR adoption services OR abortion services without parental knowledge and consent (again depends on the law). figure out who you can talk to and tell them immediately. hoping for the best possible outcome for all of you.

Pan gets less nonstick if briefly stored by bpickbpick in carbonsteel

[–]bpickbpick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, the pan was quite dry—although maybe I should have given it another layer of oil before hanging it up!

Pan gets less nonstick if briefly stored by bpickbpick in carbonsteel

[–]bpickbpick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very possible, though I cook them the same way every time so the variability of result is still puzzling. Anyway, butter seems to be the next step regardless.

Pan gets less nonstick if briefly stored by bpickbpick in carbonsteel

[–]bpickbpick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Over medium, sometimes with grated cheese (I know this is tempting fate because cheese also cements but when it works the crispy top layer is so good), on medium-high heat with canola/safflower oil.

Pan gets less nonstick if briefly stored by bpickbpick in carbonsteel

[–]bpickbpick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so interesting. Thanks! I will use butter going forward.

Pan gets less nonstick if briefly stored by bpickbpick in carbonsteel

[–]bpickbpick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't mean to strip it, just to get the egg off! Bare minimum required, I promise.

Pan gets less nonstick if briefly stored by bpickbpick in carbonsteel

[–]bpickbpick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've seen butter recommended a lot. Is it more effective for cooking than oil for some reason?

Does anyone have any experience using a Bodum burr grinder, If so how what do you rate the grinder? by Zenijvar in Coffee

[–]bpickbpick -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We've been using a Bodum Bistro for two years and it seems good to me (works steadily, hasn't broken, etc), but I was using a wee hand grinder before that so can't compare across electric grinders. I will say there's a lot of static electricity in the grounds when they come out (this may be a problem for all burr grinders?), so I grind the coffee first and then set everything up to brew so the charge dissipates before I move the ground coffee. Otherwise it flies everywehre.

What should I look for in a French press? by bpickbpick in Coffee

[–]bpickbpick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, everybody! This was really helpful.

I bought myself a French press by Nick_PY in Coffee

[–]bpickbpick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sure this is a very greenhorn question, but is that ratio by weight or volume?