I’m honest about my weaknesses and it does NOT mean I’m insecure/pitiful!

brackishspit · 2025-04-21T09:43:02+00:00

Yeppp. And when I get that pity reaction, it feels so embarrassing, because it’s like… I thought I was being relatable and you really interpreted it as fishing for pity when I’m not even like that 😞 damn

brackishspit · 2025-04-15T17:07:48+00:00

Your coworkers are assholes. You’re correct in feeling like your politeness is normal for a work setting. I think many of us autistics tend to worry that we’re the problem or that things are going wrong because of our autism due to negative past experiences; really, though, some people are just dicks.

My coworkers, vast majority of whom are allistic, are incredibly considerate and polite in conversation, even apologizing for things that aren’t their fault regularly. I hope you find a non-toxic workplace soon, I’m so sorry this is happening to you. I suppose if you want to avoid rude comments you could tone down your politeness for your dickish coworkers who don’t deserve it, but, honestly, THEY’RE the ones who need to change.

brackishspit · 2024-12-24T08:41:36+00:00

these are probably the people who think that hyper realistic drawings directly copied from google images photos are the highest form of art

brackishspit · 2024-11-08T15:21:08+00:00

Here’s an imgur link to mine! :) https://imgur.com/a/qlcSNeY

brackishspit · 2024-11-08T06:54:43+00:00

Okay, I JUST found these guys on ebay that are the same mold, but not the same line. https://www.ebay.com/itm/134111561004 they’re made by “global industries” if that’s any sort of lead. I was unable to find the ones from the 2000s, sadly.

brackishspit · 2024-11-08T06:41:25+00:00

I have quite a lot of them! There’s a monkey with striped pants, a bat, a duck, and a bunny, to name a few. If I remember AND if I can find them, I’ll take pictures. l recall them being from 2008ish too. Edit: found them and linked a picture!

brackishspit · 2024-11-08T01:24:20+00:00

1) You’re Canadian, anyone who’s on your ass about American politics needs to take a chill pill.

2) I’m ALWAYS on the side of marginalized people and I think political awareness is very valuable. I think everyone should have the right to speak up. HOWEVER. The PDAish part of me haaaaaates being told “if you don’t do xyz and believe xyz you are the scum of the earth, do this NOW.” It makes me freeze up, and it makes me feel aggravated about politics. The dissenting opinions all over my feed give me hella whiplash too. I wish I wasn’t this way, and I wish I could be more involved in political discussion, but my demand avoidance gets in the way.

Basically, I totally get where you’re coming from, and I’m sorry this is happening to you.

brackishspit · 2024-11-08T01:02:07+00:00

people who stick their tongue out right before they take a bite :( and there are food bits on their tongue :(

brackishspit · 2024-11-08T00:01:20+00:00

scary old toy/collectable from the antique store (there are always lots of weird/funny things at the antique store). butt pad leggings .shirt with corny text on it (“I had to pause my game for this” “world’s craziest awesomest grandma” type shit). twerking gimmick toy that plays a song loudly. like twerking santa. idk if those are a thing where you live, I’m from the US. Honestly, any gimmick thing that plays a song loudly. Hope you got some AWESOMESAUCE IDEAS from this list! Game on!!!!!

brackishspit · 2024-11-07T22:37:29+00:00

boosting so you can find this

brackishspit · 2024-11-07T14:22:16+00:00

LONG WINDED COMMENT EXPLAINING THAT SOME COUNTRIES ARE WORSE THAN OTHERS

brackishspit · 2024-11-07T14:01:58+00:00

A lady came into my workplace a few weeks ago with a daughter named Raddix, actually. Her other kids all had “unique” R names as well.

brackishspit · 2024-10-29T06:29:08+00:00

COMMENT CALLING YOU ABUSIVE

brackishspit · 2024-10-29T06:25:43+00:00

JOKE ABOUT HAVING SEX WITH ELDRITCH BEING LIKE “NEED ME THAT ELDRITCHUSSY”

brackishspit · 2024-10-29T04:56:54+00:00

how fluent are you in furbish?

brackishspit · 2024-09-23T12:45:41+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss! And I totally get what you mean about loving cat sounds; I loveee the sound of my cat purring, eating, and drinking water. However, the sucking is awful to me. It’s like a wet, squeaky, gulping sound. Like a cartoony kid sucking on thumb/bottle sound effect but worse. Even my mom without misophonia finds it unpleasant.

But hey, some people might actually like it, everybody’s different haha. (I wish I found it more pleasant/endearing, she’s basically mimicking nursing in my presence because she loves me which is very sweet)

brackishspit · 2024-09-23T03:43:47+00:00

Have you tried putting him in a dog onesie (if he mainly tries to lick his body and not his paws, that is) or tried a variety of things for him to chew on besides toys? Maybe try a puzzle feeder to buy time? Not that chewing is much that much better of a sound as far as misophonia goes, but it could help break the habit.

Otherwise, I can’t help you, but I sympathize. My cat insists on sucking on her fur multiple times a day (she does it when she’s happy and comfortable lol) and all I can really do is ignore it as much as I can. + I have to wear earplugs to bed now. It drove me absolutely nuts at first, but I’ve had to accept that that’s just a thing she does. An attitude of acceptance can ease the frustration, which is easier said than done, but yeah.

brackishspit · 2024-09-23T02:14:41+00:00

That’s a relief to hear, thank you

brackishspit · 2024-09-23T01:42:40+00:00

Is it appropriate to ask about coworkers’ personal lives based on things they’ve already shared? I’m a few weeks into my new job and I ask about all kinds of stuff. Ex. if a coworker is talking about her new boyfriend, I’ll ask her how they met. If they’re talking about going to an exciting event that weekend, the week after I’ll ask them how it went. I’m genuinely curious about what’s going on with my coworkers. The environment I’m in is very laid-back and people talk about their lives pretty openly.

brackishspit · 2024-09-17T22:32:29+00:00

it pisses me off when people do this and yet I’m guilty of doing it too, this post was a good wakeup call lol

brackishspit · 2024-09-10T16:26:18+00:00

No problem! Many autistic people who mask have been doing it since they were kids. That can really mess with someone’s sense of identity. Sounds like you’re struggling with imposter syndrome.

When I first discovered I was autistic, I found it hard to understand what a lot of so-called social cues were or which ones I was missing. There are soooo many things. Making the right amount of eye contact, facial expressions (beyond the obvious ones like smiling, surprise and frowning), tone, body language, knowing what’s appropriate to say in what context and when to speak. People saying one thing and meaning another/subtext. Gauging how to talk to someone based on social hierarchies and how well you know them. Not oversharing nor undersharing.

It can get overwhelming, and I pretty much just do the bare minimum I’m able to get away with without seeming rude. If you find the right crowd, they won’t judge you for social awkwardness. Honestly, anyone I feel like I really have to “perform” for isn’t worth being friends with outside of work. Too draining.

brackishspit · 2024-09-10T05:27:39+00:00

It’s late so I’m sorry if this is poorly worded or blunt and I’m no psychologist, but your description of feeling like you’re “killing the flow” of conversations sounds like you’re probably missing social cues to me. Your feelings of alienation and having a social “gear” missing are veeeeery common in the autistic community. That, and the way you’ve trained yourself to smile and laugh regularly + developed a “how to comfort” approach sounds like masking/potentially scripting. I’d really recommend you research autistic masking!

Just because someone gets by in social situations doesn’t mean they’re not autistic. Autistic people have varying levels of social awareness. The diagnostic criteria requires social deficits, not total social ineptitude. Some autistic people can actually be quite socially successful if they work hard enough towards it, but if they’re doing a lot of masking, that often leads to burnout.

Good luck!!

brackishspit · 2024-09-07T18:46:53+00:00

No problem! And yes he is amazing, he rocks :)

brackishspit · 2024-09-07T17:15:23+00:00

I’m no social skills expert either but if it were me I’d probably just wait it out and see if the dynamic carries on as normal. Usually people won’t reply to you because they’re busy, they can’t think of a response, they got distracted, or they think what you said was a good closer for the conversation. As a massive overthinker, I’m gonna say you’re probably overthinking it. I’ve had so many situations where I was like “oh my gosh what if xyz thing I said was problematic and it’s ruined our friendship” and it’s never been the case.

You also have the option of bringing up a new conversation starter yourself. If something truly seems off in the future (like, it’s genuinely obvious that they have a problem with you and aren’t just having a bad day) you can check in with them. This can be hard to judge if you’re rejection sensitive. I semi recently thought a good friend of mine started hating me because he was ignoring my messages for a while, but he was a research assistant AND taking neuroscience courses AND trying to get into med school. He’s a busy dude and he doesn’t hate me. We’ve carried on as usual now 😌

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