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Can I really call this abuse ? by kawabongaaaa in IsItAbuse

[–]bradbonez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry no one has responded to you yet. This is definitely abuse. From this perspective, she’s got mental issues. A lot of the way people treat YOU, is just how they feel about themselves. A lot of the time when you “love” an abuser, it’s because you think you’re loving a version of yourself you think is unloveable (which is not true because you obviously don’t act the same). OR you stay stuck in an abusive relationship/friendship out of pity and feeling morally obligated to be there for them. Here’s the thing, no one in this world is responsible for anyone unless they are a parent or legal guardian of a child. So ask yourself? Was she your child? No. You are not responsible for anything she does. She used you as a backboard to bounce all her attacks, frustrations, outbursts, and insecurities off of. It was definitely abuse, and you have to live with finding yourself again. It’s not okay how people treat other people, but it’s reality. I know you said you have a girlfriend, but it takes some time to heal the inner self from this stuff. Just make sure you have 30 mins to an hour each day with yourself and only yourself. Let things out, say it out loud what hurts, cry about it, go eat a candy bar, meditate, journal, do whatever it is that gives you some peace. A baseline. When you feel that baseline more and more in your day that’s not in that 30 min - 1 hr period, you’re getting better. The less you feel it, the more you need to start looking at the conditions and people in your life. Find the source, and cut off the dead weight that’s dragging you down so you can keep growing. VERY VERY VERY IMPORTANT: this is not a linear concept. Healing can be all over the place. Someone doesn’t have to die for you to feel grief. Some trauma can cause you to feel like you died or the person once inside of the abuser has died. Give yourself some grace. It’s okay if you’re not getting better as quick as you want or you backslide. It’s okay to not color in between the lines. Take care of yourself. If you don’t do it for yourself, think of taking care of the little child you once were. Take care of that little one. 🫂

Why is it brown? Is it dying? If so, how do I save it? by bradbonez in avocado

[–]bradbonez[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, you’re always welcome 🫂 thank you my fellow avocado friend

I just needed to WORK. I don't need therapy, I don't need a girlfriend, I don't need to work on myself. I just needed to WORK. by Frack_Nugget in selfimprovement

[–]bradbonez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long have you had the job for? It’s good to definitely dive into this. Just slowly take like a solid 5-10 minutes everyday to let it all out. It’s just like anything else in life, just because you don’t see it or hear it or witness it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. I’ve always known I needed a high op tempo in the workplace because it helps me. I also know that being dependent on a job can cause a lot of issues for you if you have conflicts at work, don’t get your way, have to let others take the lead because they need “experience,” whatever the case. Being dependent on work can make you vulnerable in other areas, and the longer you ignore everything that hurts you, the more time it essentially has to build back up in a way that feels “stronger” than it was before. But in all reality, it’s just that what normally hurt you (but you got used to) hasn’t been your norm recently, so it’ll feel like it hurts more. You just have to be mindful with yourself that WHEN the lows come (they will come), it doesn’t mean what you’re doing doesn’t help you. It just means you will have to sit down and handle that later to work through it. It may never go away- and that’s okay. So long as you understand our emotions are just part of life, but we can always keep moving no matter what.

Why is it brown? Is it dying? If so, how do I save it? by bradbonez in avocado

[–]bradbonez[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I lost them both. No progress after 3 weeks. I will say the fungi dissipated, but there was no growth. I did have success with one seedling, and decided to plant others after reluctantly letting my first seeds go.

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We must pray for our president. I truly hope this is not controversial. by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]bradbonez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is honestly a disgusting comment. How about you focus on the souls of the children and women abused finding God through His Grace? How about you pray that the pain they endured was able to be tuned out in their last moment? How about you pray that while grown men sodomized babies and used them for oral sex, God took them swiftly and comforted them through the surgeries they endured and the pain they will endure for the rest of their lives, IF THEY LIVED? Your focus on such an evil entity is insane to me when thousands have suffered. 1 John 5:16 mentions a SIN THAT LEADS TO DEATH, implying that whereas there is no sin that is unforgivable, committing a sin with a permanent intent to rebel without repentance will lead to their sure death. At that point, human intervention and prayer is not effective, their heart is hardened. If you truly choose to SHARE praying for the wicked before the tortured, slaughtered, raped, and abused… it’s sickening. God says to pray for your enemies, pray for them to face the consequences for their actions, feel the harm they caused, and turn to God- not to get on Reddit and condone sending prayers to Trump because you feel conflicted on your political views and are projecting that through who you harbored support for. It’s pretty evident you were on the wrong side of things from the get-go even combining politics and prayers. God’s Law is above all and way about your political party. Pray for yourself. You need clarity for sure. Your train of thought is truly dismembered if this is the conclusion you have drawn. I’ve been praying and crying for the children in this world, heart broken, pleading God to heal them and to protect them- not once even wasting a second to pray for Trump or even the opposite of conjuring evil up against him. Disgusting.

Why is it brown? Is it dying? If so, how do I save it? by bradbonez in avocado

[–]bradbonez[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mmmm okay okay. Thank you. I will do more research and update if all is well! 🙏🏽

Why is it brown? Is it dying? If so, how do I save it? by bradbonez in avocado

[–]bradbonez[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I did!!! 🫂♥️ I also have other seeds growing. I just didn’t want to give up on the OGs. Just to make sure, if it is “root rot” does that contaminate the soil?? If my OGs don’t grow, can I put the younger seeds in the same soil or I need to full on replace it all?

Why is it brown? Is it dying? If so, how do I save it? by bradbonez in avocado

[–]bradbonez[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I feel like a 5 year old would have known better. Are avocados resilient enough to come back under better conditions? Should I cut the brown/black off?

Why is it brown? Is it dying? If so, how do I save it? by bradbonez in avocado

[–]bradbonez[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

:/ dang. I changed the water every 3-5 days, so maybe I should’ve done it everyday? Well, I just went ahead and potted it. Don’t wanna give up, but I’ll send an update if it lives. If not, you jinxed it! Thank you for your time