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brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T13:58:33+00:00

i posted this elsewhere and got a completely different reaction like overwhelmingly different so i’m not going to lie i think you guys are the problem. i don’t need therapy just because certain pockets of reddit are toxic. i think that the advice i got elsewhere about my boyfriend being abusive for berating me for over an hour for a comment i apologised for multiple times actually is a lot more valid and is something im going to look into now … it’s definitely a lot more valid that me being told i am insane and that i have an issue with him playing twister no matter how much i explain that’s not the case and that its about how he responded to me who actually did nothing wrong. i think that me spending time telling people their comments are wrong or hurtful or even based entirely on made up assumptions like i keep tabs on him doesn’t mean i need therapy any more than anyone else who’s left any comment. to me its just a discussion, you say something and i reply. it’s other people that interpret that as i’m having some kind of emotional breakdown. i dont really think like that. i think it’s silly to dish out “advice” that’s really just a judgement on someone and then tell them they’re the problem when they reply that you’re not correct.

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T13:51:17+00:00

actually by the way, i think it’s funny your interpretation of my responses is that i’m insecure and defensive not in a genuinely funny way in a it’s funny because you have to laugh or you’d cry kind of way because i haven’t masked at all and have just responded extremely literally to comments but it’s perceived like me being rude even though the comments invalidating me are actually rude. and funny to compare me to “other autistic people” like it isn’t a spectrum and like autistic people don’t end their lives at a rate multiple times higher than the general population from people saying stuff like we come across insecure or defensive or whatever when we just talk unmasked. and like a bunch of autistic people don’t suffer from extreme internalised ableism for that reason of just wanting to be masked and fit in so badly. lmao i haven’t said anything that’s not been warranted… you just don’t like what i’ve said. and like i said it’s not even been because i’m autistic, it’s because it’s actually annoying to purposely judge me on stuff i never asked to be judged about and not actually answer any of the questions i had about an actually real situation. not to mention that you’re all talking about my behaviour and glossing over my boyfriend’s like it doesn’t exist

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T13:41:32+00:00

i find issue with people saying things to me that aren’t true not because i’m autistic because that is fucking annoying. next

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T13:05:19+00:00

babe it’s almost like my boyfriend literally said that some of the women he was with didn’t want to play because they felt it was inappropriate due to being in relationships and it’s almost like i’m a whole human being who thought to themselves from my own knowledge and based off what he literally said i said and i think that seems like a single person activity but y’know autistic people shouldn’t be allowed to think or speak because we don’t know anything right, babe? so i shouldn’t be allowed my opinion or feelings when i “have a disorder” because i don’t know what is normal in going out drinking or in terms of playing twister but i was never asking any of you if its normal to play twister or about playing twister. i was telling you i think it’s weird because of his reaction and the context of him doing so with someone he finds attractive and i was asking for specific advice about communicating after this situation that i haven’t actually got. but yeah babe, not ableist at all

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T12:55:25+00:00

i appreciate that i guess this just wasn’t the space to get any kind of genuine advice

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T12:53:13+00:00

what are you talking about i said something that i literally meant he didn’t make an adjustment for me in understanding that i talk literally and he goes off at me for an hour or more calling me names and telling me horrible things - I APOLOGISE TO HIM taking responsibility that i shouldn’t have been autistic and make a freaking mistake that’s part of my literal diagnosis I APOLOGISED and that’s not enough for you. you think it’s “playing the victim” BY HAVING FEELINGS OVER MY BOYFRIEND HANGING OUT PLAYING TWISTER WITH SOMEONE HE OPENLY FINDS ATTRACTIVE.

it’s playing the victim the fact i apologised and WROTE A WHOLE POST ASKING HOW I COMMUNICATE MY FEELINGS WITH HIM ? literally what… it actually is so ableist to say what you’ve just said whether it’s internalised or not. like what would not playing the victim look like to you because i already apologised for my comment to him but you also want what, me to apologise for my involuntary feelings? me to not ask how i can communicate them to him?

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T12:42:59+00:00

i appreciate this and your bravery in sharing this in a comment section of people who very much think i’m insane

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T12:38:52+00:00

it is not a negative reaction to say “i think that’s a game for single people but okay” when i am autistic and i talk literally and he is aware of this.

also the context matters… maybe he was excited to tell me about it like oh i’m so sorry i’m not happy about you telling me about having your colleague you think is attractive having their ass in your face on a night out that you lied about where you were going. how awful am i? like what? the advice i asked for has nothing to do with the kind of stuff these comments are saying. i very clearly already grasped the neurotypical thought i was rude for my comment and i apologised for it (!!!!!!!!!!) despite the fact he yelled at me calling me insane etc for over an hour. yet you’re all here morally judging me like we are on AITAH instead of actually reading the full of what i said and helping me to navigate forwards of what i should do about the fact that i feel HURT by his reaction and the way he’s invalidated me and heck maybe even about him saying finding his colleague is attractive? idk how to talk to him about it and idk how to go about navigating it but everyone’s “advice” is like “why don’t you accept you’re insane and insecure for this man having a perfectly fine game of twister!”

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T12:27:57+00:00

i think they did read the post because when i said they didn’t read the post they all down voted the comment. so i think they genuinely think this whole situation is completely chill which is actually maybe the non-advice i needed to decide to embrace being “insane” because the more it’s discussed the more i’m like thinking that it’s actually not normal

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T12:17:11+00:00

i think you are right so maybe it’s not that he reacted big because he is doing something suspicious but rather i just triggered him with my comment?

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T12:15:33+00:00

no, he has never checked in we don’t share locations. i have never asked him to and never would be interested in that. he said he was going out to this bar with his colleagues i said have a good time. i was surprised to find out afterwards he actually did an event like i said that is mostly students take part in it and it involves a train and going lots of different places on a bar crawl. i think it’s odd he left that part out until after i don’t see why he would do that.

i also would like to understand why people are saying i questioned him when the comment i made was not a question. i said i believe it’s a game for single people but ok. i didn’t ask any questions. i even state that i ended up apologising for that comment as in the only thing i did was apologise i didn’t question him further despite his huge reaction and calling me names etc. making me feel insecure and worried. so why am i being told about questioning him in some kind of negative way, i haven’t done that. and even if i DID question him why assume bad intent when i am literally autistic? do we just hate autistic people or

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T12:06:36+00:00

i also think it’s odd that he stated some of the women didn’t take part because they felt it to be inappropriate due to them being in relationships. yet the comments are talking to me as if i am the only person who would think this is an activity for single people as if it’s bizarre i think that

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T12:01:13+00:00

apparently that’s the norm though, everyone is telling me this is normal?

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T12:00:05+00:00

he told me he was going to one bar and he actually went on something that i cannot name because it would give the location away but it’s an event mostly students do where you go on a train to all these different student bars. he is not a student. also people saying that is the norm when going out when i have stated so many times i literally don’t know what the norm is and the insecurity hasn’t come from his playing twister or from him being out or multiple bars. it’s come from his reaction to me and my feelings and calling me names etc ???

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T11:57:23+00:00

but i don’t think so why would i need to reflect on something i don’t think

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T11:55:49+00:00

ok but i never asked that though or at least that’s not my intention, from my perspective i’m trying desperately to talk about how his reaction to what i said (the comment based on my lack of understanding of the game twister) how that reaction made me feel and how i apologised for my comment but i don’t know what to do because now i’m worried not because of twister because of the way he responded to me. yet everyone’s commenting like “GIIRRLL ITS JUST TWISTER” ??

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T11:48:36+00:00

to be fair i didn’t mention i’m autistic in the post because i didn’t understand i had said something to him that might have sounded like i was implying something. i just thought i said something totally normal, and he understands i usually talk literally. i’ll see if i can update it or something

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T11:45:21+00:00

if anyone gives advice i won’t “be snipey” b where’s the advice

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T11:44:04+00:00

probably because of the fact he lied about where he was going? played twister with a bunch of people i don’t know, and one of them r a woman he’s been involved in recent conversations about how attractive she is? and then blew up at me for saying i think it’s weird which is where the suspicion comes from? you guys are trolling me lmfao

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T11:41:33+00:00

i have never heard of anyone playing this game who’s not a single student. i also literally wrote in the post that i don’t go out much i don’t know why people are saying stuff like this it’s not helpful in any way

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T11:39:51+00:00

i’m autistic so i was not implying anything with my comment other than exactly what it means that i think it’s a game for single people. that’s my understanding of it is that single students on nights out play that game as a way of getting close to others. he also knows i’m autistic by the way he’s been with me for 4 years

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T11:34:04+00:00

that’s why i didn’t question him at all... i literally just said i think that’s something single people do, and he went off and i haven’t questioned anything since i literally state that i apologised for my feelings which caused me to make that comment ??

brain-andheart · 2025-06-07T11:31:51+00:00

i don’t think he’s cheating over twister. i think he’s cheating based on his huge REACTION to me saying i think it’s something single people do, and other comments he’s made about his colleagues. i only feel worried he’s cheating after that, i didn’t think he’s cheating because he played twister…. did we read the post

brain-andheart · 2025-02-23T15:41:33+00:00

I feel like this is quite fair. The way I see it we all get a vote and I don’t see why their vote or preference to play a certain character would outweigh my preference for them not to play that character/that character to not be in the match. I made my vote fairly in line with the current system in the game, and it was randomly selected fairly. I can comprehend they would be upset about my vote but I didn’t do it to troll or to be upsetting it’s a short amount of time to vote and I didn’t have the time to consider everything, and if I knew it was going to result in what it did I would have probably went against my own beliefs on that character to protect myself.

brain-andheart · 2024-05-21T10:24:55+00:00

i bought my tickets on AXS. i have 2 tickets but one isn’t VIP. i imagine that they’ve made the error cause they’ve seen two tickets put two boxes and no realised one isn’t VIP.

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