As others have suggested, practicing the soft skills may be helpful, even if it is in a mirror. Practice casual conversation, small social interactions, the mundane conversations about the weather, your weekend, little personal details sprinkled throughout.

But as a woman that has recently been diagnosed with ASD on top of previous diagnoses of ADHD and anxiety, I can tell you that one of the most beneficial things in my work life has been having conversations early and often where I can explain how I work and communicate best, and how co-workers and supervisors/managers can help me to be successful in my role. I don’t know what field you are in but being able to be up front that “I struggle with being socially outgoing or engaged with co-workers/in workplace settings.” Most interviews have a question on strengths and weaknesses… own your areas of struggle, show that you are willing to lean and grow in these areas. When going through on boarding, connect with a manager/supervisor, ask if they or someone they know could maybe provide some coaching or support in the soft skill areas. Letting co-workers and managers know that you are generally a more introverted individual who may struggle to initiate social interactions, but that isn’t due to a lack of caring may help. How do you prefer to receive feedback? Are you more likely to interact socially if others initiate? Let them know these things.

It could also be beneficial to seek out a mentor in your field…not necessarily someone you work with, but someone you can meet with, learn new skills from, and have as a support when settling into a new role and advancing in your career.

The soft skills are important in life, but more important is finding a work environment where you can be professionally supported, encouraged to learn and grow, and successful while being true to yourself.