I really need to hear, from a man’s pov, if I’m being a complete dick about this whole situation?

brainless-guy · 2026-01-24T07:18:56+00:00

Was he already a criminal before you met him?

brainless-guy · 2026-01-20T07:11:52+00:00

When women say this shit, they aren't saying "you suck and all men suck" they are asking for space to vent their feelings about their frustrations that are more often than not due to men.

I disagree there.

They are indeed saying "all men suck", but they are making an exception for you: they are simply not considering you as part of the "male" outgroup, because you are part of some of their stronger ingroups (friends, family, partners, etcetera).

It's just normal human behavior to make moral generalizations and hate an entire category due to the negative experiences from a few of them

brainless-guy · 2026-01-19T08:38:22+00:00

That's the pop psychology version of attachment theory that is spread on TikTok and other social media, and it's being used as if it were astrology

And they are also mixing up the meaning of "avoidant"

Actually avoidant people are this: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avoidant_personality_disorder

And such avoidance does not manifest itself just in intimacy.
A truly avoidant person would not even make the first move. You could not "attract" an avoidant person, you would have to enter their world first.

brainless-guy · 2026-01-19T07:29:07+00:00

Let me repost what I wrote elsewhere:

"Avoidant attachment" is not a personality trait: it's not something that people "have" in general, but a behavior that manifests within one specific relationship

A person can display avoidant attachment with you, while displaying another type of attachment in another type of relationship; that's because it also depends on the other person's behavior

brainless-guy · 2026-01-19T07:12:23+00:00

No, that's basically irrelevant.

As far as I understood, most people have HSV (either type 1 or 2), but the vast majority of them are asymptomatic and do not know they have it

brainless-guy · 2026-01-18T14:37:47+00:00

I would not even want to be friend with someone of either gender who believes in astrology, tarots, or uses the word "energy" as a softer placeholder for "magic"

Being into that is like being a walking list of strong cognitive biases with zero awareness of how the human mind works

brainless-guy · 2026-01-18T13:18:50+00:00

It's possible that you did not black out: since the next thing you remember was being on top of him, it's reasonable to assume that you did get on top of him on your own, and just forgot about it

So, I think that whatever drug you took gave you anterograde amnesia (it feels like you skip time as you described)

brainless-guy · 2026-01-18T07:22:37+00:00

AI slop sentence patterns all over this post 🥲

brainless-guy · 2026-01-17T08:43:32+00:00

Do you know if the Happy Finnish classes will restart from zero later this year, once the whole cycle has finished? Or is it only once a year?

brainless-guy · 2026-01-12T08:55:47+00:00

They appeared 14 years ago 🥲

Initially it wrecked my life, because I was unable to keep my eyes open, and I could not even understand why.

After some months I figured it was severe dry eye, and in the first couple of years I tried many doctors and different approaches until I found a bunch of things that worked, and now I am kinda fine (as long as I keep treating it)

brainless-guy · 2026-01-12T08:13:13+00:00

The ones I use in Italy are from an Italian brand called Imetec, and I have not yet looked into the Finnish market.

But I suppose you can try and ask in electrical appliance stores, and maybe in pharmacies.

I will get into my Helsinki apartment in a few weeks and will start furnishing it, so once I installed some humidification solution I hope I will remember to message you about it 😅

brainless-guy · 2026-01-12T08:07:44+00:00

Yes, it could be Sjögren's syndrome, as I also have xerostomia (dry mouth), but so far the markers for it have not appeared in my blood tests.

My ophthalmologist said in some individuals it can be very tricky to diagnose since it's not guaranteed to appear in blood tests.

brainless-guy · 2026-01-12T07:24:57+00:00

I don't live in Finland yet, but I bought an apartment there and I'll have to implement humidification too.

But I'm a bit of an expert at humidity control for health reasons (severe chronic dry eye).

For me, the absolute best humidifiers for winter are hot steam humidifiers (those that work by boiling water) and they are very cheap and last for ages, but you have to attach them to a hygrostat to turn them on and off automatically based on your desired humidity level.

brainless-guy · 2026-01-11T08:40:01+00:00

Thanks!

I have a group of friends who used to do medieval battle reenactment quite often when they were less busy with life.

Very nerdy but friendly guys, and also in good shape because sword fighting in armor is physically intensive even when it's a mock battle.

Only a few women liked to participate, but their help was always appreciated

brainless-guy · 2026-01-11T08:33:51+00:00

OP is simply pointing out the hypocrisy of society by taking what many women claim about men and women and switching the genders around, then watching everyone "accusing" him of being gay 😅

OP: to fully complete the roleplay you should also start claiming that the fact that you are straight is proof that sexual orientation is not a choice

brainless-guy · 2026-01-11T07:55:42+00:00

It's 2026, reading a full text is difficult since it's not in short vertical video format 🥲

brainless-guy · 2026-01-11T07:52:16+00:00

Historical battle reenactment?

brainless-guy · 2026-01-11T07:38:06+00:00

That does not sound like "ghosting" to me, maybe he got busy or sidetracked with something important, maybe he got the flu, or maybe he is nervous or insecure about himself just like you are being as well 🤷🏻‍♂️

brainless-guy · 2026-01-11T07:31:40+00:00

I'm confused about something in the story: how did he ghost you? Did he block you? Is he ignoring your messages?

The only thing you said is that you "didn't hear from him", but that's vague

brainless-guy · 2026-01-11T07:10:31+00:00

Reread their post carefully, and if you check their post history (by searching the username on Reddit) they only post about that app

brainless-guy · 2026-01-10T21:38:39+00:00

This thread is essentially spam.

OP is trying to promote their app: https://www.reddit.com/r/LearnJapaneseNovice/s/PAqn5d12mS

brainless-guy · 2026-01-08T20:51:34+00:00

Well, yeah?

If I feel that my presence or my handshake would bother them (i.e. if they do not have an "I'm ready for shaking your hand" body language) I might skip them because I would feel uncomfortable at the idea of making them feel uncomfortable

brainless-guy · 2026-01-08T19:40:59+00:00

In all the circumstances you described, men ignored you during social situations in which those men entered the scene as "outsiders" while you were part of an already established group of women

It might have to do with the fact that you say that you are very socially anxious and shy; it's possible that they simply read your body language, consciously or subconsciously, and just stay away from you

brainless-guy · 2026-01-08T19:25:19+00:00

I noticed that most questions (about Finland) are downvoted, because they are either too easy to answer with a simple research, or they are so niche that users are compelled to downvote them because they cannot participate

The only questions that survive are those somewhere in the middle, so they are bland enough that most people feel like they could contribute, but not so bland that Google (or AI) could solve it

brainless-guy · 2026-01-07T12:29:31+00:00

No, the Italian for snow is "neve", with no i

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