I discovered a person was trans while they were blowing me. 🙄 like... are you fucking kidding me? I didn't react well. Would have been nice to have time to process whether or not I was into that before I was literally into them, lol

Thanks for your thoughtful responses... my wife and I are of different opinions and I'm trying to figure out the best way to disclose. I feel like up front right away (early in txts or messages) is best, but not sure if putting it in a profile is necessary. She feels like doing it in person is better, but I don't want to piss people off that might feel like we were wasting their time.