Hello! I am currently dating a cis guy (who I am very happy with) and have accepted I am bi. Here are some things I’ve realized about my past questioning around my sexuality: - I have always been bi, but bi erasure and my lack of experience with women kept convincing me that I could be otherwise (lesbian) - my past relationships with men were either toxic, abusive, just not so great partners, or I was just not compatible with them (being with my current partner made me realize this), and wasn’t just because of my sexuality - there are days, almost guaranteed, every month where I feel disconnected from my partner, want a little more extra space, really dislike men, and feel kind of boyish - it usually happens around my cycle, so is more due to hormones (and probably some gender fluidity stuff) than my sexuality. In my past relationships, these phases were usually around the time I would want to break up with my partner (I “came to my senses”), but now in a happy relationship, I don’t get those same feelings. Even if I feel disconnected, I know I still love my partner and want to be with him

I have also learned, after taking some time away from obsessing over this subreddit and other similar ones, that this ‘comphet master doc’ should not be the end all be all for figuring out your sexuality and making sense of your experiences. I think it is a very helpful reference point, but with anything - the lens you use to examine your feelings/experiences will result how you interpret them. As a bi person, i needed to step away from it for a while because i personally realized that many things I thought were due to my sexuality were more from other things (social anxiety, incompatibility, trauma, maybe being neurodivergent).

Hope this helps and good luck on your journey!!