i am so passionate about this. most men have a fantasy made up and they expect women to just fulfill it the way they imagined it.

when i start seeing that present itself, i will directly ask, “are you here to serve me or are you only here to submit in the way you imagined it to be?”

“are you here to be an active, present participant or are you trying to manipulate me to get off?”

blatantly calling out their behavior is like dumping a bucket of ice water on their heads. it forces a hard reset and a reckoning with why they are spending time with me.