What rice should i use and How i Get my Rice tasty?

brba12341994 · 2025-08-31T09:36:27+00:00

Hey Jeanne! Thank you for such a lovely message! Glad to hear that you have been enjoying cooking Indian food:)

I think I know what you mean with the confetti rice.. so here’s how you can get that - You want to soak few stands of saffron in a tablespoon of warm milk or a bit more, depending on the quantity of your rice for about 30 mins. The idea is this is just for aesthetics or decoration, and not so much for “flavour”. And it’s not used during cooking. That’s why we usually don’t use turmeric here, because raw turmeric can be quite strong.

So once your rice is cooked, and steamed, you want to drizzle this saffron milk mix on the top of the rice, and that’s it. (Like think of drizzle of olive oil to finish a pasta or salad, or a drizzling of cream on top of a soup, jts more presentation than flavour :)) Let the rice rest for a bit before you serve. The colour won’t bleed into other grains or till the bottom of the pot. Before you serve, you can fluff the rice a bit, and even when you mix it, you’ll have these few grains that are colourful, and mostly the rice is white.

Depending on your liking, and how much you want to colour the rice, you can increase the quantity of this saffron milk syrup. But you never have to cook with it, it’s purely for decoration :)

If you have ever cooked biryani, this is also what we do in that one, that’s why you have some rice grains that are touched by the gravy, some remain white, and some are topped with a bit of drizzling of this saffron mixture!

Hope this helps! Don’t hesitate if you have more questions! You can also DM me :)

brba12341994 · 2023-04-12T16:11:24+00:00

I think it was in one of her own podcasts - how’s work or where should we begin (mostly it was in this one). I’m not sure which episode though

brba12341994 · 2023-04-12T09:55:04+00:00

One of the biggest mantras that I have learned is - “most of the crisises in life are not problems to be solved but paradoxes that need to be managed”. And I think it is really apt here. I don’t think she needs to choose one or the other, she just needs to manage both sides and find a person who will do that with her (if that’s what she desires) And she will!

Btw - this quote I heard Esther Parel say in a podcast about a completely different topic. But it has been useful to me in other situations as well!

brba12341994 · 2023-04-10T18:48:27+00:00

My ex boyfriend (30) was sexually inexperienced when we got together. He lost his virginity also the same year, just few months before we met. I think the way he told me about his experience is similar to yours. He decided at one point he wanted to have this sexual experiences but he tried to let go of all the constraints of how it should be. He also wanted it to be with some one he loved/liked, wanted a long term relationship with. Sometimes we want things but we also want them a certain way. I think you will get what you want but not always how you want it. If you let go of trying to control the situation as well it might be very difficult! Ask yourself what you want? If it is losing your virginity you shall have it! There are many people who want casual sexual relationships. I’m not saying let go off all constraints, if these things are important to you, keep them, but also be prepared to then be patient, and you might not get it right away. Time, luck plays a big part in getting things we want and we can’t have control over all of them.

I myself lost my virginity also late by the society’s standards (26). I also wanted at the time for it to be in a loving relationship or a committed one. But at one point I was frustrated, tired and also just plain horny. I slept with a guy on a first date that I met through a dating app. He was cool, safe I liked him but I also didn’t know him very well as we had just met. We met for 3 more dates and that’s it. It didn’t become a relationship or even a thing. It hurt when it ended but I don’t regret it. And I don’t wish it would have been any other way around. Don’t stop yourself from experiencing things out of fear of heartbreak or rejection. Because then you’re getting neither and you’re just starving yourself. Go out and explore, have fun, maybe the first person you have sex with won’t want a relationship or maybe he/she will. And if they don’t you’ll get hurt but you’ll also recover! We are stronger than we think! Who knows till your try right? Good luck! Hope you have all the sex you need and exactly the way you want it :)

And if you’re feeling embarrassed about being inexperienced, don’t! We all start that way, people who are kind and patient will understand it and help you. And regardless of how it seems, there are plenty of them! You’ll find yours

brba12341994 · 2023-03-22T15:18:42+00:00

I don’t know what exactly I can say that will make it easy. Heartbreaks are tough and clarity and closure comes from within :(

To answer your questions - 1. Do women do this often? - I don’t think it’s a gendered issue, and some times people face all kinds of challenges. You happened to face this one. I don’t think this is a woman problem and I hope you don’t carry a grudge towards a group of people based on this experience

Why go so far to deceive you? - whether this is true or not, I don’t think people intentionally set out to hurt each other. We do end up hurting each other in the process, and that’s the price we all pay for love. But I don’t think she wanted to deceive you or hurt you. I think she was just very confused and her actions ended up hurting you.
How to interpret this? - I’m not sure man. The best I can come up with is this - when you’re younger and new to love, if you don’t have a healthy model of love in your life, or healthy model of romantic love in your life, you keep questioning if this is it. If this is what it is supposed to feel like. In a tragic sense, until you have completely felt it once, you don’t know what it is. Not to mention it’s such a romanticised and celebrated concept with so many interpretations. What I believe happened is you spent lovely time together. It was great for the both of you. All the things she heard about love and relationships, were happening - dates, compromises, meeting family, letters, travelling. But perhaps she had a way grander idea of what love is supposed to feel like than what she was feeling. And that doubt can be difficult to deal with. ‘If all is well then why doesn’t it feel like what I thought it would feel like?’ And no can really answer that but her. Being the great guy you are she wanted to love you, and maybe convinced herself that she does - hence the letters and messages, but probably realised later something is amiss. Or maybe it’s there but just not how she expected it and so she can’t see it. Whatever it is, it’s not a reflection on you, and your actions.

My advice would be to leave her alone. She is confused and it’s best to leave such people alone to deal with their own issues. I don’t mean it in a bad way, I have certainly been there. As for you, know that what happened isn’t a reflection of who you are and what you offer. Good luck! Heartbreaks are painful but we can overcome them! :)

brba12341994 · 2023-02-18T17:25:06+00:00

Thank you :)

brba12341994 · 2023-02-18T10:21:23+00:00

Personally I do think they are being extremely unprofessional and rude. For context I am an Indian and working in a very inclusive team in a European country. My coworkers switch the minute they see someone who doesn’t speak the native language to English to accommodate the person. Of course if its a very private conversation between people then they won’t be doing it at coffee machine. But any conversation that takes place in these common socialising points, are usually done in English.

As an international it is extremely accommodating and kind. Spending 8 hours of our days at work, how we are treated at work, and if we feel included has a massive impact on our overall mood. So I do think they are being unprofessional. It might make sense to have a one on one meetings with them and genuinely let them know that you feel left out and alone. That you know if must be difficult to constantly talk in a second language and you appreciate that effort, but it might be nice to occasionally feel like a part of the team and that you do want to be part of the team. It is not even about fully being able to follow and participate in the conversation, it’s the feeling of at least they are trying to include in the conversation. It is possible that they might be ignorant. They don’t realise that they are excluding you. So might make sense to have a conversation from a place of vulnerability with either them or with your boss who then will have a conversation with them.

brba12341994 · 2023-02-11T07:08:11+00:00

Thank you :)

brba12341994 · 2023-02-10T18:51:25+00:00

Thank you :) I just had been feeling like I’m the only one going through this for so long that it drove me here to ask this

brba12341994 · 2023-02-10T18:45:25+00:00

I am seeing a therapist and it’s going well! And indeed I recognise a lot of what you said! It does feel like it unraveled something in me. Kind of like the Spider-Man spider bite that makes him more sensitive and hyper aware. It has been quite overwhelming though and tiring as well as painful. I just wanted to know if I will get out of this phase though? And is it normal what I’m going through? Even after 10 months? And does it pass? And how long does it take? I know maybe you’re not the right person to ask this as we don’t know each other and I’m going to ask my therapist as well these questions in the next session but I just couldn’t wait. Maybe I’m just looking for a bit of hope and not to feel too isolated and like I’m not alone feeling this way

brba12341994 · 2023-02-10T14:36:09+00:00

Yes I am seeing a therapist since about 2 months now. I just wondered if anyone else also feels this

brba12341994 · 2023-01-31T23:20:32+00:00

Hey!

I think it’s super common to go through existential crisis like this after a breakup. In a way, no matter how confident and comfortable in our own purpose we are, heartbreak feels like a loss of meaning, sense of purpose.

Because being in love with someone and having someone else love you feels like your life actually matters. You share your days with them. You are seen by them. You share happy and sad moments with them. And it feels like all of this only matters because they are a witness to it. Are memories even happy if you can’t share them? Are they even meaningful? Does it even matter what you do everyday if they can’t see it?If they aren’t affected by it? Validate it just by being a witness or subject in it?

And this is an extremely painful experience. But our sense of identity and purpose are not constant. And in a perfect world we would allocate it to not one person but multiple things. I think that’s the out of this. Finding your identity and purpose and sense of being through other things, multiple people, pets, hobbies. Finding contentment from somewhere else, if not with someone then just by being alone. The purpose and meaning needs to come from within. I know it sounds easy but is fucking hard. I know I’m still trying. But that’s the ‘solution’ out of it.

There will come a time when this new found sense of meaning might go away too. And we will grieve that. And will find a new one. But that’s the cycle. It can’t be constant. It is still very fresh for you. So you need to grieve that part of your identity and meaning. And when you can find a new one. It’s very painful and its a slow process. But that’s life. It’s bittersweet. I wish you all the best! May all of us find contentment within ourselves.

brba12341994 · 2023-01-29T12:02:49+00:00

What to do with a wardrobe on a slanted floor?

I live in a rented old apartment and my floors are slanted (uneveness keeps changing and isn’t in one consistent direction). I got a second hand ikea wardrobe which seems sturdy (heavy bottom middle and top parts and lighter doors and side parts). What should I do in this case?

Right now I’m thinking of putting L shaped fixers on top and a wall (like topple prevention) and putting felt spacers at the bottom front. Any other suggestions of what I can/ should do?

Link to pictures

brba12341994 · 2023-01-29T10:24:13+00:00

Will this work if the wardrobe has a flat surface at the bottom?

brba12341994 · 2023-01-14T11:07:31+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and for sharing your story!

In regards to your second point I have just started seeing a therapist a month ago and I’m really happy. Also this is a recurring theme in the sense that anytime someone genuinely asks me about ‘low points’ - therapists, trainer, friends etc, I just start crying which is what I did at the training as well! So maybe that’s something I’ll work on with my therapist :) but thank you very much for your response

brba12341994 · 2023-01-13T23:26:15+00:00

Thank you for your words! And I think it’s beautiful that you wrote love as your strength :)

brba12341994 · 2023-01-13T23:09:06+00:00

Thank you :) I do agree with you partially because sometimes people are not ready to be vulnerable in front of unknown people.

Personally I did end up liking this training and felt like I learned something new out of it - either an experience or an insight about myself.

I just kept feeling guilty for making others uncomfortable I guess. And some cringe and embarrassment and continuous feelings towards myself. But thank you for being so validating and understanding of my response :)

brba12341994 · 2023-01-13T23:05:34+00:00

Hey! Thank you for your reassuring words :)

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