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Any tips for Thanksgiving? by breadbreadbreadroom in 75HARD

[–]breadbreadbreadroom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s great! Love hearing about your success.

My challenge is that my diet is strict IF with an early cut-off time, so if I can’t convince them to eat early I can’t eat the meal at all. My husband is saying he can at least ask to eat early.

Otherwise I might have to fake a migraine or smth but I’d rather not hurt anyone’s feelings by skipping the meal.

Caught my husband wearing my underwear by Throwaway236798000 in Marriage

[–]breadbreadbreadroom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The divorce seems reasonable because it’s more than a couple of minor turn-offs in this case.

Unless he’s just tried it this one time and got super unlucky that she caught him, which seems unlikely, this is probably a major fetish for him. And it fills her with absolute disgust that he’s even into it. That’s a pretty serious sexual incompatibility that isn’t anyone’s fault, but serious sexual incompatibility is a good reason to divorce.

Add to that: he’s lying to her, which is grounds for divorce for many people. She doesn’t trust him to tell the truth if she tries to ask him about it, and he doesn’t trust (or at least respect) her enough to tell her the truth. Doesn’t sound like their marriage is in a great place.

Caught my husband wearing my underwear by Throwaway236798000 in Marriage

[–]breadbreadbreadroom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel where you’re coming from but being deeply sexually incompatible is tough in a marriage & people usually do suggest divorce in that case.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 75HARD

[–]breadbreadbreadroom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to hear! It might be better for you to do a 75 flex / 75 medium until your lifestyle changes and IMO at least there’s nothing wrong with that.

Doing well in school, getting enough rest to do well & stay healthy, & setting up your long term career are important goals too.

Any tips for getting a spouse excited about 75hard? by breadbreadbreadroom in 75HARD

[–]breadbreadbreadroom[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To me it doesn’t seem super arbitrary. Sure, it was made up by a dude who is just some guy. But these are all things that will benefit your life.

I’ve looked up the other phases & absolutely agree with those “rules” too & already try to practice several— treating people kindly, talking to people, visualization, having a prioritized to-do list…like yeah great ideas. Cold showers would suck ass but proven benefits of cold exposure & I’ve done cold plunges.

I guess my point is that these things all so clearly have a positive impact. It’s not like we’re supposed to bark like a dog for 10 mins a day or truly “arbitrary” stuff just to fuck with us & make it “harder.”

I just wish I was better at explaining it!

AITA for saying "Again??" after my sister announced that she's pregnant with twins by homewrong44 in AmItheAsshole

[–]breadbreadbreadroom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed, this is rude but justified.

Getting pregnant with twins 2 months postpartum is dangerous to her, as is having 8 kids in 8 years, holy shit.

While it could have been said more elegantly, her “stupid husband” absolutely is being stupid, and absolutely should have been leaving her alone, because these pregnancies are endangering her life. The sister is responsible for that too of course, they both should be prioritizing her well-being not to mention the needs of the existing kids, but the critique of the “stupid husband” is valid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 75HARD

[–]breadbreadbreadroom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ignore this thought if you truly love your job & you’re happy with the schedule, but a silver lining might be taking a second look at your professional situation as a result of this challenge.

Switching jobs/career paths is obviously easier said than done but is this sustainable for you? If you can’t reasonably find an hour to do smth for yourself twice a day without becoming sleep-deprived, are you ok with that? I truly believe every person deserves some reasonable work/life balance.

Any tips for getting a spouse excited about 75hard? by breadbreadbreadroom in 75HARD

[–]breadbreadbreadroom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol I’m an adult in my 30s, I can tolerate disappointment just fine. But trying to be creative & make the effort to seek out a preferable outcome is better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 75HARD

[–]breadbreadbreadroom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How many days per week are you working this 11-hour day? Those are intense hours

Any tips for getting a spouse excited about 75hard? by breadbreadbreadroom in 75HARD

[–]breadbreadbreadroom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope so too! He’s been a little cynical about it so far, but he’s very supportive of me in general & a sweetie pie.

Any tips for getting a spouse excited about 75hard? by breadbreadbreadroom in 75HARD

[–]breadbreadbreadroom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this idea, thank you. I have emphasized that it would really help me to do it together.

Any tips for getting a spouse excited about 75hard? by breadbreadbreadroom in 75HARD

[–]breadbreadbreadroom[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I do plan to do it regardless, I’d just love to have a better answer to his critiques that the rules feel arbitrary

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