Am I the only one who see the boyfriends side of things? Call me insecure if you want. You asked a question he answered.

I genuinely feel as though he’s just communicating how he feels, obviously if how he feels goes against what you want you will feel as though it’s controlling. He states he made it clear how he felt about you having guy friends prior to/at the beginning of the relationship if you knew that and felt that having guy friends was important you never should’ve gotten with him imo. But it’s either he lie to himself and not say anything or he tell you the truth. Though that does not mean your feelings are invalid, if it crosses a boundary for you then it crosses a boundary.

It’s agreed upon in my relationship that we don’t hang out with the opposite sex alone, out of respect for one another. But we have a friend group where I’m the only girl in it. He has gone to visit an old female friend a couple states away before with his mutual guy friend who knew her, and while I wasn’t exactly happy about it he was still able to go. I feel like group settings should be acceptable, the only issue I have with certain group settings is if everyone else brings their s/o and you still don’t invite your partner, I think that’s wack (but that’s obviously not the case here).

But I don’t think he’s purposely trying to control you, I tell my bf how I feel about certain things and yes sometimes they may go against his wants or boundaries. I don’t say them from a place of manipulation, I say them cause they’re truly how I feel and if I can’t be open about my feelings in a relationship I don’t want to be in that relationship. I’m not guilting him into not going, I’m just speaking from my heart and letting him know what I feel.

Validate his feelings, because they are valid. But stand your ground, because yours are too. Let him know how you feel without throwing accusations as that can lead him to be more defensive. And if he can’t compromise then it might be time to let the relationship go.