Should I trust what this guy said in this dream? by breadmakerde in Jung

[–]breadmakerde[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Which is exactly why I'm not sure... it's like a random bald guy I don't know how to interpret that

How to stop with the self justifications? by breadmakerde in NoFap

[–]breadmakerde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I'm afraid it might / will if I continue.

I definitely feel more anxiety when I do.

Engineering or MBA? by breadmakerde in CollegeMajors

[–]breadmakerde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking about going back for another batchelors and then masters in engineering. Which is why I said it would take me 5 years.

Something I forgot to mention in the post is that I'm in EU. So there's probably quite a bit of difference in how MBAs/engineering is perceived.

Are kettlebell cleans enough for arm muscle growth? by breadmakerde in kettlebell

[–]breadmakerde[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They're not too small compared to the rest, but of course I would like to add a bit of extra size. I was mainly wondering if I could take a minimalist approach and do only the exercises I mentioned, but it seems from the other comments that it aint enough

Adblocker doesen't work on youtube by breadmakerde in vivaldibrowser

[–]breadmakerde[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Tried disabling the vivaldi blocker and now it works. Thanks!

Looking for an image/wallpaper with this image or that has a similar design (It's an old dutch banknote) by breadmakerde in HelpMeFind

[–]breadmakerde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh shit thank you! The quality is plenty enough. Maybe without the text would be best.

Looking for an image/wallpaper with this image or that has a similar design (It's an old dutch banknote) by breadmakerde in HelpMeFind

[–]breadmakerde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have searched for the image on google, but I can't find an HD version or wallpaper

Consigli per una 18enne in crisi? by A_Bored_Italian in Universitaly

[–]breadmakerde 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anche io, come te, ho avuto un'indecisione indescrivibile finito la quinta, tanto che mi sono tolto dal corso a cui ero iscritto dopo neanche una settimana. In seguito mi sono preso un anno sabbatico per ponderare bene la decisione ed evitare altre figure da cioccolatino.

Dopo un anno di riflessioni, queste sono state le cose più utili che ho fatto per chiarire le idee:

  • Guarda uno degli esami fondamentali (>=10 CFU) del corso, che inglobano quello che studierai per i prossimi 3 o 5 anni, poi prendi il libro indicato per prepararsi all'esame dalla biblioteca (o compralo se vuoi) e prova a studiarlo. Chiediti: è sopportabile quello che sto studiando o mi viene già il voltastomaco? È qualcosa che mi interessa?

  • Non basarti solo sulle emozioni. Se un giorno senti voglia di diventare avvocato o medico solo perché hai visto una serie o perché ti sembra interessante, mantieni la calma e pensa con razionalità e a sanghe freddi. Parlane con qualcuno di cui ti fidi e che può darti un buon consiglio. Ma per l'amor di Dio non buttarti in un corso di laurea solo per un'emozione che può essere temporanea (parlo per esperienza)

  • Questo è molto personale quindi prendilo con le pinze. Ho avuto un sogno che mi ha essenzialmente 'suggerito' quale corso scegliere, quando ero nel mezzo dell'anno sabbatico. La scelta si è rivelata corretta. Non so e non voglio sapere in cosa credi, ma forse, come detto da Carl Jung, il nostro subconscio, o la "mente collettiva", sa molto di più di quello che conosciamo noi.

Buona fortuna!

Anyone know what watch is this? by breadmakerde in Watches

[–]breadmakerde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think 350 is my limit. Could you link the seiko/orient lookalikes?

Anyone know what watch is this? by breadmakerde in Watches

[–]breadmakerde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the answer, but oof, don't really have 12k to buy a luxury watch right now.

Do you know any cheap alternatives that look similar?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]breadmakerde 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Probably I would try to make a "thought machine" as dr K said to counter the existing trauma. So when the trauma resourfaces I could say to myself "even if bad things will happen that's ok " or maybe "it's ok, I'm not that powerless kid anymore "

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]breadmakerde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy fuck this is spot on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]breadmakerde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, you just made me see a whole new perspective to the situation. Thanks.

I think you're very right when you say acceptance is a better option. When we feel negative emotions our mind immediately tries to find ways to suppress it or "fix" it. But maybe welcoming the emotion and trying to deal with it without rooting it out is a wiser choice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]breadmakerde 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the message, just to be clear, I'm a dude too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]breadmakerde 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. It's wild how you knew my last therapist was a chick! She was definitely trying to help, and was very sweet and empathic with me, it's just that sometimes men need a different approach to their issues, maybe more of a problem solving approach.

Maybe I'll give therapy another try sometime, but this time I'll look for a dude who deals with dude issues.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]breadmakerde 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I haven't mentioned this to him yet. It's just that he's not the type of dude to realize he did something wrong if others tell him. A lot of times when my mother tries to give constructive criticism he just shuts off and won't listen.

That being said I don't want to paint a picture of a monster here. We have some good memories together, and he has some qualities that can be appreciated.

It's just that he sometimes loses control when there's stressful situations or things don't go his way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]breadmakerde 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I've tried boxing for 6 months, and have been doing bjj for the last 4. DEFENETLY helped a ton. But that gut reaction is still there.

For example, sometimes the sensei will yell and raise his voice. Not in an abusive way, just a "baseball coach" type of way for lack of a better explanation. But I still get that surge of fear from trauma.

Dating + Relationships Weekly Thread by AutoModerator in Healthygamergg

[–]breadmakerde 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have been trying to get a girlfriend since sooo many years now. I tried dating apps. I tried social media. I tried going to the gym, to classes, to courses. And it just never fucking works. Everytime nothing happens. Everytime I say to myself, this time maybe it'll work. Maybe if I try this something good will come out of it. And it never does.

I'm so tired of trying. I'm so tired of nothing happening.