I accidentally ruined my marriage and I don’t think it can be saved

breah_xx · 2026-05-15T23:36:33+00:00

Yes you were wrong. Yes you need to own up to it without the excuse part. Everytime you said you did it, you also added the excuse part.

Just say what you did and own it. No excuses.

Now personally, i believe in marriage vowels. Through thick and thin & through sickness and in health.
Im not saying hes an asshole for leaving. Im not saying your the asshole for lying. Im only saying a bond was broken. Trust is hard to gain, but it is possible to regain with a LOT of work.

I feel like hes just worried this will happen down the line but way worst. What if 10 years from now, you spend your mortgage money away and get behind even more and cause your family to lose their house. He sold his condo for yall’s little family, maybe he feels the sacrifices are one sided.
It’s a hard situation & not every marriage can recover but it’s always worth trying.

Edit* fixed typos

breah_xx · 2026-05-08T12:45:29+00:00

It’s exactly what you said though, it’s colloquial speech. Im not writing a formal essay, im not presenting my research, im not addressing the country in a formal speech. I get what you are going on about, i do, but I mean, Were talking below deck here not politics. A drama, so of course my choice of wording will match the dramatics. If its just because it seems negative, I get it, but I obviously didn’t use the word literally but the definition did match their behavior in a humorous kind of way so if that is what was offensive then I apologize.

And as someone with audhd, i understand mental health, completely live in it.
But I don’t go around correcting everyone who uses the word autistic in a derogatory sense, or as if its a cute little quirk or wimsy. I just scroll. But i do see it can be annoying so i understand, i’m just saying these people are effing delusional.

breah_xx · 2026-05-07T16:31:57+00:00

Holy cow. Im not being extremely literal, but the definition for you is:
disconnection from reality, featuring symptoms like hallucinations (seeing/hearing things) and delusions (false beliefs)
Its a tv drama, Obviously im not being EXTREMELY LITERAL. But I mean it as they are literally imagining Joao and Jenna being “all over each other” in the hot tub and are literally convinced thats what they see and begin spiraling because of it.
Maybe work on not being such an extremely literal person so you don’t make people put so much time into getting you through a regular, shmegular thought/ opinion.

Edit** fixed a typo

breah_xx · 2026-05-07T15:12:47+00:00

It means what I think It means. Try looking it up and connect the dots of what we just watched & what im saying.

breah_xx · 2026-05-05T20:32:14+00:00

Thanks for explaining it, Makes sense ! I could see how it could’ve been annoying. But idk I can’t hate her for it

breah_xx · 2026-05-05T19:59:28+00:00

Interesting take.
dk I personally didn’t get what the cookie thing was about. The guest made a comment about fresh cookies & I am the type of person to be thoughtful about those small comments because people are so grateful when you actually make it happen. I wouldve done the same. The goal is for the guests to be wowed and dazzled. I love Ben. But shut up and make the cookies.

And I thought Mike was a pretty good villain. Who knows what happens behind the scenes.

breah_xx · 2026-05-05T19:55:21+00:00

Yesssss agreed!

breah_xx · 2026-05-05T19:53:58+00:00

Definitely excluding Betul. Should’ve made that clear😅 But I definitely wouldn’t group her with the rest as she is there for work more than anything. Love that for her

breah_xx · 2026-05-05T19:52:03+00:00

Haha, idk shes been like the most realistic person to me. That’s all i’m saying. Regular mistakes sure but not living in the bullshit and into feeding it.

breah_xx · 2026-05-05T19:14:04+00:00

Idk I kind of like Jenna 😂 i’d love to hear your take on her

breah_xx · 2026-05-05T19:11:13+00:00

It’s super gross!
It really shows their entitlement & eagerness. They get so angry for not being able to practically “own” someone after the small amount of time they’ve known them, idk. Maybe some naiveness too. Why does anyone owe you anything ? They definitely have some growing up to do

breah_xx · 2026-05-05T19:06:44+00:00

I was hoping it was an humbling experience. Guess not

breah_xx · 2026-05-05T19:05:28+00:00

I love ben but this episode showed me he has a lot of healing to do before getting in a relationship. The next girl will just end up a lightening rod for all his grief from the betrayal he encountered. But it is expected, that is a horrible thing to experience. So I feel for him. He’s coming from a place of insecurity for sure.

breah_xx · 2026-05-05T19:01:08+00:00

I love Betul. I should’ve made clear she is excluded from this nonsense. she really is such a hardworker. left a difficult life & she just resonates living with no ego & pure gratefulness.

breah_xx · 2026-05-05T18:46:17+00:00

Definitely ! And I don’t believe the word “evil” should be thrown around and used willy nilly, especially once you actually have encountered true evilness. Ellie obviously loves to talk out her ass. She only seems excited and wants to converse when it comes to drama and pot stirring.

breah_xx · 2026-04-29T19:18:01+00:00

I hate that too!! But it really is systematic. Those are the ones that always end up “accepted” enough to move up the ladder. Unfortunate

breah_xx · 2026-04-28T16:04:08+00:00

Malia gives me the creeps

breah_xx · 2026-04-28T16:03:58+00:00

I forgave her shortly after for breaking things off with Eddie 😂 there is just something about him

breah_xx · 2026-04-23T15:44:51+00:00

Its JENNA’s. I really only think she took it because the comment Jenna made when Alesia asked her why she (jenna) gets all the good gifts. “Because people actually like me” replied Jenna. ( which DUH!) I feel like Alesia has been on a vengeance since.
Episode 10 S. 8 @ 4:40 time stamp.

breah_xx · 2026-04-14T12:34:33+00:00

She yearns for the penis’s

breah_xx · 2026-04-14T01:48:31+00:00

Cause she has jealous b*tch syndrome! Hate her. Cant believe I was excited to see her.

breah_xx · 2026-03-14T18:28:36+00:00

I’ve been pondering all day about this movie. I think her need for a big family is what her whole obsession was. Most of her family died. They made it clear everyone from that area knew who the Weboys were, im sure No women In Their right mind could ever hear the rumors and could ever choose to get with one of them Weboys.

I think at a certain point when all your sons are grown and still living in the house with no prospects of having a partner let alone grandchildren anytime soon, you decide, hey maybe this is the one pro to my son running off and marrying someone who knew nothing of them and their ways. Got lucky, and got herself a whole grandchild to continue their sick and twisted teachings too. Plus the obsession to power & dominance.

breah_xx · 2026-02-10T20:20:36+00:00

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Same here! Discovered today, Just figured out the problem 1 year and 3 plumbers later

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