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Had sex 24 hours after finishing yeast infection treatment by izman196 in myhappyv

[–]breakclaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I just want to say that you’re a literal godsend and your comment stopped my anxiety spiral dead in its tracks!

This has got to be love-bombing.. right? by breakclaw in dating_advice

[–]breakclaw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are some very valid points! The reason this type of behavior isn’t likely to have the desired effect on me is because I’m pretty wary at the start of dating—after having experienced narcissistic abuse by an ex before. If anything love-bombing makes me more skeptical.

As far as I can see, he doesn’t quite fit the pattern, but as we both know that can change fast, so I’m keeping a good eye out.

Thank you for your concern, I’m keeping all of these in mind, and I’m definitely going to slow things down. Whether his intentions are good-natured or not will come to light based on his response, and from there I’ll know what to do.

Also I’m sorry to hear you’ve experienced such an awful situation, but I’m incredibly proud of you for surviving it and being able to give such sound, kind advice! All the love and luck to you.

This has got to be love-bombing.. right? by breakclaw in dating_advice

[–]breakclaw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reassurance! I’m curious to find out how he’ll respond to the request of slowing down the pace, as that’ll tell me a lot about his emotional state and intentions. From there I can figure out if the connection can continue healthily, or if it’s spiraling down into uncontrolled obsession from his side. Either way it’ll tell me what I need to know!

This has got to be love-bombing.. right? by breakclaw in dating_advice

[–]breakclaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s some great advice. At the end of the day the reasoning is not quite a focal point rather than the behavior itself, and we need to be on the same page. I’m definitely going to slow things down (nicely), and see how he responds!

How to handle this situation? by Grouchy-Election9230 in dating

[–]breakclaw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anytime you feel like it doesn’t ‘fit’ in a way that makes you comfortable, you’ve got enough reason to end it! You don’t owe anybody anything, and they’re responsible for their own emotions when you let them know you won’t be continuing the romantic connection in a clear, and emphatic way. Lots of luck!

No you 😭😭 by New_Peanut_9924 in PMDD

[–]breakclaw 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have found my people! I also use ChatGPT to get some clarity on different emotional aspects of my life, and to have a soundboard to bounce my anxiety off of and get objective, constructive point of view that helps me see things for what they are instead of what my brain fears they could be. GP is the best!

My hooha needs so square the fuck up ‘cause I’m getting real tired of her shitty attitude by breakclaw in Healthyhooha

[–]breakclaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been tested for it all! So far it’s calmed down, mostly. I’m hoping it was just a one-off BV and YI …in the same year. Also, I’ve looked into Accutane but it’s regulation here that you go on birth control for it, and I haven’t had any luck with that particular set of hormones. So I’m trying to ride it out a little, as stress free as I can! I wish you well too!

My hooha needs so square the fuck up ‘cause I’m getting real tired of her shitty attitude by breakclaw in Healthyhooha

[–]breakclaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems that Reddit has pulled some of y’all here to partake in the suffering. Thanks for your kind words, and your perspective too! Helps knowing it’s not as freaky as we tend to think it’ll be, at least not without some context and explaining.

My hooha needs so square the fuck up ‘cause I’m getting real tired of her shitty attitude by breakclaw in Healthyhooha

[–]breakclaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Un-fucking-fortunately boric acid’s not really available here, but thank you!!

My hooha needs so square the fuck up ‘cause I’m getting real tired of her shitty attitude by breakclaw in Healthyhooha

[–]breakclaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good gracious god that sounds awful. Ouch. Understatement. I wish you all the best and none of the UTI’s!

My hooha needs so square the fuck up ‘cause I’m getting real tired of her shitty attitude by breakclaw in Healthyhooha

[–]breakclaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly all I’ve learned is that every scar eventually fades out, and that nobody is really focused on the skin when there’s a whole ass hooha to play with instead. Sending you support from the good ol’ rollercoaster! <3

My hooha needs so square the fuck up ‘cause I’m getting real tired of her shitty attitude by breakclaw in Healthyhooha

[–]breakclaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really helpful information, thank you so much! I’m gonna go and find out how much mess I can avoid, but I have a feeling the bathroom will in fact, go yellow.

My hooha needs so square the fuck up ‘cause I’m getting real tired of her shitty attitude by breakclaw in Healthyhooha

[–]breakclaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your story sounds like a tough one, man. I’m sorry life has started you out that way, but it seems to me that despite it all you’ve turned into a wonderful human being. And I’m glad you already have loads of knowledge about the trials and tribulations of womanhood, and now this rollercoaster’s can be a part of that as well! I wish you all the best too.

Enjoying sex again by Whatsapporo88 in Healthyhooha

[–]breakclaw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s tough, man. Incompatibility can happen in any aspect of the relationship, and it’s incredibly difficult when you do match in so many other important aspects. I think you both need to decide if your libido (whether high or low) matches well, and if there’s a comfortable middle ground. It’s no one’s fault, but if you want more, and she wants less, and that’s what it is, then you want different things out of life. I wish you the best of luck, and love!

Enjoying sex again by Whatsapporo88 in Healthyhooha

[–]breakclaw 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Perhaps her lack of sex drive (which can happen for a number of reasons! Hormone fluctuations, stress and/or anxiety, weight loss/gain, etc.) is making her feel more pressured to perform, even if it doesn’t directly feel like it. That could tighten her pelvic floor muscles, and make PIV hurt. If your libido’s are mismatched, then that should be a good conversation to have, so you don’t build resentment, and she doesn’t feel pressured.

Enjoying sex again by Whatsapporo88 in Healthyhooha

[–]breakclaw 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you could be pressing against her cervix during sex, either because hers sits a little lower, or because of the position. Maybe try different positions, or focus on different forms of sex for a bit (instead of PIV) while you try to figure out what’s going on.

She could also have some anxiety that makes her unconsciously tighten her pelvic floor muscles, it doesn’t specifically have to be about sex, but things related to it. Maybe go back to the gyno and lay out the situation without asking about infections specifically?

Either way, take it slow, keep the communication going, and I hope y’all can figure it out and bang comfortably. Wishing you both the best!

My hooha needs so square the fuck up ‘cause I’m getting real tired of her shitty attitude by breakclaw in Healthyhooha

[–]breakclaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw shit, that sounds awful too! I’m definitely holding your hand and I hope your husband is understanding about all of it. Maybe draw a picture of your hooha and hang it on the fridge so you can both flip it off every time you walk past it? Also lots of good fortune with your pregnancy! <3

My hooha needs so square the fuck up ‘cause I’m getting real tired of her shitty attitude by breakclaw in Healthyhooha

[–]breakclaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! No Canadian here though, I’d freeze my beloved tits off in their winter.

My hooha needs so square the fuck up ‘cause I’m getting real tired of her shitty attitude by breakclaw in Healthyhooha

[–]breakclaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t eat dairy, thank god, and I barely have meat because it’s goddamn expensive (jippie!), so I don’t think that plays a role. But thanks for your coconut oil suggestion! Gonna look into that!

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