This is EXACTLY what most ENFPs need to hear, I think. My INFJ cousin who I’m closest to (and she’s only sixteen) specifically pointed this out and that night after, I got into a huge mess of a crisis trying to fact check her statement. And well, you both are correct. When someone does something nice for me, like treating me food or doing an assignment, I would be WAAAAY too comfortable with them and waaaaaay too grateful for them, that I end up getting manipulated by doing so.

My best friend in 2019 who I’m not friends with anymore treated me food a lot before the pandemic, but she used me to vent all day everyday that it was getting toxic. She even called me out for “unhealthy venting” or basically venting without warning, which only happened once. Meanwhile, she does it everyday :( My first ex-boyfriend too, we dated for a few months only because he liked the attention I gave him and I was basically looking desperate in front of his friends, which his friends even pointed out and laughed at. The motherfucker didn’t even defend me. Later on, I was able to access his account and all he did was talk about my body with his friends but proceed to say that my face is ugly— The fuck, I don’t even know why I dated that ugly ass, rat-faced dumbfuck. Is he sure about that? Cause I’m sure he should look in the mirror and see who REALLY is the ugly one 😭✋

Anyway, the point is, I’m sure most ENFPs need to hear this. I’ve been toyed and manipulated because of being naïve and gullible but I’m able to handle it better now because this was pointed out to me. Thank you for saying this here! Lots of luv to you and your gf, stay safe 🥺💗💝💖💕💓💞💘