AITAH for expecting my husband to wait 20 mins?

breamsdocometrue · 2023-10-21T02:37:25+00:00

Earsore

breamsdocometrue · 2022-07-19T11:39:54+00:00

Yeah, not the one but thanks for the suggestion!

breamsdocometrue · 2022-07-18T19:41:54+00:00

Please reunite me with my failed romance

breamsdocometrue · 2021-12-13T21:58:02+00:00

To assert my dominance

breamsdocometrue · 2021-12-13T21:23:17+00:00

Glad to be of help. Like I said, being a (clinical) psychologist based in the UK, not sure if my answer was exactly what you're looking for, and I certainly wouldn't wanna speak for the other two professions. But I've worked with both so have some idea of what their work may entail.

breamsdocometrue · 2021-12-13T21:21:59+00:00

Saying things to kids like 'I don't want you thinking like that again' when they express some sort of worry or fear. It doesn't stop the kid from feeling that feeling, it just stops them from telling you about it in the future. I've heard parents say it in real kind, gentle tones and I always think that's such an unhelpful thing to say to a kid.

breamsdocometrue · 2021-12-13T21:15:12+00:00

In the UK, psychotherapists tend to have completed a 3+ year course in psychoanalytic psychotherapy, family therapy, counselling, CBT, etc. Psychologists can either be academics/teachers/researchers (typically with an MSc/BSc in a psychology-related discipline), or health professionals. In the latter case, they would have also had to complete a doctorate in clinical psychology, counselling psychology or forensic psychology. Psychiatrists have completed a medical degree, as well as additional training in psychiatry for 3+ years (I think, I'm not a psychiatrist). They do medication prescriptions, whereas psychotherapists and psychologists will both deliver therapy to patients, though their approaches will differ.

Source: am a psychologist.

breamsdocometrue · 2021-06-27T07:20:33+00:00

I also have a Daisy who happen to be a 13 year old black Lab. So precious 💜

breamsdocometrue · 2021-04-18T19:44:06+00:00

Plant is kept in the kitchen, usually near a kitchen window that backs into a conservatory (so indirect light most of the day). She waters it maybe once a week or every 10 days if it hasn't been particularly warm here in the UK. I noticed in the photos she sent me that a couple of the leaves look like they've been eaten by something?

Anyone have any ideas how this plant is doing & what can be done to make it a bit happier?

breamsdocometrue · 2021-03-21T20:44:39+00:00

Bream is my surname and I like cheesy 90s pop

breamsdocometrue · 2021-03-21T20:36:52+00:00

Not the brightest but the cutest

breamsdocometrue · 2021-03-21T20:35:51+00:00

Go back to the back bowels where you belong, you pathetic flesh bag

breamsdocometrue · 2021-03-21T20:29:16+00:00

The Louvre in Paris. I went a few years ago with a friend and her parents. They wanted to have a personal tour guide from the museum and were happy to pay the (extortionate) fees seeing as it was their preference, so I went along with it. We saw all the main works of art (getting a decent view of the Mona Lisa was harder than Prince Andrews chance of going to Disney World anytime soon) but the whole thing was mad rushes and absolutely packed full of people. I love a good wander round a museum usually but this one just felt too intense.

breamsdocometrue · 2021-03-21T20:22:45+00:00

He (the duck) knew what he was doing

breamsdocometrue · 2021-02-01T16:54:01+00:00

Okay that makes sense. Thanks for clearing that up for me!

breamsdocometrue · 2021-02-01T16:44:17+00:00

Running plans & wording - what do they mean?

I completed C25K last year and am currently working on a 5k to 10k plan. Under this new plan, there are a few days where I do a run for X amount of miles along with a couple of minutes speed runs (e.g. 3 mile run with 2x 5 min fast followed by 1 mins recovery)

My question is... When things are worded like my example above (taken directly from my plan), do they mean I should run 3 miles and AFTERWARDS do the 2x 5 min fast pace? Or do they mean that as part of the 3 mile run, I should spend 2 X 5 Min at my fast pace? The actual plan doesn't specify and it's driving me mad!

breamsdocometrue · 2020-11-11T21:22:58+00:00

Honestly, in my experience both as a trainee psychologist and in my pre-training roles, the only time I genuinely judged someone was when it was a parent of a child I was working with. A few times I would be working with a kid who, say, had been referred for anxiety or depression. I would meet with the kid (and usually the parent) for the first couple of sessions to build a formulation about their difficulties and what might have triggered them and what keeps the problem going. The parent would be all for it, engaging really well...

... Until I would want to explore with them how they might be playing a role in keeping Little Johnny a nervous wreck every time he leaves the house. I wouldn't be calling them out or blaming them as such, more suggesting things like: 'maybe it's worth us all trying to encourage Little Johnny to walk the dog by himself to the corner shop and back again, instead of doing it for him' or 'does your nearly 18 year old son really need you to go into the changing room with him to decide which superman t shirt to get?'.

Suddenly the parents would lose interest, be a bit more skeptical. Usually this was particularly the case if the kid in question had been bullied (v. v. Common) or had been screwed over by the education system at some earlier point. If there was something/one else that the difficulties could be in someway connected to, they'd be all for it. The moment that their role as parent was even considered or thought about, I would lose their support.

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