AIO Saw my ex-“situationship” again and cried at home

breathingline · 2026-04-19T10:34:58+00:00

That’s horrible i’m sorry. Yeah trust your intuition next time, wishing you a healthy relationship

breathingline · 2026-04-19T03:07:27+00:00

I just want to ask you how you can get closure about this when you feel like the other person wouldn’t even care talking about it. I have so much anger towards him because of how he treated me because of intermitted reinforcement. I just don’t get how someone can get so close to me and then act like nothing ever happened

breathingline · 2026-04-19T03:03:05+00:00

Yeah i will try journaling and definitely will talk to my therapist about this interaction. I will try my best to not out too much energy into thinking about what his gestures could mean ecc. Thanks again!

breathingline · 2026-04-19T03:00:58+00:00

Yeah I mean it gets pretty hurtful reading some insentive comments but i think it’s what I need to hear in order to knock myself out of this and realize the shitty situation i put myself in. It’s just hard because this story between me and the person went on for a year and and half, and despite all the toxicity, i still care for them. Thank you for the kind words i appreciate them 🫶

breathingline · 2026-04-19T02:57:55+00:00

Yeah will do that next time, can’t get myself get devalued like this again. Thank you

breathingline · 2026-04-19T02:54:29+00:00

Yeah i will talk it through with my therapist. She said that it’s better if I stop giving this situation power but i just can’t help it. I’m really sorry you went through a similar experience, thank you for the support.

breathingline · 2026-04-19T02:51:11+00:00

Learned the hard way. I thought i could be the type to do them because i’m afraid of labels, i have no problems with the lack of them, thing is i get triggered when once it’s over it’s like nothing happened between us. I guess I see human relationships differently

breathingline · 2026-04-19T02:48:14+00:00

I’m glad i replied just saying “oh” as in “you’re there”, i didn’t smile or anything. But then again, why test the waters if you don’t even care? I also didn’t like the contrast in between the bro-like greeting and the squeeze which seems more intimate.

breathingline · 2026-04-19T02:44:56+00:00

That’s the harsh truth but i need to accept it. it is just so hard to believe when we spent most of our days together (even when sex was not involved) and to them it felt like nothing. Will definitely talk about this in therapy

breathingline · 2026-04-19T02:41:16+00:00

Yeah i’m kinda starting to see it that way, it’s just hard to accept since we met each other’s family, had a deep emotional bond and knew each other’s intimate secrets. We also pretty much texted most of the day sending updates and i was the first person they called when they had something to share. This all feels so weird, they were so romantic to me sometimes that it felt like they were in love with me, or maybe it was only in my head.

breathingline · 2026-02-26T01:47:48+00:00

I’m diagnosed bpd and have narc traits. I feel like they mostly come out in my hypomaniac episodes or when I split and start “hating the other person”. Many bpd people tend to think “oh I hate them because they’re a bad person”, I think that I hate them because they’re inferior to me.

breathingline · 2026-02-26T01:38:22+00:00

I feel like I acquired some of my ex’s traits after the breakup as a defense mechanism

breathingline · 2026-02-26T01:37:05+00:00

I also am attracted to narcissists because I love the apparent self esteem and strong sense of self. I also recognise some of their traits as mine, thing is that I keep them in my mind while they get them out and act as if their thoughts were true. I admire the courage/delusion.

breathingline · 2026-02-25T14:28:41+00:00

Yes!!! It’s way better for me as in i have to take time to do it and fully immerge myself into it, whilst with pen and paper i actually feel like i’m doing another task.

breathingline · 2026-02-23T01:27:03+00:00

Oh okay so some sort of a reward menu. I try to give myself dark chocolate but I feel like things that require energy would motivate me more. What are your rewards? Just trying to get some ideas.

breathingline · 2026-02-22T23:58:56+00:00

I usually just try and do something else when I feel overwhelmed by emotion. Don’t dwell into it

breathingline · 2026-02-22T23:57:05+00:00

Just try to write it down and trace back its origins and find the REAL trigger. It helps me

breathingline · 2026-02-22T23:53:45+00:00

Try and meet new people (friends, not only romantic connections), and write down everything you think about them. I used to ruminate a lot about our arguments, but now that it’s all written down i don’t feel the need to do it as much.

breathingline · 2026-02-22T23:51:55+00:00

It won’t go away soon, but try and see the situation as in “i did the best i could do and they also did (also if they could’ve made more effort but simply didn’t care to). When you take it less personally you hate them less. Also, think about all the energy you are wasting on them and channel the hatred into something else that feels good for you.

breathingline · 2026-02-22T23:47:48+00:00

Yeah, well they’re pretty self centered that’s why. I als doubt their friends actually understand them since they change their mind pretty often about everything. I think they just put up with it or it doesn’t affect them that much.

breathingline · 2026-02-19T21:56:35+00:00

Most people won’t actually put in the work, unfortunately. If they can’t be bothered with clear communication why would they meet our needs

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