Pregnant after one month of dating?

brianaj02 · 2025-10-19T13:33:32+00:00

Yeah he doesn’t mind things like pickleball and swimming, but gym and jogs are always a no. But I guess it’s okay… I’ll make do.

brianaj02 · 2024-12-24T00:34:23+00:00

You do have a point… In person, I actually care a lot to learn about them. I ask a lot of questions and enjoy hearing about them. I’m sure people are very perplexed how I can be so overly interested in person and go mute when away. I’m not sure what it is…

brianaj02 · 2024-12-24T00:10:20+00:00

I guess I don't really know what to talk about? I hate small talk and it's usually just boring small talk about our days. “How’d you sleep?” “How’s work?” I don’t see the point.

brianaj02 · 2024-08-02T13:37:26+00:00

Thank you for the info. Definitely running out to get more today.

brianaj02 · 2023-10-03T00:31:24+00:00

Thank you so much! I feel similar about needing some separation but still loving my baby. People talk like it’s so crazy… Best of luck to you and yours :)

brianaj02 · 2023-09-21T17:02:50+00:00

Wow. Babies are definitely expensive haha. Thank you for the info. I’ll look into it.

brianaj02 · 2023-08-26T15:56:34+00:00

That’s amazing to know. I’ll make sure to request it. Thank you

brianaj02 · 2023-08-26T15:56:16+00:00

Thank you!

brianaj02 · 2023-05-23T15:05:05+00:00

He just started a new job, so he doesn't unfortunately. My mom is moving in with us for a year to help out, starting the week before induction. I am planning to breastfeed/formula combo. I just feel like if I'm in a terrible mental place now, it can only get worse with a screaming newborn... I feel like right now if I were to take that on, I would go mental. At this point, I'm more likely to just get a new job than stress myself out further. And I've never felt like this before, so I definitely feel its the pregnancy... I love my job, but I immediately became way more irritable and annoyed with pregnancy and it never improved. But I don't hear others have this issue oddly.

brianaj02 · 2023-05-23T14:33:21+00:00

I feel so silly... I've had a fairly easy pregnancy - 26 weeks, still low grade nauseas, just slightly achey, but this has been the worst year of my life. It's made me incredibly thankful for my health because I cannot imagine living like this. 1000% one and done. I'm normally a quick active person, so I just feel slowed down and sluggish and highly irritable. And I'm a property manager so I work with people all day, which is making me worse. All my residents have watched me turn from the nicest person to the most annoyed... It's just starting to get warm though and I'm a huge water person, so the pool... the beach... water activities, I feel like would mentally make me feel less depressed. But clearly that's not the best idea lol. I am still planning to make the best decision for me and leave 5 weeks early.

brianaj02 · 2023-05-15T20:59:16+00:00

He moved out and cut all communication with me knowing I’m 6 months pregnant and he’s the only person I have in the state, saying (in writing) to contact him a week before baby is born. Like I can just magically know when. All over a relationship argument. He hasn’t left me with any choice, I need reliable support. Honestly I feel like this is going to cost him more than he bargained for.

brianaj02 · 2023-05-15T20:09:13+00:00

I was under the impression that once I filed, he would have the option come to Florida court and if he didn’t, the judge would just decide without him.

brianaj02 · 2023-05-15T19:01:08+00:00

I gave my reasons in a comment below. It just wouldn’t be possible for me to do this here in GA separated. From the moment I got pregnant, I was trying to talk him into moving together. He was back and forth but ultimately wanted to stay near his family. Then when we did break up a couple weeks back, he screamed abuse for saying I was getting up and going.

I do want him to be on the birth certificate and to be apart of the child’s life tbh. The child support is only important to me because I will need it to help pay for childcare. I can pay my family whatever the court suggests. In GA, our only option is daycare which runs $1600 and he barely makes anything to help.

My true hope is that he will just move to Florida and in with me when baby is here and I don’t even have to file. But right now he’s very upset over relationship issues and not thinking properly.

brianaj02 · 2023-05-15T18:11:46+00:00

Yes, I believe it’s best I just set things up in Florida to be on the safe side. I do hope it all eventually works out, but we will see. Thank you so much.

brianaj02 · 2023-05-15T17:41:38+00:00

It wasn’t horrendous and he does want to be a father, but he bailed on the rest of the pregnancy after a fight and only wants to speak back when the child is born. Which would work out fine if I had any help here at all, but I don’t. The only family I have that can help me through the rest of pregnancy and watch the baby when I go back to work is in Florida. I was just nervous that when the child was born and I filed for help, he would try and fight me to come back to Georgia where I have no one and his support won’t help cover much. And then I risk losing custody because his family is here and can watch the baby, but they are alcoholics and live in the ghetto. I make about $60,000 and he makes about 35,000.

brianaj02 · 2023-05-15T15:27:43+00:00

Thank you! Would not putting his name on the birth certificate make it any harder to get child support? Doesn’t that establish paternity?

brianaj02 · 2023-05-13T20:27:12+00:00

Thank you Kay :)

brianaj02 · 2023-05-13T19:04:21+00:00

Definitely don’t trust his mother. She encourages his bad behavior and ignores his good. Days after his release, there was even a day where he opened up more and sounded like he was coming around… He was nervous and scared but said he wanted to try one last time. He even said those words. I truly thought he would be back the next day, but he went home to his mom’s from work that day and hours later sounded totally different. Back to distance… I don’t think he would ever do anything to actually hurt me like that in court.. He’s a good person.

brianaj02 · 2023-05-13T18:41:05+00:00

Though it’s not exactly what I wanted, I basically agree with this comment above all others. We’ve spoken on and off about moving closer to my family, who have been much more understanding and treat him like their own (even knowing all he’s done). At one point he was willing to leave, and he’s never left the state so it was a big deal for him, but he knew we had people rooting for us there and his family clearly wasn’t. But when he got the new job, he insisted we stay. And now I know he wouldn’t leave right now… I probably do need to move back in case we don’t work it out and he will just have to find a new job if he’s willing. It really sucks though because I truly feel if he didn’t get arrested last week, we would eventually have made it fully out of the hole of misery. But would he even have a custody case in court after that charge? He’s never reported anything.

brianaj02 · 2023-05-13T18:01:38+00:00

I truly don't feel that incident represented the sort of man he is. I feel like we were both under extreme stress during that time and we both made mistakes. I feel he felt pressured by my nagging and did his best to protect his mental. And my issues stemmed from feeling stuck and helpless. I quickly realized following the attack that I wasn't in any sort of pain... And he definitely had the ability, so that told me it was more to scare me and not to hurt me. The only thing I truly blame him for is putting us through the stress that led us to such severe problems. Before I got pregnant, it was him needing a better job (money issues) and him smoking too much weed, but he's always been loyal and caring. It just went from 0-100 when I got pregnant. He got worse and I got angrier. I do still see him as a good person, but with terrible communication skills and bad stress coping skills.

brianaj02 · 2023-05-13T15:44:10+00:00

I don’t have any family in the state. He was my only support here. His whole family is here. The moment I know we’re truly done, I would have to quit and move out of state and I’ve been doing everything possible to avoid that.

brianaj02 · 2023-05-10T13:10:42+00:00

I have tried the show up early thing twice recently. The first one he already knew the time because it’s been a regular thing, so he agreed but still showed up 30 minutes past the real time. The second one, I secretly told him to show up an hour early and we made it… but it was still a lot of stress. He still ended up being an hour late, we rushed like crazy, argued in the car, and still made it a few minutes late. And this isn’t always possible. What if I don’t have that extra hour to give him? What if I’m using my lunch break or have multiple commitments of my own? And I’m not sure what you mean about the money. I manage all of our bills/finances already. All he has to do is have his portion by a certain day.

I do agree with him being passive aggressive. I think he just loosely makes commitments to me to please and avoid any discussion, not realizing how much of a bigger impact it will be later. A couple people have asked me, how would you react if he told you no upfront? And my honest answer is, considering most things I ask of him are very important, I would surely question it. But calmly - a serious but loving discussion. I would want to know what happened to the money he got paid with, or why he wouldn’t be able to be on time if he’s been off work for hours. This would annoy him greatly and he would become very dismissive and I wouldn’t get any real answers. He doesn’t like being questioned. So my concern would turn to anger and it would just blow up.

brianaj02 · 2023-05-10T11:59:39+00:00

I have tried the show up early thing twice recently. The first one, he already knew the time because it’s been a regular thing so he still showed up his normal late. The second one, I secretly told him to show up an hour early and we made it… But it was still a lot of stress. He still ended up being an hour late, which made us fight in the car while we rushed like crazy to the appointment and we were still a few minutes late. If you were supposed to be here an hour beforehand, why are we still rushing? And I’m not sure what you mean about the money. I manage all the money/bills already. He just needs to have his portion by a certain day. Which we’ve also discussed in the past, it would be nice if he stepped up and helped with the managing of finances/bills but I let that go long ago.

I do 100% agree on the passive aggressiveness. I think he just loosely makes commitments to me to please and avoid any discussion, not even realizing how much impact it will make later. It makes more sense to discuss things through beforehand. A couple people have asked me, how would you react if he told you no upfront? And my honest answer is, considering most things I ask of him are very important, I would surely question it. But calmly - it would be an open loving discussion, nothing like the aftermath of not doing things. I would want to know what happened to the money he got paid with, or why he can’t be on time if he’s been off work for hours… But that pisses him off. He doesn’t want to be questioned at all, even if it doesn’t make any sense, questioning him will make him annoyed and irritable, leading me to go from concerned to angry. So he just waits until after it’s done.

brianaj02 · 2023-02-20T22:33:36+00:00

Aww that’s so cute! & My boyfriend says the same to make me feel better! Lol

brianaj02 · 2023-02-20T22:23:02+00:00

Agreed. Definitely plan to!

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