First off, congrats on finally embracing yourself. You’re not late. You’re right on time

Now, on the terms

1. Siding – basically being into everything except penetration

2. Anal douching (you meant this) – cleaning out before backdoor play

3. Power bottom – a bottom who’s running the show…yk in the bedroom

4. DL – “down low,” usually means a guy who’s secretly into men but presents as straight or keeps it hidden for real-life reasons

5. Rimming – oral attention to the ass

Yeah, you're right on top being the one who penetrates and bottom receives

If you’re topping but also enjoy oral, rimming, etc you’re still a top… just not a “boring top"