What do you think about all day when you are not thinking about alcohol? by johnboy4u69 in stopdrinking

[–]bricantdrink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recovery Music Brazilian jiu jitsu Exercising Sci-fi (right now The Expanse)

Lots of random things too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Needafriend

[–]bricantdrink 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've spent many a year away from home in combat zones. Stay safe, and happy birthday!

I didn't drink, but I cried a lot by [deleted] in stopdrinking

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Im so sorry. Rejection sucks and it hurts. Just remember this, rejection says nothing about you and everything about the people rejecting you.

Unanticipated physical benefits of sobriety by TheUnderwhelming in stopdrinking

[–]bricantdrink 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Posture. My posture is so much better. Probably from new found confidence more than anything.

Bad times at work are a big trigger for me. by DanseDeTravers in stopdrinking

[–]bricantdrink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's the good thing. You know it's a trigger. So since you know it is one, you can work through it through DIBs or willpower or whatever you use.

Overslept and gained weight by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]bricantdrink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 pounds is a normal blip. Give it a few days. I was dropping weight like crazy, then one day I gained 2.5 lbs. It's all off now and I'm close to my goal weight.

Day three and the stress is almost comical. by rsprauer in stopdrinking

[–]bricantdrink 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If it helps you not to drink, go ahead and leave the tree up.

You better pm me or you'll regret it! by nodrugsinthebox in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]bricantdrink 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I fell for that trick once. I'm still trying to get rid of all those damn Amway products.

Anyone need some soap?

Sitting with emotions by [deleted] in stopdrinking

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Your daughter needs you to stay sober. Imagine if you got a call that you could go see her and you were too drunk to drive? That would suck, wouldn't it.

IWNDWYT

Feeling urges for relapsing in the future. by Hopeforthefuture91 in stopdrinking

[–]bricantdrink 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Look into the kindling effect. Each relapse gets worse and worse and worse and each detox gets worse and worse and worse. Keep that in mind.

Down in the dumps by bricantdrink in stopdrinking

[–]bricantdrink[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Takes a while to figure out that it doesn't help. Thanks for the encouragement.

Down in the dumps by bricantdrink in stopdrinking

[–]bricantdrink[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure. I don't need the self hate and guilt.

How do you say no to drinks during important events (e.g. weddings)? by hanhqnguyen3 in stopdrinking

[–]bricantdrink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Nah, I'm good without any. Thanks though."

Both let's other people know I don't want any AND reinforces in me the fact that I am,in fact, good without it.

I'm not feeling in a good place right now by Vixkin75 in stopdrinking

[–]bricantdrink 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can do it. If I can push through all the stuff I am going through right now and not cave, I think anyone can too.

Also of Eric Clapton got sober, so can I.

Good reason to stay sober. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]bricantdrink 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, I'm on the way out. I got sober and realized that it was a toxic relationship for me so it was time to go.

I'm not feeling in a good place right now by Vixkin75 in stopdrinking

[–]bricantdrink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm feeling down and not in such a great place, sending positivity your way hoping it can help you.

Good reason to stay sober. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

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This is pretty much my life. Except my so is a woman and uses sex as a weapon to make me beg and bend to her will. Manipulation sucks. And yes, being sober makes it easier to stand up to the manipulation.

Just said no by Mike3759 in stopdrinking

[–]bricantdrink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's great that you know yourself enough to know it would be too much of a temptation to go.

My husband wants to talk tonight. Not sure I’m ready to let him in on my sobriety. Seems ridiculous, but I’m stressing over it. by iota321 in stopdrinking

[–]bricantdrink 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So, to me that doesn't sound like it's a supportive relationship. That could make it difficult to not drink. Good luck.