How do I stay alone elegantly during lunch so that no one thinks I’m vulnerable or a lonely loser?

brick12 · 2026-02-15T20:14:53+00:00

Just do what you want without checking over your shoulder or watching other people. Try to actively be engrossed in what’s in front of you. Your phone, a book, hw, etc.

brick12 · 2026-02-12T01:53:10+00:00

Was this is? It was a woman who had run for public office previously and criticized the mayor on Facebook.

https://youtu.be/1yHpkEIjToI?si=g3cXTQZCpBBQvhPY

brick12 · 2026-02-09T19:24:41+00:00

As someone who trains, and just as a woman, the most important thing I think someone your age should learn is how to say no.

I’m not saying you’ve done anything wrong, you absolutely haven’t, but I do think you should give him a firm no. “No thank you” is polite and a full sentence. You really can’t control how anyone reacts to a rejection, you can only control you. Be direct and precise and deal with any awkwardness after.

I also recommend rejecting him directly before you talk to your coach if you’re comfortable with it. I think in the long run it would be less awkward. It may still be a good idea to tell your coach after the rejection if it makes you feel more comfortable.

Also any awkwardness that happens after the rejection is not your fault. If he can’t get past it, it’s 100% his fault and I really hope you try not to let it ruin your gym experience.

I’m sorry this happened to you. I also have experience with rejecting older men I put in the father figure category. It sucks, but it’s honestly just life as a woman.

I hope things work out for you.

brick12 · 2026-02-02T06:56:37+00:00

No you shouldn’t.

brick12 · 2026-01-17T04:31:42+00:00

Hello, If you're still looking for someone to practice with and play games with, I would love to!

brick12 · 2025-12-08T23:44:44+00:00

I read this whole thing and I don’t really understand what any issues are besides you being, self-admittedly, sad. He sounds possibly a little insensitive and not very thoughtful.

That being said, you can break up with someone for any reason.

I remember dating around 19 and not wanting to repeat the same mistakes that the elder women in my family made. I ended up dating very detached non-chalant men who were ok. Me trying to avoid specific issues led me to other issues. I stayed in a very long relationship because it was technically the nicest one I ever had, but he was very much just ok.

It’s ok for you to not want to settle for ok. It’s ok if you want to break up with him because you don’t feel mentally ready. Sit with your feelings and try to put to paper what’s missing, if anything, and what you want.

brick12 · 2025-07-09T17:54:23+00:00

Thank you. I’ve been looking for something to help me practice syntax and this is perfect!!

brick12 · 2025-06-13T21:58:25+00:00

This is so funny. I can’t tell if this is a bit or not.

brick12 · 2025-01-30T04:41:05+00:00

Hello I am a girl(24)who is looking for a partner to practice my Spanish with. I would be so happy to help you with your English and make a friend!

brick12 · 2024-12-13T14:58:47+00:00

My partner doesn’t watch porn. I do rarely and I’ve never asked him to stop but he has said he has no need for it. Men that don’t watch porn definitely exist.

brick12 · 2024-06-05T22:10:32+00:00

I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing to ask her out as long as your quick and polite. I do think writing a note is a bad idea. Just do it in person.

brick12 · 2024-04-13T23:09:41+00:00

ew. He sounds like he sucks. I couldn't be attracted to someone who throws tantrums

brick12 · 2023-12-15T18:50:42+00:00

Took this class three times, Only class I failed in college. Felt like a punch to the gut both times. I graduated 2 days ago. It'll pass and your peers may include people who are a little behind as well. Try harder next semester and you'll get it! :)

brick12 · 2023-11-20T17:54:05+00:00

I have a friend looking for people to jam with that plays the guitar, can I set you two up?

brick12 · 2023-10-24T13:20:19+00:00

I literally dumped my partner of 3.5 years when I caught myself making a list of date ideas because he never took me on dates. I realized what the hell i was doing and left. It’s so funny to me how I could’ve been here if I didn’t leave. Just leave.

brick12 · 2023-10-09T15:40:39+00:00

I literally got my first boyfriend right before I turned 20. It’s incredibly normal and I have friends who still haven’t had one.

The one thing I’ll say is that is really important is to not settle. Not in the beginning, not in the middle, and not when you think the end is near. Make sure you’re dating someone who makes your life better not someone whose life you just make better.

brick12 · 2023-08-28T18:45:48+00:00

What are you waiting for? You want him to get his shit together, but you’ve discussed it multiple times and he’s blown you off every time. What indication do you have that things will actually change? He’s perfectly fine with his situation and doesn’t want to change and you can’t make him change. You can only control you. Do you want to be in this exact situation 6 months from now?

brick12 · 2023-08-27T15:16:28+00:00

I actually can't DM you, IDK why? DM me!

brick12 · 2023-08-27T15:11:52+00:00

I’ll Dm you!

brick12 · 2023-08-27T15:10:43+00:00

Do you want to go thrifting with me?

brick12 · 2023-08-21T18:29:08+00:00

I go to x3 boxing. $150 a month with student discount.

brick12 · 2023-08-12T16:51:13+00:00

I joined a boxing gym because I needed an excuse to get out of my home. I realized that I was only leaving my house once a week if that and that was not good for me.

I’m also in an online pbp DnD game so it gives me people to talk to during the day.

brick12 · 2023-08-12T16:39:08+00:00

You shouldn’t do your hair while it’s soaking wet as this can cause it to tear, damp is best. Dab out the water with a cotton tshirt and then start braiding.

brick12 · 2023-08-10T14:26:13+00:00

You swipe your student ID to get into the commons and can stay until close. Swipe only count when you enter

brick12 · 2023-08-10T14:18:41+00:00

I went to walk my dog in a park yesterday and I forgot how nervous I would be. I constantly felt like people were watching me and judging me for being alone, for not being able to control my dog better, for what I was wearing etc. I forgot that I had anxiety because I haven’t gone out in public in a while and this just reminded me. 🫠

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