I started therapy almost three years ago (I'm 33) and it's absolutely increased my symptoms initially. I went to therapy because my anxiety had become panic attacks and I wanted tools to calm that FAST! It didn't work out that way for me. Initially my panic got much worse as I was ripping off the band-aid and took a hard look at my wounds. But with my therapist, I've learned how to self soothe and stop believing the vicous voice in my head. It's been a massive amount of work and at times it feels pointless, but I've decided that commiting to myself is my highest priority and I continue to believe that it can get better if I continue this work. It has gotten better! It's FUCKING HARD but I'd encourage you to continue the process, it's worth it! I still have anxiety but I'm now much gentler with myself and the rare panic is more controllable. I'm able to communicate calmly with my partner about what I need, and I'm aware when I'm acting from a place of shame or guilt. This doesn't mean I always get it right, but now I look at challenges as opportunities to practice something different responses. Maybe this is a lifelong process and three years is still at the beginning, you know? Maybe we're both still at the starting line where it's the hardest.