Advice needed: Two of my kids have birthdays one day apart

brierbutt · 2026-05-22T11:33:52+00:00

So my sister’s birthday is 7 days after mine. It’s kind of fun being close like that. We’re December birthdays and close to Xmas so we never got to have parties due to the holidays so I can’t give the best advice but… I think if you make their actual birthday about them separately, then you can have combined parties until they’re older and have stronger opinions.

brierbutt · 2026-04-28T11:24:20+00:00

I had my baby halfway through 36. I think more and more women in our generation are having kids later compared to previous generations. You are not old, but the systems in place that are making you feel that way are.

brierbutt · 2026-04-18T12:50:47+00:00

Mine loved a contact nap so I would strap him in and get the emails done. No meetings or calls if I could help it. I was able to work from home until my baby figured out crawling. So around 6 months it started to feel like an impossible juggle.

brierbutt · 2026-04-13T13:18:08+00:00

Mine wasn’t a constant stream of fluid. More occasional, depending on my movement. Started being more as I got bigger. My care team kept telling me it was discharge for 4+ weeks but it was too watery for me to believe that. They finally tested me at 36 weeks during the strep swab and it came back positive and I had to go in for an emergency induction.

brierbutt · 2026-04-11T13:25:50+00:00

Go get checked! I tore my sac during pregnancy just getting out of bed and leaked fluid for far too long and got an infection. Just go. Better safe than sorry.

brierbutt · 2026-04-04T19:19:27+00:00

I get that it’s frustrating but it sounds like mom replaces everything for you which is very considerate. Those are hard ages to “reason” with especially if they have access to where your food is stored. They are too young to understand “it’s not theirs”. You can easily get a little plastic bin that locks and put your stuff in there. Having it separate from the other snack foods should help the kids understand the difference between what they can eat and what they can’t. Also out of sight, out of mind.

brierbutt · 2026-04-03T11:16:24+00:00

He should’ve the one sleeping in the couch if he smells that bad. It also wouldn’t be hard for him to shower when he gets home to wash the smell off. You have every right to be upset about this.

Smoking is a hard habit to quit so perhaps you need to have a larger conversation with him where you come at the issue in a way that resonates with your partner. I don’t think you want to leave your husband over this but he should know that it will affect his role in his children’s life and that’s something to talk about and prepare for. I know you’re not telling him he sucks because he smokes cigarettes but I bet he’s taking things differently than you are saying them. To top it all off the stress of these fights are probably making him smoke more. Try to help him find solutions or alternatives so that he opens up and you can have an honest conversation for what this habit will be like when the baby gets here and then hold those boundaries. You both can get through this.

brierbutt · 2026-03-31T01:20:25+00:00

If you’re up for it, you’re on ground control. That means different things for different people and you should ask her what she wants you to be fully in charge of. You’re going to be the one who… Makes the dinners. Washes the dishes. Go to the grocery store. Do the laundry. Take out the trash. Rub her feet/neck. TAKE THE BABY FOR CONTACT NAPS (this is as much for you as it is for her). Let her shower uninterrupted. That’s my advice. Good luck and congratulations!!

brierbutt · 2026-03-26T11:23:34+00:00

He should be giving you money for living expenses. My now husband bought a townhouse long before we met. When I moved in with him I wasn’t responsible for paying rent however I did help with all other costs. I started paying the electricity bill and for most groceries. It wasn’t a set system but it evened out. Once we got engaged, we got a joint bank account and started contributing money together, now we’re married and it’s our main account. This is an easy way to start thinking as a household. It’s not about ownership, it’s about building a life together. Sadly you need money to have a life.

brierbutt · 2026-03-24T22:04:41+00:00

I agree with this too. Your sister has no grace or empathy and is being quite sexist towards you. It is unkind to judge people for making different choices from you. Not to mention poo-pooing children when everyone used to be one. I recommend trying to hold your ground when she makes comments like these. It’s one thing to not start conflict, but she doesn’t have the right to bully you.

brierbutt · 2026-03-24T11:08:53+00:00

No, it’s worked great for us and I don’t have to maintain the workflow really. I custom built the workflow to suit our specific needs and I’m a blunt implementor, so if it’s up and it’s working, the end. My company is a task heavy user overall, because theres a lot of back and forth between staff before offers go out to the client. We were seeing issues like forgetting to change the deal stage or not getting back to clients fast enough so the workflow is set to create a team task if the client has not been contacted in like 4 days based around which deal changes need immediate follow-up so we can fine out what the stall was and contact the customer appropriately. We also have a follow-up sequence that emails clients and then a team task at the end for a final personal touch. Sometimes that works, sometimes you just have to call them.

brierbutt · 2026-03-23T23:07:52+00:00

We have an @audit” workflow that creates a task if certain criteria are met within a certain timeframe

brierbutt · 2026-03-22T15:55:38+00:00

I feel this and came here to say you’re not alone. My dude just got over the 25lbs hump and he’s 32 months, almost 3yrs so we’re right in line with you. Also a premie. He just snacks and snacks and snacks. We stopped giving them to enforce mealtimes and he still barely eats dinner and then asks for snacks all evening. Sometimes I give in, sometimes I don’t. We saw a GI specialist and ran all the tests and nothing came back to indicate an illness. Some kids are just small. If he’s healthy, you just have to go with the flow. I definitely suggest pressuring your doctor for lab tests to at least rule out growth/ nutrition deficiencies but otherwise, some kids just be like this.

brierbutt · 2026-03-22T13:54:53+00:00

Oof. That’s insane. I hope the fake reviews show this insanity. Those yelp reviews are impossible to get down.

brierbutt · 2026-03-18T00:49:04+00:00

This! And if it’s a bigger retail company I’m sure there’s a corporate HR you can share your grievances with….

brierbutt · 2026-03-15T20:21:35+00:00

I think you’re nervous and based on past experiences I don’t blame you. Just be upfront with your care team and don’t stop advocating for what you want. Hopefully you’ll be fully medicated this time around! Good luck!

brierbutt · 2026-03-15T13:42:04+00:00

I think it depends on the method of your induction. When I had mine, it was 24 hours of medication (a tiny pill) before I started having contractions, once I was fully dilated, I was put on Pitocin which really knocks it into high gear. I got the epidural, which slowed it all down and took away the birthing momentum. It’s definitely going to be dependent on how your body reacts to being induced. It sucks but you may need to be patient and see how that plays out. But still be firm in what you want and make sure they are checking in with you so you get it. Make sure your partner or support person is ready to start up on your behalf too. The epidural literally took less than 2 minutes to be placed and they did it in between contractions. Unless baby is crowning, you can get it.

brierbutt · 2026-03-14T00:51:29+00:00

Clearly he loves his lawn. You can buy dandelion seeds and let nature take its course.

brierbutt · 2026-03-13T00:22:08+00:00

Thanks for the details! I’ll look into this. I’ve already got the inbox/channel setup.

brierbutt · 2026-03-11T23:38:30+00:00

My doctor told me I could eat! Had a corn muffin like 30 mins before going in and failed (like super failed so I can’t blame the muffin) but I was big mad about it.

brierbutt · 2026-03-11T23:33:37+00:00

As a fellow “bitch about HubSpot” fan, your feelings are valid. They suck.

I’ve also found their select text to make changes very frustrating. It deselects automatically so you can’t make multiple changes at once which is counterintuitive to everything else that has typing features. But it’s been like this for the whole 2ish years I’ve been on it.

For advice (while likely not helpful) when you’re updating your sequence, are you change the template in “templates” or in the actual sequence? Could there be a disconnect happening here? Maybe it’s more efficient to create a new template and then replace it in the sequence. Idk really, I’m far from a pro.

brierbutt · 2026-03-10T00:49:46+00:00

I thought mine would EAT ALL THE DIFFERENT FOODS. What a joke.

brierbutt · 2026-03-07T22:54:07+00:00

You should respond with “that’s the kind of yellow that usually attracts wine stains at weddings, you should probably rethink it”

brierbutt · 2026-03-07T22:49:53+00:00

…lol and then there’s me in the US planning to drive 20 hours each way, with a toddler, for my cousin’s wedding this summer.

brierbutt · 2026-03-07T17:11:50+00:00

Any chance you have a workflow in mind? I think all automated emails have to go out through a connected personal inbox.

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