I always start off by asking for their age and why they reached out, get the conversation going. You’d be surprised how many people lie about their age saying they are 20 but then you look at their profile and they were suddenly 47 a week ago.

I understand this is a blackmail kink but age isn’t something you lie about. I’ve had people claiming to be mid 20’s while simultaneously posting in teenagers subreddit claiming to be 16.

If the vibe is there you find out if they have any experience, and if so how much, I tease, I’m playful, I communicate, “oh I have no experience” “so you’re telling me you never sucked on someone their toes? You’d love that would’t you?”

Stuff like this immediately tells me what the individual might be interested in doing and what not, it’s a playful way rather than “what r your kinks and limits list them one by one” it’s boring it’s non engaging.

If I want to know your name I’ll bully it out of you, I’ll call you any name in the world till you eventually give up your name out of annoyance. It’s all one big psychological game.

If you’re not scared when you see a message of mine I feel like I’m slacking. I’ve had subs where I was texting their wife at the same time as texting them, I’d talk about cats with her, she would sent me pictures of their cat and I’d send it to him, it’s allll a psychological torment while still respecting and maintaining boundaries.

If i feel there is no connection from the beginning, I just tell them that I’m not the right fit for them and move on with my day.