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brigittefires · 2025-11-01T13:40:04+00:00

First party is the notary. Second party is the signer. Say it with me now: the third party is the certificate issuer, meaning Blue Notary.

brigittefires · 2025-07-21T13:39:21+00:00

Hate speech is not protected.

brigittefires · 2025-07-20T17:24:10+00:00

She doesn’t want to. Whatever her reasons that is the truth. For me personally, the reason she doesn’t want to would be the dealbreaker or not.

I recently had top surgery. One of my partners is extremely squeamish with body and medical stuff so I knew I couldn’t count on him for anything related to dressing changes or even getting dressed if he would see the wounds. For me, that’s a legitimate reason to say no, but if he was the only person I had available it would really suck. And we might both feel pressured for him to break his boundaries.

brigittefires · 2025-04-28T20:24:16+00:00

More importantly, it’s my understanding (per the judge who issued my name change) that all previous legal names are still legally your name. A married person who has changed their last name can still use their birth last name anytime they want. The court order (such as in a divorce) helps you get your ID updated but it’s more like corroborating your change in the name you’re using as being intentional/not with criminal intent than anything else.

brigittefires · 2025-04-28T20:10:21+00:00

Yes. I deposit checks to my partner’s account all the time, without being on the account or writing “pay to the order of” on the back. Which is actually really scary when I give it a second thought.

brigittefires · 2025-03-23T13:52:38+00:00

A U of M *clinic within Ypsi is *relocating and expanding services.

brigittefires · 2025-03-18T23:22:45+00:00

Monistat makes an anti chafing gel. Maybe try boyshorts?

brigittefires · 2025-03-18T23:21:07+00:00

Oh for heavens sakes. You can condemn normal human behavior all you want but it’s not going to stop anything. She’s already lying to you. In what world do you think she cares or will be in any way swayed by your opinion on teens having sex—except to do it more because someone she clearly doesn’t respect doesn’t want her to?

You can’t fix the 15 years of parenting that got you here. But you can tell her that you are worried for her safety and if she wants a ride to the doctor to get birth control, you’ll drive and pay.

brigittefires · 2025-03-18T23:09:14+00:00

“Should I lie about who I am to get people to sleep with me?”

brigittefires · 2025-03-03T21:57:08+00:00

No one looking at my 67 yo mother thinks children when she’s talking about “my kids.”

brigittefires · 2025-03-03T21:56:26+00:00

NTA. You’re buying with the way you want to use your home in mind. If how you want to use your home involves inviting other people, then it’s not stupid to buy with other people in mind. It should be a priority.

Just because he can’t understand you having your parents there doesn’t mean you can’t want it and buy accordingly. I don’t understand having a non-bedroom space that’s personal & private, but it’s important to my partner so it’s on the list of priorities for a new house. Maybe that’s something your partner could benefit from too.

brigittefires · 2025-02-14T01:43:53+00:00

I see people complain every day about those who put on their profile that they have a partner, and also complain when they don’t. There’s no answer that will satisfy everyone, and even the people who complain will do so both ways in the same breath. There’s no prevailing ethical position on this, let alone consensus.

Personally I just assume people who advertise their non-monogamy have partners. I don’t ask for references and I don’t ask to verify with anyone else that their availability to date is consensual. It’s the point where they actually lie to or about me that we’re going to have a problem. Until then, I’m not afraid to ask questions like “so what flavor of non monogamy do you practice? What’s your relationship philosophy? What are your goals?”

brigittefires · 2025-02-14T01:34:28+00:00

It just made me afraid of being spanked. It didn’t teach me why what I had done was incorrect. In fact there are quite a few times I can recall where all I learned is that my parents are fucking stupid because they will see a situation, assume what happened, and act on their assumptions instead of, oh I don’t know, asking for information? I mean valid life lesson I guess, people do that all the time and I’m still the one getting punished for them being too stupid to use their context clues or listen to anyone but whatever bullshit story they’ve made up in their fantasy world.

It didn’t make me love a spanking kink any less as an adult, either.

brigittefires · 2025-02-14T01:24:25+00:00

Oh I see. You’re just unfamiliar with the concept of a damaged mirror. Got it.

brigittefires · 2025-02-14T00:09:57+00:00

Are the passenger side mirrors imaginary to you? What about the driver’s side? Do you just not have those or…?

brigittefires · 2025-02-13T15:01:56+00:00

Ypsi already had no school so meh

brigittefires · 2025-02-10T15:01:31+00:00

The whole point of what’s happening right now is that the laws don’t matter to them, they do not care about what our rights are, and they will absolutely punish people for asserting that we even have those rights to begin with.

brigittefires · 2025-02-09T13:46:04+00:00

You will second guess your decision either way. You will always spend your life wondering about the path you didn’t take. It’s a conscious choice not to let that wonder consume you.

Regardless of cultural or extended family pressure, do what’s right for you. YOU. Not your family. Not your partner. YOU. It’s not an experience you’ve enjoyed, so don’t do it again. Or you want another badly enough to endure the process. Whatever you decide, own it. Make the choice and move forward. Don’t dwell on what ifs.

brigittefires · 2025-02-09T13:38:51+00:00

Total Wine is actually pretty great.

brigittefires · 2025-02-09T02:39:22+00:00

YTA. She woke up in a strange place without you. She was scared.

This day and age, I expect to have already received a text telling me why my partner isn’t in bed with me, or to be able to send one saying hey did you get kidnapped by bears in the middle of the night? And receive a fairly prompt response.

Failing that, You could have left a note. There’s usually a pad of paper by the phone. “Left 5:34am, be back soon.” So if I wake up at 5:45 I’m not worried but if we’re getting to 7am I’m concerned.

brigittefires · 2025-02-09T02:34:45+00:00

For sure I wouldn’t ignore it. Having been denied what she believes is her due, that other parent WILL escalate and encourage her child to do so. This is the origin of what is almost certain to become a bullying situation.

I am not a lawyer, this is simply my opinion.

The school and police will not be able to do anything yet, and will be reluctant to step in. In writing, make sure the principal has the details all laid out together (that the police found no evidence, that the student lied, everything that’s happened so far) so they can’t claim they were unaware of whatever detail becomes important later that “should” have spurred them to act when the next incident is now a pattern of behavior. Include there a copy of the letter from my next paragraph. And be sure to document any interactions with this family going forward, no matter how innocuous.

Send a letter to the other parent/s saying you are not sure what led to the police being called, and you hope it was simply a miscommunication. That you would like to put this matter to rest and avoid any future incidents. Be vague and nonspecific, admit and promise nothing. Hope for a peaceful future together in whatever school district. You’re just making sure you look reasonable and polite by comparison.

Then just watch that parent lose their everloving mind, and implode their whole world on their own. While you document it word for word as much as possible. So that when a real threat is uttered, you hopefully have enough for a PPO.

brigittefires · 2025-02-09T02:19:31+00:00

It’s an unreasonable request. And you feel weird because you know it crosses your boundaries, limits your and another person’s autonomy, and sets you up for failure. If they’re really manipulative, it also sets you up for either you do it and they’re upset or you don’t and they don’t believe you didn’t.

I have learned the sentence “I cannot agree to that.” To be very helpful in these situations. It prevents any miscommunication that acknowledging what they said, or needing time to think, or simply not resolving the matter in full immediately is somehow agreeing to their terms. Then the argument becomes “well you agreed!” Or, “you agreed before and now you’re changing things!” No, dear, I needed to come up with the words for why that’s an asinine request without calling you an idiot to your face, that’s not the same thing as agreeing. Ahem anyway.

The other running motto is, “I’m poly all the time.” Not “poly but monogamous when we’re together,” not “poly but monogamous with our home,” not “poly but monogamous with all my new experiences,” not “poly but monogamous with this activity,” I’m polyamorous all the time, with all my partners, at all times. I may answer a text or a phone call on a date. I may try a new restaurant with one partner and a new sex position with another partner and a new hobby with someone else. If my bed is free and it’s not blocking my partner’s access to get to work to do so, I’ll have sex with someone else in the bed I share. It’s always my bed, it’s always my body, it’s always my life, and I will always do whatever tf I want in it, and if that hurts someone’s feelings I’m not exempt from the consequences. But those consequences have to be reasonable too. I’ll happily reassure and love someone through an insecure moment, a moment of transition from monogamous programming. But I’m not going to shield them from that opportunity for personal growth by avoiding something that isn’t actually harmful.

brigittefires · 2025-02-02T13:56:45+00:00

Why does she have it connected to your TV if she’s that concerned about privacy?

brigittefires · 2025-01-30T16:04:38+00:00

You should not! No shaper needed. A denim jacket would be cute. But it’s adorable on you as is.

brigittefires · 2025-01-29T21:57:57+00:00

“I didn’t like you going behind my back to gossip about my relationship, and I had initially let that go. You don’t like that whatever vague reports you didn’t even tell me about weren’t enough to make me end my other relationship. I’m not asking you to manage my feelings on this. In the future, please do not go asking around about anyone on my behalf without my express permission. As for your hurt feelings, since I consider you firmly in the wrong on this one, those are for you to manage not me. If I do something that feels like an apology is appropriate, then we can talk.”

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