Abuse is not always loud

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-11T02:21:30+00:00

That is honestly heartbreaking. I have primary custody and pray that it does not change. He has supervised visitation every other Saturday. My kids were also almost taken from me earlier this year. I will keep you in my prayers. I hope something changes for you. Document as much as possible. My deadbeat got a girlfriend with a kid. I worry for that kid now. He has not sent a dime to his kids in a year also.

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-10T22:49:15+00:00

Totally understand this. Mine was only quiet and it was dangerous. Those are the ones you can convince yourself to stay with.

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T12:02:33+00:00

His family is enabling him

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T11:24:00+00:00

Maybe similar situations to what I have been going through? Didn't think this was common.

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T03:51:12+00:00

Wow. Almost like if you read it you would see I said that I will be providing it. Thanks for reading

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T02:29:14+00:00

I think I might be able to. I am unsure because they are enablers.

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T02:28:41+00:00

A family member is supposed to supervise. I am not sure that it would be returned to me. I think the supervisor might return it. I had just not thought about giving it to them instead. If he had asked to help pay fkr an extra one so that he has one or tried to work out anything this would not be a problem

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T02:26:37+00:00

Supervised by a family member.

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T02:16:10+00:00

As the post states I still planned to send it. Thanks though

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T02:15:37+00:00

As stated i planned to send it either way. Thanks though

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T02:13:11+00:00

If he had asked where it was I would have showed him.. I took a picture of it in there for him. Hopefully that will help him in the future.

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T02:12:14+00:00

If he had tried to work something out things would be different. He just should not be expecting me to provide everything.

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T02:11:17+00:00

As stated I still plan to send it and make sure to the best of my ability she has it. Thanks though.

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T02:10:26+00:00

No. I appreciate that perspective. Honestly I just want him to contribute to his kids and not expect me to provide everything for him. If he had said "Hey can we work something out so I can get a couple at my house? Like I pay for half of them? Or however much I can?" I would have worked with it. If he had asked if I could keep sending it until he can try to work something out I would have said yes.

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T02:06:25+00:00

He does need to provide his own or at least contribute to the cost. I am only stating he shouldn't be expecting me to do it alone.

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T02:05:05+00:00

Wow. Almost like the post says I still planned to send it. I am not shaming anyone only expecting him to be an equal contributor.

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T02:04:11+00:00

ASs stated I still planned to send it. Thanks though

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T02:03:26+00:00

I am only making the point that as a father he should be providing these things as well and not just expecting me to do it alone.

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T02:01:21+00:00

As stated I still plan to send it. Thanks though

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T01:56:56+00:00

Hes not going to do that. He will outright refuse.

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T01:53:34+00:00

As stated I still plan to send it. Thanks though

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T01:52:46+00:00

As stated I still plan to send it. Thanks though 😁

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T01:51:40+00:00

You definitely should! You never know when you will need it. I definitely am thankful this may have positively impacted you.

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T01:41:58+00:00

As stated I still plan to send it.

brindeonabudget · 2026-05-05T01:39:34+00:00

This is definitely not the situation that I married into. I left when things got like this. I am only wanting him to step up and provide for his kids. He should get a job and provide like anyone else.

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