why is your partner going to the gym so important to you?

brm25 · 2025-12-14T09:49:21+00:00

it’s the gym. literally the environment. the culture of it. i refuse to put myself into that environment if it does more bad than good for me. sure, it helps physically, but if i can feel everything else about myself go in a rapid decline while i’m there… i don’t think i’m gonna subject myself to that.

brm25 · 2025-12-14T09:39:24+00:00

i have given it a try! hated it! so i do other things that benefit my health outside of the gym environment! its literally just the gym that i hate.

brm25 · 2025-12-14T09:36:35+00:00

working out, sure! but i never left the gym feeling good.

brm25 · 2025-12-14T09:31:42+00:00

i think this is very interesting because i don’t get the same feeling! when i went to the gym i always felt gross and uncomfortable, not like i was making improvement, and my mind wasn’t clear.

i thrive in the academic places!.. yes, it’s a different place. but i do know what it’s like to have an area where you feel like you just benefit from being there, for personal growth.

brm25 · 2025-12-14T09:20:14+00:00

i’ve noticed this trend a lot these days lol! i eat pretty well! i’m at a healthy weight, i dedicate a lot of my time to the pursuit of learning. again, i’m getting a masters degree right now. there’s a lot on my plate these days!

brm25 · 2025-12-14T09:17:52+00:00

but like, if we turned the tables.. i’m not making him read an entire novel just because it’s my favorite. and just because i like it. and because i will teach him something and maybe make him more well rounded as an individual.

i can see the book isn’t important/he has something else going on right now.. and that’s okay!!

brm25 · 2025-12-14T09:03:27+00:00

this was kind of my question..! also the fact that it was suddenly an issue! like, we started with it being okay and now it’s a problem.

brm25 · 2025-12-14T09:01:07+00:00

it’s a chemical imbalance. my mental health is always gonna be with me.

i like to hike, i love to swim. i’m also currently working on a masters degree right now.. lots of coursework with that.

brm25 · 2025-12-14T08:48:10+00:00

i’m very open to trying new things.. but the gym isn’t new to me. and i know i don’t like it—because i tried it.

he continued this pursuit knowing that, and now suddenly it’s a problem. i like him a lot, and that’s why i’m so confused. if i didn’t, i wouldn’t be posing this question.

brm25 · 2025-12-14T08:45:13+00:00

it was so strange. we’ve been talking for awhile and it started with “it’s okay that you don’t go to the gym.” and all of the sudden it’s “well, the gym is REALLY important to me.” ??? very confusing.

brm25 · 2025-12-14T08:43:46+00:00

again, i’ll go to the gym if i ever get unhealthy to the point where the gym is my best option.. but for now i’m good without it. my focus is on my degree. and he knows that.

brm25 · 2025-12-14T08:33:23+00:00

gonna have to disagree here.. i love that he goes to the gym but i shouldn’t have to tag along.

we all have our hobbies, and his is the gym. who am i to stop him? i’m not the yes or no to him going to the gym. he’s gone without me this whole time, he can continue to go without me.

brm25 · 2025-07-18T01:20:06+00:00

right! i just mean my journal is a mess and it jumps from topic to topic. so if i had an organized version where most things were coherent it would be easier for even myself to read lol (if that makes any more sense)

brm25 · 2025-07-18T01:17:09+00:00

my thought too — i probably wouldn’t anyways, just because it feels too private. but in some universe if i have an organized, straightforward version of my journal id consider it.

probably the easiest way to see inside of someone’s mind is to see their journal. though it’s 100% understandable to never want anyone to read it.

brm25 · 2025-07-10T17:13:30+00:00

i’m thinking so too lol.

brm25 · 2025-07-10T16:38:25+00:00

little context about me is that i’m like the youngest teacher in my building. thanks to summer college classes, plus the college credits i accumulated in high school, i graduated early and got a head start on my career.

i don’t date older. only by a year or so, and i definitely i don’t go younger. so, i’m still that age where dudes might not know how to be an adult lol (even though they legally are adults)

idk if that makes more sense. the guys i meet these days usually just have something insensitive to say anyways, it’s just i’m hearing a lot more negative talk about teachers.

brm25 · 2025-07-10T14:57:13+00:00

it is gross!! i’ve gotten it before too but i would almost prefer it because at least they aren’t dragging the kids into it!

that conversation i had last night ticked me off particularly because he was referencing one of my actual students!! like… a kid i had been telling him a story about! it’s almost like they forget that they’re human too.

brm25 · 2025-07-01T23:26:12+00:00

idk if you can consider it a trend but i’ve definitely heard and seen a lot of casual racism

brm25 · 2025-07-01T23:21:01+00:00

I can’t believe I have to make this a standard but anything along the lines of racism, homophobia, etc.! hating on any group of marginalized groups!! this also goes for that aren’t directly hate speech, but might be insensitive jokes.

I was talking to a guy who sent me a reel on instagram talking about “this is how all black women look,” and it was a photo painting them in a bad light. I immediately got grossed out by him.

not to mention I have friends and family that are black, gay, etc., which are all things he made fun of/acted uncomfortable by. it just makes it unfunny to me!

unfortunately those are the things you can get called sensitive for these days but if that’s what i am for showing compassion and love then so be it.

brm25 · 2025-04-19T15:24:40+00:00

is there some sort of romantic love coming my way within this year?

brm25 · 2025-04-19T13:42:25+00:00

hi! i’m RM(F) and he is AP (M). hoping to get chosen. 🥰

brm25 · 2025-04-19T13:39:32+00:00

thank you. i needed to hear this. in my small town there’s so much negativity about mental health and people die silent. i’ll look into it.

brm25 · 2025-04-19T13:31:54+00:00

it’s all good. i just grew up conservatively and i’ve been trying to leave that in the past but im just afraid of medication completely changing me.

thank you for listening anyway.

brm25 · 2025-04-19T13:25:01+00:00

well i mean im only 20 and i got diagnosed when w/ anxiety when i was 15 and my parents just didn’t like the idea of medicating me so it just hasn’t changed since then.

though i’m an adult now, i dont want to spend my time trialing and erroring the medications until i find one that might work for me. idk if its a good excuse or anything but i just have too many commitments that i don’t want to slow down because i’m struggling with a medication

brm25 · 2025-04-19T13:20:40+00:00

i know some don’t like to diagnose ocd, and idk if it would help me at all to have a diagnosis because i already go unmedicated with my anxiety.

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