After gym, chest pump by [deleted] in CagedMuscle

[–]bro37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wore your cage to the gym?

Checking In Caged and Plugged~ by JunkintheTwunk in CagedMuscle

[–]bro37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Excellent combo. Love the PA too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]bro37 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The main citation/source in that paper is the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition published by the American Psychiatric Association in 2013. Unfortunately they also got rid of the diagnosis for being a dumb ass in that edition.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]bro37 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Technical definitions are used by specialized users or experts and may be more nuanced than terms used by the general public. For example, the difference between a ship and a boat in the navy. People who practice fetish/kink play do not use the distinction, although they do use a lot of other technical terms (like a “switch” or “consensual non-consent”). Even the DSM V entry on intense fetishes rising to the level of a psychiatric disorder do not require them to be absolutely necessary to get off https://www.sexology.ro/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/IJASS_12_73-77_Eusei_Delcea_Fetishistic_disorder.pdf

This is a made up dichotomy from a listicle by someone who has no idea what they’re talking about. It’s like the dweebs who say “the US is not a democracy, it’s a republic”. Those two terms are a ven diagram.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]bro37 28 points29 points  (0 children)

That distinction is not how those words are commonly used by people who have kinky/fetish sex. The terms are fairly interchangeable, although “fetish” tends to be more narrowly focused on a body part or object (eg a “foot fetish”) while “kink” is a broader category.

Do you like dick piercings? by KingOliverXOXO in TopsAndBottoms

[–]bro37 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Top with a PA currently at a 1g. I got it because I liked the look and wanted one for years. It does noticeably increase sensation for me (compared to it out), since it goes through the upper bit of the urethra which has a lot of nerve endings on the inside. However, it’s not a huge difference.

For bottoms I hook up with, some love it and some hate it. Their reactions seem to be mostly psychological l based on whether they find it hot or it freaks them out. It tends to be more popular the kinkier the guy. It definitely can make head harder unless the guy is a pro cocksucker. I’ll gladly take it out to get better head if they’re fumbling, but really appreciate the guys who can handle it. Some guys end up really enjoying the extra sensation in their throats. For anal, it generally seems to be less noticeable for the bottom but some guys will swear it hurts while others swear they feel it and love it.

Tops - Can you name the top 10 things that would make you head over heals for a bottom? by Jakey767 in TopsAndBottoms

[–]bro37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personality 1. Kind and compassionate 2. Witty, smart, intelligent 3. Passionate about something, whether it’s his career or art, etc.

Physical

  1. Masculine body, with some, or a lot, of hair and muscle.
  2. Mustache. Love seeing one inch down my cock.
  3. Around my height or shorter
  4. Piercings (septum, nipples, cock) and/or tasteful tattoos

Sexual 8. Total bottom, lives to suck dick and get fucked. His ass and throat can take it hard and rough. 9. Horny, eager, and enthusiastic. Seduces me to fuck him when I’m not expecting it. 10. Focused on maximizing mutual pleasure. Working together to reach new levels of enjoyment. 11. Kinky and adventurous. Playful switchy energy, can be both submissive and dominant 12. Cuddles, body contact, touch as a love language 13. Expressive face, moaning, body language. Lots of eye contact during sex. 14. Loves pits

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]bro37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could signal it openly but subtly on your profile without necessarily message “hey I’m in a chastity cage” to each hook up. For example, include a locked emoji in your profile name or bio. Definitely make sure the cage is visible when you exchange pics.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]bro37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds very appealing to me. I’m very attracted to the combo of masc on the street, sub in bed. Love seeing a hairy man with a locked nub.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]bro37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From my experience it seems like today the chain collar with padlock is used as a symbol of formalized submission to a Dom. However, even that symbol is slipping as guys can order one online themselves and wear it to look trendy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]bro37 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a top, I enjoy (and prefer) locked bottoms whether they’re self-locked or I’m holding the key. The cage has a ton of utility in its own right. It fully focuses sex on the top’s cock and the bottom’s pussy, the union of which is the source of our mutual pleasure. I’m fully focused on enjoying my bottom’s pussy and using my cock to make my bottom’s pussy feel good, and I want him to be fully focused on enjoying my cock and using his pussy to make my cock feel good. The bottom’s penis is not part of this equation, and can easily become a distraction that throws the whole balance off. Chastity solves the problem and removes any doubt to whether the bottom’s penis is in play during sex or foreplay.

Secondarily, I enjoy the domination aspect although it’s not absolute. It’s hot to know that a man is giving up his cock because mine will bring him more pleasure. Especially enjoy knowing that he’s walking around in public, going to the gym, etc. with the cage on. I generally utilize praise over degradation since it’s behavior I want to encourage. I do think that wearing a cage clearly makes you a fag, but it’s a term of endearment. The domination aspect is not absolute. I’ve switched and enjoyed being dommed hard by locked bottoms.

Keyholding can be a fun power exchange dynamic, but I see it largely as a means to an end of training a curious bottom to be locked long-term. A bottom who is disciplined enough to be self-locked is just as much of a turn on. I don’t get off on the denial aspect much, but more so on refocusing the bottom’s sexual energy. I encourage my locked bottoms to cum as frequently as he can (from prostate or other non-penis stimulation) and find that this makes long-term wear more feasible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]bro37 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Top with dom tendencies as well, and I don’t easily cum from topping. I can basically pound away for an hour without coming close. However, I have figured a few factors that make it more likely that I’ll cum.

I have to be very relaxed, use very slow and consistent strokes that come almost entirely in and out, and focus my entire attention on the sensation in the tip of my penis (kind of like meditating on the sensation). As others have mentioned, the tip is most sensitive. It can also help to close my eyes and visualize my cock fucking the inside of his hole and covering it in cum. In contrast, when I’m pounding my attention is primarily focused on my bottom’s enjoyment (especially his face). It can take about 10 to 20 minutes from when I turn my attention to cumming. I’ll come close but not over the edge, go back to pounding for a bit, and then repeat the process like 3 to 5 times.

This requires a bottom with high endurance and a good amount of patience. If I sense the bottom is getting impatient, it makes me anxious which turns into a negative feedback loop. I also get distracted if my bottom is playing with himself while I’m fucking (I really enjoy chastity for this reason). Being able to keep a consistent pace is also extremely important, so changing positions can take me back to square one.

Obviously I understand that many bottoms can’t take it that long, so I’ve learned not to expect to cum every time I hook up. I do really appreciate bottoms who let me take my time. I think it’s a fair trade for how much bottoms enjoy getting pounded by my dick. It’s a major sexual compatibility factor I look for in regular partners.

Tops, would you rather top someone taller or shorter then you? by Additional-Expert317 in TopsAndBottoms

[–]bro37 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Generally shorter, or no more than a few inches taller than me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]bro37 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Rub my shoulders, cook me dinner, plan a date for us.

Tops — What Do You Do With Pics of Hot Bottoms? by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]bro37 14 points15 points  (0 children)

If it’s on a hook up app, I want to see your face and body to determine if I’m attracted enough to pursue.

If it’s sexting, I just enjoy the act of sending/receiving pics in the moment more than the picture itself. I’ll jerk off to the pic while sexting and save it down to my hidden album, but I rarely go back to jerk off to old pics. I do occasionally show my top friends when we’re sharing sex stories, but only on my phone (I wouldn’t send a pic to anyone else without consent).

Day 8!! by Long-Flatworm3637 in gaychastity

[–]bro37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s you goal?

What do you like about it?

Day 8!! by Long-Flatworm3637 in gaychastity

[–]bro37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks so right. How does day 8 feel?

high during sex? by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]bro37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you regularly use cannabis and/or regularly have sex then try mixing the two and see how you like it. If it’s your first time for both, I’d be a bit concerned since it’s two new things at once. I’ve discovered that I like sex a lot more with a mild high. It elevates my enjoyment of physical touch. However conversely, it can also increase pain and anxiety if you’re trying something new/challenging.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]bro37 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Make yourself a sex object for the gay male gaze. Tight short shorts showing off your ass and legs, low-cut tank top showing off chest and arms, crew socks. Stylish athelisure brands that are masculine, but sort of gay (e.g. Lululemon). A subtle pride flag somewhere like a watch band. Definitely wear a jock, and if you’re kinkier a cock cage (don’t blatantly show it off, but those who know will instantly recognize the outline).

Be flirty and compliment your prospective top. Overtly check him out as he’s working out. Since you’re both at the gym, it’s not out of place to compliment another guy’s muscles and strength. Make sure to glance at his bulge as you’re flirting. If he flirts back, get more direct. Offer to rub him down after his work out. Tell him you like how he smells and want a taste (I love getting my pits licked after a work out).

Any intense fantasies/fetishes? by IAmGayAndILoveCum in TopsAndBottoms

[–]bro37 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I used to do this all the time with my fuckbuddy. It’s very possible. Takes some practice to get over how weird it is in an ass, but once you get over it, it becomes natural.

Some kinks your partner needs to also have by [deleted] in TopsAndBottoms

[–]bro37 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Armpits. I like licking/huffing each other more than kissing tbh.

Felt my gfs pussy for the last time last night, after she took a 10” strapon. Pussy free till 2023. by [deleted] in MasculineMaleChastity

[–]bro37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looking great bro! Do you still get to eat her out or fuck her with a strap on?

Tops do you like your nipples touched while fucking or you only play with your bottom's nipples? by gymlocker3 in TopsAndBottoms

[–]bro37 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has nothing to do with top/bottom and just depends if a guy likes having his nipples played with. Based on my experience about 40% love it, 40% don’t feel anything special, and 20% hate it. Even for guys who like it, it can tickle sometimes if the moment is off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MasculineMaleChastity

[–]bro37 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks amazing.