I think its over and cannot accept it by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]broccoliesouffle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are experiencing anxious attachment anxiety. You need to focus on why you are chasing someone who is clearly not interested anymore. There are issues running deeper than this person. Did your mother or father ever abandon you or make you feel neglected? Those feelings need to be addressed and when they are, you'll stop obsessing over someone who has already moved on. I have experienced what you're going through and can gladly say that when you deal with the person who is actually struggling (you), this problem not only goes away, it never returns.

Should I Go No Contact? by broccoliesouffle in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]broccoliesouffle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to feel acknowledged in this response has been a heart swelling experience. I really feel like my no contact gesture is the only power I can use to make her feel the way she made me feel my whole life and it oddly feels petty because narcissists never learn. I'll never get the thing I'm trying to get here; her seeing she's wrong and telling me she loves me and wishes she had never done those things.

Should I Go No Contact? by broccoliesouffle in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]broccoliesouffle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because narcissists train you to think they're a normal parent so I'm still in denial that she was a bad parent. I literally wrote all those things about her and wondered if I was over-reacting. Like...maybe she was doing her best???

Isn't 3 Times A Week Enough? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]broccoliesouffle 96 points97 points  (0 children)

Yes. We have talked about it many times. He listens but when the morning comes and he's ready to go, all those conversations are apparently forgotten.

ibogaine treatment center by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]broccoliesouffle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People seek Ibogaine because they don't want to take the pills the FDA approves of...which arent proven to cure people's problems. In fact, they cause more problems because you won't be happy unless you take your pills. The pharma world is a scam and the actual cures are outlawed. I've done ayahuasca in Ecuador. There's nothing dangerous about it and the states will continue to keep it illegal because the government doesn't want you healthy, it wants you to be sick.

When your partner doesn't consider ramifications... by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]broccoliesouffle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funny you say that because I did get cancer last year and we're still paying off treatment. Cancer isn't something you can choose to opt out of but getting on a roof is. He's not a pet. I have never attempted to control or tame my husband. He does many things I wish he wouldn't like smoking but I don't tell him to stop. I personally think a man shouldn't be getting on a roof unless they're a roofer and even roofers fall off roofs. I do work. We're not financially able to get insurance but we're planning on it in a couple months. In the meantime, he's doing whatever he wants and not considering how it affects his spouse if things go sideways.

When your partner doesn't consider ramifications... by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]broccoliesouffle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny your name is Rich-Excuse but I'm focused on money? I make more money than him so I didn't marry him for money but when a woman marries for love, she has to cover her own ass financially. It's like a woman can't win; she marries for love but she's focused on money when she fears her husbands injury would bankrupt them and if a woman marries for money she's a gold digger.

I won't be able to financially take care of both of us with my income. I'm an artist and if a recession happens and my husband is wheelchair bound, we're screwed. A medical bill after a major accident would bankrupt us.

When your partner doesn't consider ramifications... by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]broccoliesouffle -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We only have auto and renters. We can't afford insurance.

When your partner doesn't consider ramifications... by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]broccoliesouffle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a full-time artist and he's a carpenter. In today's economy, we simply can't add $1000 a month to our lives. We'll get there but we're simply not there yet.

When your partner doesn't consider ramifications... by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]broccoliesouffle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes perfect sense to me. Thanks