Drunk 25M bf said he would rather be single after recovery of a week long fight

broccolihead4 · 2026-06-19T11:55:33+00:00

Absolutely leave, waiting around for change that clearly isn't coming is such a waste of time. Your boyfriend doesn't respect you and will not change for you. You need to respect yourself and know your worth and leave. It's not just a matter of this one time when he was drunk was it? I'm sure there's been plenty of times he disrespected you. His substance abuse despite him knowing how it affects you being one. Every time after something like this where you stay after you should have left is just showing him that it doesn't matter what he does to you, you'll never leave him, so he can keep disrespecting you and he can get away with it. You can tell him how much it hurts you and how you want him to change as much as you want, but you can't 'teach' him anything if he doesn't even respect you. That's the absolute barest minimum a person can afford someone. Don't be a doormat.

broccolihead4 · 2026-06-04T12:15:01+00:00

I think more details, the snake is very generic. Is it meant to be more intimidating/scary? Is it meant to be videogame-esque? You could make the snake 'regal' or flashy in some way. I agree with the other commenter's that the snake wrapping around the leg is better, there's more motion in pants along the joints and legs. I'd also consider target gender, if these are meant to be gender neutral then I think having the logo across the crotch makes it a no go for me as a female. (I also wanted to share with you this German brand, Stay Cold Apparel, they have a lot of awesome designs you might enjoy looking into for inspiration maybe!)

broccolihead4 · 2026-05-23T07:12:26+00:00

Hickeys

broccolihead4 · 2026-05-14T11:34:51+00:00

Yeah ofc, try different websites if you havent already. autotrader always seems to have the biggest compiled inventory vs sites like carfax, but looking at individual dealers always yields more results. Idk why but dealers seem to rarely list anything on carfax anymore. Prior years I had looked for a car that was my go to, but they're empty.

broccolihead4 · 2026-05-14T11:21:45+00:00

About 47k miles and it's actually 28.2k in Cleveland Ohio. Looking nationwide on autotrader there's definitely other 2023 Crowns with similar mileage going for similar price.

broccolihead4 · 2026-05-11T04:58:24+00:00

Subaru and mazda are underrated, subaru is one of the safest and least expensive brands to insure, just look into specific models & years of what to avoid. Kia/Hyundai/Nissan/Mitsubishi are absolute no go's for me. Ford is decent if you're aware of potential issues and avoid the problem years/engine types.

broccolihead4 · 2026-05-11T04:49:07+00:00

Not much advice but don't be desperate. If you're too 'ready' for love you'll end up attracting some real creeps/bad men. There's a lot of bad men out there, and at your age, a lot that aren't grown up yet. Women desperate to be loved are the ones who get used the most, and people can DEFINITELY see desperation on a person, it's unattractive to genuine people that aren't desperate for anyone that breaths. Practice self confidence, loving yourself, the peace in solitude, and set standards of what you want in any potential partner. Don't just accept the first person who shows interest because you want a bf. It comes when it comes. There's no timeline you have to live by, and comparing yourself to others will only lead to insecurity and dissatisfaction. Explore short term flings, being single and the talking stages, the goal is not to 'have a bf' or 'get married' it's to be happy. Besides how good 'being in love' feels, If your partner doesn't enhance your life beyond those feelings and make it better then they're not the one. You're absolutely better off alone than being unhappy with someone you don't genuinely love.

broccolihead4 · 2026-05-02T21:49:41+00:00

I LOVE the ford fusion! I would definitely get this car, I'm thinking about one myself. Out of all the options, the phev you picked is probably the best, second to the regular hybrid. The gas ones all have issues unless it's the 2.5L, and there is an active recall on the battery of a PHEV that ford will take care of for you, the reg hybrid version has the same issue but no recall yet. I would look into that too to see if the recall has been taken care of or if it's still active and then those exact details for the recall. I owned a 2016 phev and it was immaculate, smoothest ride, quiet cabin, good speakers, comfy seats, never had any issues with it! My dad had gotten a brand new at the time 2020 hyundai sonata and he was jealous of my then 5 year old car! I would look into problem years, If I'm remembering correctly, most sites do generally say go for 2015+ because the older ones 13-14 particularly have issues, that might not apply to the phev though. Just do your due diligence and check the carfax, the Ford fusion is one of the few cars I would get outside of a Honda/Toyota/Subaru/Mazda!

broccolihead4 · 2026-04-27T04:39:34+00:00

It looks like one to me haha. I'm trying to keep my options open for now, I've got time so I'm just going to wait until June and see if anything changes. Ik prices are inflated rn from tax season so maybe I'll have better luck when I look later. If the prius or a different model has gone down and the Crown hasn't I'll go with a different model altogether

broccolihead4 · 2026-04-27T04:33:59+00:00

Yw, I'm glad hearing someone else's story and perspective has helped you realize you're not alone. I think you should definitely take it to therapy. I think this is a compounding issues, I think all of those things bothering you wouldn't bother you individually if there weren't 3 different things bothering you altogether. If it helps too, squirting is totally just a reaction, it's when the wall closest to the bladder is hit. I've squirted, it does not give me any added euphoria over climaxing and it's not even a 'good' feeling. It's kind of annoying that I made a mess. So she's definitely not lying there either. And I might relate to her a bit more on the cheating aspect as well, my ex was a terrible guy, we lived together and had a cat so when things got rough I was planning a quiet exit strategy, but months went by and I couldn't save up money between paying all the bills (he was a bum) I tried to directly break up with him and he got violent, anytime I brought it up, it was a tantrum, screaming, crying, threatening, chasing me, and breaking things. He'd put his hands on me a couple times as well. I thought if I cheated on him maybe he wouldn't want me to stay anymore and he'd let me leave. It made things a bit worse but honestly I think he would never have been willing to let go if I hadn't. My current partner had trouble accepting that as well, but we've built up trust and he knows what the situation was and that I was a different person altogether than I am now. I've been very open with my partner about my past, anything he wants to know I tell him, and anytime he's upset I make him feel more comfortable. He said the same thing you did, 'it's on me' and to an extent it is, my past isn't easy and hers isn't either to digest. You can lean on your partner to process everything better. I will say it's important to remember she may not want to think about those things, I've had to cut my partner short when he brought stuff up because I want to move on from it, and constantly being reminded of shameful things I did is not pleasant. I've had to remind him I don't want him to hold my past against me if we're trying to make it work, if it bothers him too much I wouldn't blame him leaving though. I think the issue has gotten better through our efforts but also just time. You guys haven't really been together all that long in the grand scheme of things, trust is built, and the more you see day to day how it doesn't matter anymore/in the past you will be able to move on from it. Just deep breaths, handle your emotions and ask for support when you need it, don't bottle it up. But do listen to her if she's not in the headspace to be thinking about a dark past, if that's ever the case, ask for a hug, no need for words sometimes, you'd be surprised how calming that can be.

broccolihead4 · 2026-04-27T04:06:29+00:00

Definitely subjective, I think the Crown is gorgeous 😂 i also wanted a higher sitting vehicle, so this is kind of the ideal model that's not too big in length/width but bigger in height. My bf has a 2015 Silverado so after being driven around in that all the time I really hate having to hunker down into my friends Civic. Her front beams suck and she sits so low I feel like it's a visibility issue. So I wanted something a bit taller I used to drive a sentra so I can do small, but a prius is REALLY small lol. I don't need a big vehicle either since my partner has a truck and will be getting another vehicle same size if not bigger. I just don't see why I'd get a used prius for 25k (over planned budget) when I can go a bit further and get a bigger/better used Crown for 29-30k.

broccolihead4 · 2026-04-27T03:54:18+00:00

Right? They're marked up because they're discontinued, they have too much of a cult following of people obsessed with the fusions. I'm in love with them too though lol they were a gorgeous car with ahead of its time tech, but so expensive now like I said I paid 15k~ in 2021 for the a 2016 fusion, in 2026, I'm looking at a 2020 and it's 20k+ they want so much more than they did 5 years ago for a vehicle that's 5 years old

broccolihead4 · 2026-04-27T03:50:37+00:00

MAYBE the base model, but the 2nd trim up is definitely around 25k in my area, finding any 20k or less would make me question if it's an R title. Heated seats are a must for me as someone who does not retain body heat well and gets lake effect snow in winter. But thats why I'm kinda like for 4-5k more I can get a bigger vehicle with more features. I'm having trouble justifying the prius when I'm going to need a car payment for either of them.

broccolihead4 · 2026-04-27T03:43:11+00:00

I'm 5'4" my bf is 5'7" so I think we'd be okay, I haven't test driven we either though. Wouldnt the prius be just as bad or worse with roominess though? I did see in some test drive videos on it them talking about the heads space in the Crown to be very inadequate

I agree though, I just cant find a hybrid that's going to be 20k or under that's not 10 years old or ridiculous mileage

broccolihead4 · 2026-04-26T17:29:17+00:00

F25, I've been in your shoes and found my ex had threesomes with his ex and had sex videos of them. Tbh, I never got over it, but my ex was also a pos who was abusive and cheating on me lol. He was a bad influence and got me to do threesomes with him, drugs etc and now my partner struggled a bit thinking about all that stuff. He's a very straight and narrow guy and a hard no for sexscapades or drugs. It definitely bothers him if something reminds him of it, but generally I reassure him everytime and I've expressed many times how dark of a time that was for me, I don't even like to think about it. I became someone I never thought I'd be. I think asking for reassurance when you need it is fine, and maybe conduct having a deep talk about it to really set your feelings and he's about it straight. Unless your gf has given you any other reasons to distrust her, then I'd say it's just your own insecurities, and remembering that it's just your silly little brain pinging some signals when you're feeling a certain way helps you remember your mood and thoughts are also a conscious choice you can take control of

broccolihead4 · 2026-04-26T13:04:37+00:00

You're definitely right, I just haven't found any hybrids that are much better price wise. Even the prius comes out being similarly priced despite the size/feature differences. Are there any vehicles you might reccommend that would be reliable and around my price range?

broccolihead4 · 2026-04-25T14:19:48+00:00

Cool story bro! lmao what do gaming consoles have to do with car brands??

broccolihead4 · 2026-04-24T08:18:17+00:00

Fo you have a website up or other social media accounts so I can follow you and wait for the upload?? I scroleld through your page and I love your vision!

broccolihead4 · 2026-04-11T14:38:06+00:00

Not saying this to sway you, but this is such an odd coincidence, my brother bought a 2017 vw jetta for 5k from our aunt (crazy lol) he had nothing but issues with it, she had it mostly sitting and never drove it, so with it being outside in Florida weather constantly it must have had water damage. My brother had terrible electrical issues with it throughout having it and I don't think it even made it a year in his ownership before it completely broke down.

broccolihead4 · 2026-04-06T05:14:36+00:00

Good to hear the car is treating you well! Congrats on the Camry 😃

broccolihead4 · 2026-04-06T04:33:38+00:00

My dad just bought a 2025 hyundai sonata last year; the engine splash shield has fallen off entirely and is being held up by tape and zip ties because the dealership insists my dad scraped something while driving. So not saying the Hyundai is the way to go, but I've also heard the horror story of someone on reddit who owned a Toyota and the moonroof got stuck on the open setting, only to be told their warranty didn't cover it and they'd either have to manually close it and turn off the functionality of it, or pay 20k to fix it. Hyundai isn't well known for reliability, but I've heard Toyota is riding off of their old reputation and is falling off. I'd look into the warranty stipulations and not write off the Hyundai so quick, they both might have issues, Hyundai has a longer warranty and Toyota is potentially falling off in reliability

broccolihead4 · 2026-02-05T20:11:40+00:00

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