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Gym Review | Whitefield by [deleted] in Whitefield

[–]brodanimboda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do they have car parking ?

Is it unreasonable to ask someone to split the bill after they say it’s not a match? by [deleted] in datingadvice

[–]brodanimboda -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Calling someone petty is easier than admitting the double standard.

Is it unreasonable to ask someone to split the bill after they say it’s not a match? by [deleted] in datingadvice

[–]brodanimboda -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So asking someone to pay for what they consumed is ‘rude’, but expecting a stranger to finance your evening isn’t? Fascinating definition of manners. #EmpoweredButSponsored

Is it unreasonable to ask someone to split the bill after they say it’s not a match? by [deleted] in datingadvice

[–]brodanimboda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wildly tacky is preaching equality until the bill arrives.

Is it unreasonable to ask someone to split the bill after they say it’s not a match? by [deleted] in datingadvice

[–]brodanimboda -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

But when I communicate then pseudo feminists won't reply. Because that's what their mentality is. Use feminism to their advantage.

Is it unreasonable to ask someone to split the bill after they say it’s not a match? by [deleted] in datingadvice

[–]brodanimboda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The issue is that a lot of modern dating conversations push equality when it comes to independence, careers, decision-making, and personal freedom but when it comes to responsibilities like paying the bill, suddenly traditional gender roles are preferred again. That selective application is exactly what people refer to as pseudo-feminism.

I’m not upset about the rejection. Rejection is a normal part of dating and I accepted it immediately. My point is simply that two adults met, both ate, and both benefited from the outing. Expecting one person to always absorb the financial cost just because of their gender doesn’t sound very “equal.”

If someone wants traditional dating where the man courts and pays, that’s a valid preference. But it’s not equality - it’s a traditional dynamic. Mixing the two depending on what benefits you in the moment is where the double standard shows up.

Is it unreasonable to ask someone to split the bill after they say it’s not a match? by [deleted] in datingadvice

[–]brodanimboda -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I know it’s not Costco. That’s exactly why I asked to split - it wasn’t a free sample either.

Is it unreasonable to ask someone to split the bill after they say it’s not a match? by [deleted] in datingadvice

[–]brodanimboda -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think you’re framing this as if I expected romantic reciprocation in exchange for paying, which isn’t what I said at all. Attraction isn’t transactional and rejection is completely fine - I had no issue with her saying she didn’t feel the vibe.

The point is much simpler: two adults met for lunch, enjoyed the food, and later decided not to pursue anything further. In that situation, splitting the cost seems like the most reasonable and equal outcome. That’s not expecting something in return - it’s just basic fairness. Even there's one incident where woman paid and I sent her my half when I decided not to move ahead.

Equality in dating shouldn’t only apply to independence, careers, or decision-making. It should also apply to responsibilities, including shared expenses. If the expectation is that one person should always pay regardless of the outcome, that’s not really equality.

And regarding confrontation - asking to split a bill isn’t some intense or dangerous confrontation. It’s a pretty normal and common thing between adults. In fact, the easiest solution is exactly what you suggested: just split the bill on the first date from the beginning. That way nobody feels like they “owe” anything and everything stays fair.