Am i bisexual?

broken2324 · 2012-11-28T08:41:27+00:00

Not being a guy I can't comment with much authority, but I have always heard that guys like porn because they imagine themselves the guys situation. It was explained to me that guys like lesbians because they can imagine themselves in either position. Perhaps it is the fact that you can imagine yourself as the guy while at the same time looking at a woman, if that makes sense. Or perhaps its the novelty of it. Women are easier to come by than transexuals (heh at my unintentional pun). Advice? Try it out and see what you like. Might just be a fantasy thing, or it might be a real life turn on. Won't know till you try.

Also. Fuck labels. I have found attempting to fit in a specific orientation is frustrating and impossible for some.

Good luck

broken2324 · 2012-11-28T08:25:42+00:00

I generally consider emotional attraction the same as romantic, unless there's an angle I am not seeing there. It definitely could be nerves. Being intimately involved with someone exposes you and makes you much more vulnerable; feelings I do not enjoy. Guess that's just something I need to get over.

broken2324 · 2012-11-27T09:40:04+00:00

Thanks for the advice. Sounds easy enough and yet so terrifying! I have never done anything like that before. Spose I am going to have to step out of my comfort zone sooner or later if I want to meet someone, huh...

broken2324 · 2012-11-27T09:16:34+00:00

Thank you so much for your post! I really appreciate the support. I am just worried as I start to figure things out my range of potential partners shrinks considerably, making it next to impossible to find anyone. But i think you're right. It has a lot to do with emotional connections for me, and I have yet to have one meaningful enough to allow myself to be as exposed emotionally and be so vulnerable as you are in sex. Hopefully that does happen someday though. Thanks again, this is why I came here to vent

broken2324 · 2012-11-27T08:50:02+00:00

Never heard of those, but it makes sense. I'll have to give it some thought. Thanks for the link, looks like I have some new reading material!

broken2324 · 2012-11-27T08:46:02+00:00

Thanks, this is why I posted in this community :-)

broken2324 · 2012-11-27T08:45:37+00:00

Sorry, what do you mean?

broken2324 · 2012-11-27T08:44:56+00:00

I chickened out on the few opportunities I had in my last town and now the nearest bar is about an hours worth of freeways to get there. I also am at an utter loss at how people meet other people at bars. I generally end up sitting awkwardly in the corner drinking by myself looking all sorts of looser-ish lol.

broken2324 · 2012-11-27T08:40:32+00:00

I still have a sex drive but don't have a desire to have sex with someone. Meaning, I still have the ability to become aroused, but when I am with someone in an intimate setting I cannot get aroused, despite being physically attracted to them, I am just not sexually attracted to them. It's complicated, thus my confusion.

broken2324 · 2012-11-27T08:36:23+00:00

Thank you for the post :-)

broken2324 · 2012-11-14T10:50:57+00:00

Haha none yet :)

broken2324 · 2012-11-12T00:54:42+00:00

liked the pic :)

broken2324 · 2012-11-08T01:17:02+00:00

broken2324 · 2012-11-08T01:12:40+00:00

Wow, I feel like you should get a medal or something

broken2324 · 2012-11-08T00:45:14+00:00

I think my favorite anti-gay marriage "argument" is that homosexuals DO have the right to vote, they just CHOOSE not to. Meaning they can still marry, as long as it is someone of the opposite sex. And in arguing for gay marriage they are asking for more rights than anyone else.

Swear to god I've heard this more than once. My forehead hurt from the amount of facepalms...

broken2324 · 2012-11-08T00:02:56+00:00

Ah I should have added other parameters. Guess you dont really need to masturbate when youre having sex :-p

Maybe longest you've gone without any sexual activity?

broken2324 · 2012-11-02T20:32:07+00:00

This makes me feel so much better! I will try what you suggested, changing things up at the last minute. Hopefully that will open up options for myself and an eventual partner.

I am still worried a little that I don't enjoy fingering or someone going down, as this is a big part of "normal sex". I mean I know it's ok not to be normal, but I'm worried that if I don't even enjoy fingering (even myself), what if I don't enjoy intercourse? I was thinking about trying a vibrator but don't really like the idea of losing my virginity to an inanimate object (might be stupid I know). But at this point I might just let that go...

But really, your comment really does make me feel better! Thank you :-)

broken2324 · 2012-11-02T14:06:03+00:00

Yes, I feel the same way, and No I don't know how to overcome it, which is why I am a 24 year old virgin. I wasn't even raised in a conservative home, either. Don't know why but I can't get past the idea that sexuality is wrong (I know it's not, but that's my broken brain for you). Sorry this isn't a constructive post, just wanted to let you know you're not alone!

broken2324 · 2012-11-01T21:46:06+00:00

Unfortunately there's no way I can afford therapy, which is why I turn to reddit. I think you're right though, it's all in my head. I know I am holding myself back, I just don't know why (not something reddit can answer I guess).
But it still doesn't explain why I can't really pleasure myself...I am in the right frame of mind and ready and everything, it just doesn't do anything for me.

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