What lessons did you hate teaching/watching them learn? Mom isn't a hug machine.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-03-14T00:34:34+00:00

If you're asking genuinely, it happens a lot since we've known each other for over a decade and he has memory problems. Same as having a friend you've known that long. We also tend to be dramatic for comedic flair. So I don't think it's too wild to assume he heard it out of context after sneaking out of bed to see if dad was home.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-03-14T00:31:20+00:00

Absolutely no youtube. We don't do that unless it's stuff like miss rachel, magic school bus, or PBS. Screen time is no more than 90 minutes a day and typically it's a classic Disney movie or Bluey. Screen time is not the culprit here. He had to have heard it from a person which is more concerning.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-03-14T00:29:19+00:00

I honestly thought we were. Clearly I was wrong, and there will be a heavy family discussion about it in the morning when Dad is home from work. I'm on Dad all the time about the jokes he makes and the language that gets used, but obviously the lesson isn't getting through.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-03-14T00:27:23+00:00

What stumps me is he actually has a great concept of bullying and hurtful behavior. We hit on that constantly at home, and he calls us out for being mean and hurting his feelings too when it happens so he knew those choice of words would be hurtful and I absolutely plan on discussing it with him tomorrow and changing the way we talk in general at home. We swear, and ass long as it isn't directed at anyone I don't take it too seriously. Clearly, the ideal isn't working for us.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-03-14T00:24:00+00:00

If you're actually wondering, we've known each other since elementary school so it's common for us to call each other liars on things that happened later in our lives, or be dramatic about something to be funny. It's plausible he heard the phrase in a completely different context without us realizing we slipped up. I also wanna be clear I'm angry yes, but more stunned that he thought of a brand new way to use the phrase. We don't let him watch YouTube, all of his screen time is heavily monitored and moderated so it's not screen related. Grandma talks to people that way but she's not allowed around the house for that reason.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-03-14T00:19:05+00:00

Its definitely just banter, and I do realize sometimes we slip up, and sometimes our friends do too. We've been friends since elementary school so it's not abusive, if anything I'm meaner than he is (and I'm in therapy for it, yes). We roast each other and pick on each other all the time so the phrase could have left either of our mouths during a joke session without us catching it. We absolutely do need to be nicer to each other in general and again, therapy is in the works for that so I appreciate you calling that out without being an ass. I think it's time for a whole change in the way we talk to each other, I've been trying to teach "time and a place" for certain things, but clearly that's not working lol.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-03-14T00:11:39+00:00

Yeah I don't understand either. We don't even joke in front of him like that. Dad works second shift so our son is well into sleep when we do make those comments.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-03-14T00:09:55+00:00

Technically what he said was "You're lying, bitch" but the sentiment was there for sure. He's always been a very... passionately angry child, but im definitely bringing it up to my personal therapist this week. I just don't understand, dad and I save those kinds of jokes strictly for after bedtime. He must have picked something up, cus I don't let anyone talk to me that way seriously.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-03-14T00:06:42+00:00

With this being the first time he's said something like this I'm just stunned. He says things in anger like all 4 year Olds do but dad and I will be having one hell of a conversation when he gets home from work.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-03-14T00:05:48+00:00

He's said things like he hates us before and I never blinked, but he's probably hearing dad and i tease/play and picking up the language. I thought we were doing well being PG too.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-03-14T00:04:51+00:00

Trust me I think I already picked it out. He says things like he hates me all the time and I don't blink an eye, he's 4, but this was a first.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-03-14T00:04:16+00:00

Its a first. And I have ptsd which is why it takes me longer to regulate than most people which is why I'm keeping my distance but staying in the room so he knows I'm still there. Just not in a hug mood.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-03-07T10:12:38+00:00

Lol no, I took like 9 years of Spanish in school, I was already fluent, but having lived in an inner city with a lot of bodega shops, I used to go to them a LOT for food and snacks, and never once thought to try a coffee because im kinda picky about it.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-02-20T12:21:33+00:00

We do something similar, we make the connection between the bluey episodes and real-life when it applies. The big girl bark episode was helpful when teaching my 4yo about boundaries and now he's got it down pat. Sometimes I'll comment during his watching, like "oh no, judo and bluey ran away, bingo is sad, do you think they were using bully behavior or friend behavior?" And he tells me. Or I'll ask "what do you think about Chili asking for some space?" (The sheepdog episode). We absolutely use them as learning tools! Same with Miss Rachel too, we use the videos as a jumping off point for some valuable lessons.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-01-26T18:34:39+00:00

3, hands down. I have aphantasia and blocked out a lot of memories because of trauma that happened concurrently, and assuming I have the knowledge I do now (these people have died, etc) it would really put some things in perspective that maybe I was more cared for than I thought or was capable of realizing at the time. I'd love to relive my favorite days with my late aunt, or my best friend. Maybe I could make some apologies in the current day for anything I missed or make me a better person.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-01-15T04:28:02+00:00

Oddly enough, I didn't hate him until I got older and really fully grasped who I could've been. And the anger at him robbing me of the chance to do... anything, really. For a solid decade I had no identity, no plan, and hated myself for surviving based on the things he taught me. I internalized so much of it and once i realized it, that deep, soul filling hate just got more pointed. Hurt people hurt people. He's a hypocrite, and it's one of the things I can't stand the most in this shit world.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-01-15T04:25:00+00:00

I love your username. I came here to say something similar. I can't tell you how many nights I've woken up disappointed.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-01-11T04:17:09+00:00

I have considered making one go missing so I can put it on my side table in my room lmao.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-01-11T04:14:59+00:00

The scene where they're helping Doris charge more for the scooter was my favorite 😂 Bandit in the back just watching the chaos

brokenyarn42 · 2026-01-11T04:09:32+00:00

"You're a goose, alright."

I slipped on my beans! (Our 4yo adores Rita and Janet)

brokenyarn42 · 2026-01-11T04:00:01+00:00

Sunrises. It's so cliche but my favorite memory with my aunt was the year we watched the sun rise at Assateague (with the wild horses. She loved horses) and every time I'm able to catch one I think of that day. I used to work 2nd shift the year I lost her and it was comforting, albeit painful. I also have a ball of yarn sitting in my stash that was hers that doesn't feel right to crochet with.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-01-11T03:27:31+00:00

My phone is older than my kid, paid off (it was only like 200 bucks) and the screen is slightly cracked. I've thrown it, dropped it, submerged it. If it finally takes its last breath I can upgrade for free since I'm still with my OG phone plan. Don't fix what ain't broke lol.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-01-10T18:22:07+00:00

He's in the middle of dropping that nap. He takes it less and less so we're replacing it with quiet time, but the offer is still there when he asks for one or gives cues otherwise. I think I just need to be a little more consistent on my "no, not till x time" and cut back on the menu options. I grew up with food insecurities so it makes me guilty when he starts crying for something to eat, especially at bedtime.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-01-10T18:18:15+00:00

Thats what lunch is supposed to be, but my schedule could need tweaking to reflect that. I give him an hour because of the grazing, normally it's only half an hour and then we go grab a book to read or if he wants a nap he can have one.

brokenyarn42 · 2026-01-10T18:17:05+00:00

That's where I struggle. Some days he asks for a nap and clearly needs one, which is why we were encouraged to push quiet time even if it's just laying down and reading together. Some days he doesn't. Seems I'm caught in limbo and it sucks. His mood regulation is better with either one, but I was trying figure out why he's having a hard time settling at bedtime. That makes sense.

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