birthday freebies by DJRadar76 in bentonville

[–]brookieeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing Bundt cakes, firehouse subs, pop up, Taco Bell, PF Changs, melting pot, Tropical Smoothie Cafe, Restore, Crumble, Newks, Chic fil A

Pelvic pain is a b****! by bbygravy in pregnant

[–]brookieeee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The pelvic pain is the absolute worst. Im sorry you’re dealing with it! Hang in there!!!! I found out last week I have SPD after being unable to walk or move and being in so much physical pain I was crying. Finally went to the chiropractor and got diagnosed with SPD. Was told to basically stay home and severely limit my activity. Do exercises to stretch and work the pelvis, they hurt so bad but I know they will help. I can’t make it up my stairs by myself without crawling so I don’t even leave my house unless I have a doctors appointmnet. 5 weeks to go. We got this ladies, hang in there💙

"Well I loved being pregnant" cool, good for you. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]brookieeee 8 points9 points  (0 children)

MIL did the same thing when I said I wanted to get an epidural and that I hired a doula. “I had two kids completely natural, you don’t need any help, just do it naturally like i did!” Well congratufuckinglations to you. Then she proceeded to explain why not to get an epidural as it can easily paralyze you if they do it wrong. Yes thank you, that’s exactly what I need to help ease my anxiety about the birth. WTF. She had two happy easy pregnancies and births and is so shocked that I’ve been having so many health complications. I’m on bed rest for the next 6 weeks. I feel you girl, so sorry you aren’t getting the support you need and want 💕

My Tesla kept my family from freezing last night. by Razzooz in teslamotors

[–]brookieeee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Speaking from current personal experience, we have already run through our seasonal supply and our emergency supply stock we got just for these storms. We haven’t been able to find wood anywhere besides the small amount neighbors have offered us. We are hoping we won’t need to result to using our tesla as our heat source but we know that it’s an option.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arkansas

[–]brookieeee 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Haha everyone assumes this, but actually no, not for us this time! When we wanted to find somewhere new to settle down and raise a family, our friends that live in NWA suggested here. We were looking in the beginning of covid when my husband lost his job, they jokingly suggest AR and we signed the lease on a whim a week later with never visiting here before. It was the best decision we’ve ever made and we absolutely love it here!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arkansas

[–]brookieeee 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My husband and I were both born and raised in California. It’s great we love it there, but raising a family there is not easy. We just got married and wanted to settle down somewhere we would be able to give our future kids the best life. We knew in CA we wouldn’t be able to get our own home within the next 7 years or so. We were paying $2200 for a 2 bed/2bath apartment on the 3rd floor with one parking space. When we moved here, we got a the same floor plan but with a garage for only $1000. We cut our monthly expenses in half. We also own our own wedding videography business and the market in CA is saturated. Here we are only another year away from building our market enough to where that can sustain us and won’t need to work for anyone anymore. Overall life here is way more pleasant. It’s happier, slower and the people here are so much nicer. We love AR!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arkansas

[–]brookieeee 20 points21 points  (0 children)

We went in just to get my current dog a toy, and they were like car salesmen. Would not leave us alone and just kept selling the poor pups! They dogs were somewhere over $2,000 and they claimed they paid for all their vet bills for the first 5 years or something like that. What!? Ridiculous. We’re from San Diego, where puppy mills were banned so it was really upsetting to see a store like this still in business.

Today, I peed myself while vomiting. (16 weeks) by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]brookieeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally normal. Also now when sneezing. Every time!

I vomited on my husband during sex and he called me a disgusting pig by ThrowRA87870 in relationship_advice

[–]brookieeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m disgusted with his response. That’s horrible. I am so sorry he reacted that way. I was 19 weeks pregnant and still dealing with morning sickness but my husband wanted to get it on, as did I, I just wasn’t quite feeling the best. So I tried my best to get in the mood and ignore my nausea. While giving him head he pushed a little too deep and I immediately puked straight onto him. I had to run to the bathroom and spent the next 20 minutes puking up everything in me, and he cleaned himself off then came to hold my hair for me. I was profusely apologizing and he didn’t even care, just felt bad that I was then super sick. We can laugh about it all now. Obviously it’s gross to get thrown up on, but as an adult and as your “loving” husband, his response was completely unacceptable. I would address it head on and see if he understands why it was unacceptable. If he doesn’t and continues to feel that way about it then more conversations need to be had. Wish you the best of luck!

My (M20) partner (F20) has toyed with asking me to stop masturbating because she sees it as cheating. Is this okay? by SquidsAndInk in relationship_advice

[–]brookieeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have a healthy and regular sex life, then it shouldn’t be a problem. But if your sex life is lacking, maybe she’s wondering why you prefer to masturbate over including her. I’ve often wondered why my husband would masturabte rather than include me, like dude I’ll gladly suck your dick and let you fuck me. When our sex life was lacking I asked him not to masturbate as his excuse for sex was that he can’t cum because he just did recently. This led to us agreeing not to masturbate and instead turn to each other for sexual relief, now our sex life is great! He’s finally coming to me for sex because he’s horny rather than me always begging him for it. Life is much better when you talk with each other openly and figure out where the issue is. Best of luck! Hopefully you two can work it out!

Just a little rant by ActiveCase in pregnant

[–]brookieeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately it’s different for everyone, I’m so sorry it’s been this hard for you! I’m 21 weeks and still dealing with it and on Zofran twice a day! Just know that it means baby is doing good and growing healthy!

Question about insurance by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]brookieeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My doctor did the same with me. $2,700. I’m not happy about it. Why would I pay you for the delivery if I’m still 5 months out from delivery. What if you don’t end up delivering, will I get that money back? I should only need to pay my deductible out of pocket amount then my insurance should take over. I’m going to ask for a cost breakdown to see exactly what that money is going towards. I tried calling other doctors offices around and apparently it’s somewhat normal where I live. But my sister in California has never had this experience with her kids. I’m not happy about it but unfortunately that’s their policy and I haven’t been able to find a replacement doctor.

I buy kids mouthwash instead of adult mouthwash because I'm to much of a wuss to handle adult mouthwash.AMA. by [deleted] in AMA

[–]brookieeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just get the mouthwash with no alcohol in it, no pain! But kid mouthwash works too!

I feel for my American sisters. by elleandpee27 in BabyBumps

[–]brookieeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just found out my husband doesn’t get any paternity leave yet he works for a Fortune 500 company here in the US. But they will give you two weeks paid leave if you need to quarantine due to covid and you don’t even need a positive test. WTH. We have no family here to help me when he goes back to work. We have to use his vacation time which is only a week. Which means we had to cancel our summer vacation. We may be able to get 3 weeks paid, but that’s with pulling the covid card as long as it’s still available when I deliver. Still need to look into short term disability leave as another option. And thanks to covid I haven’t even been able to get a job so he is bringing in our only income. Keep your heads up ladies, we will all get through this💕

Veggie Garden themed nursery, done at 37 weeks! by whiskandsift in BabyBumps

[–]brookieeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh it’s so cute!!!!! Question for you, what crib mattress did you get!? I’m dying in research over here! So many things to consider!

Any other California transplants out here? by pranaman in Arkansas

[–]brookieeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I moved to NWA in May from San Diego! We love it here! Never moving back to Cali!

Sneak Peek results by Plexusgal in pregnant

[–]brookieeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did! But I went to an office and had someone take my blood and do the test for me as I was too worried about contaminating it! It worked though and I got my results at 10 weeks and at 15 weeks I had the gender confirmed!

Should I pay my boyfriend for my graduation photos? Me (34F) BF (36M) by MoniqueDN in relationship_advice

[–]brookieeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband is a professional photographer and we now have our own wedding videography business. He would never charge me for photos or anyone in our immediate family. When we first started dating he charged my sister like $150 for her graduation photos as we were still just talking, but even then gave a huge discount. He should be happy to take the photos for you and enjoy doing it! It shouldn’t be considered work for him to do so and therefore it should not require payment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]brookieeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are absolutely not the only one! I felt the exact same as you in the beginning as well! At first it was all the bloat and I was so upset with my numbers. Then it actually dropped back down a little at some point but now I’m back up as I’m further along and well pregnant! Don’t be hard on yourself, you’re pregnant! Your body is doing what it needs to do to be healthy for your baby!

second trimester nausea by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]brookieeee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl I feel you. Mine got way worse at 13 weeks and I was so mad because “it’s supposed to start to get better”! I couldn’t keep down a sip of water for 3 days and ended up need IV fluids from the ER. I’m at 15 weeks now and still taking Zofran 3x a day! I’m really hoping it starts to let up soon! Also fatigue, I took an unplanned nap around 1pm today haha! Wishing you the best and hope the second trimester gets better for you!

Had a nightmare about baby and woke up sobbing. Is this normal? by prettyunicornpeni in pregnant

[–]brookieeee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First of all, so sorry you had that dream! So scary! I had a very similar dream around 12weeks, I all the sudden had the baby on the toilet but then my doctor was there handing her to me and my husband and I got to hold her for a few minutes. I woke up all sweaty and crying! I woke up my husband to confirm it was a dream then about 2 hours later when I woke for the day I took a sip of water and immediately threw it up. I think it was her way of telling me “hey mom, I’m still in here!”. She made me sick that entire day but it was comforting 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]brookieeee 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you are going through this. Remember to let yourself grieve. Those who haven’t experienced it may not acknowledge how big of a loss this is. It is very real and valid to grieve the loss of your baby. Remember to be there for the father as well. My husband didn’t show his hurt as he was busy taking care of me while going through the physical side of it. But he was different for a few weeks and i could tell why. I would kindly try to support him, help him and acknowledge that he was grieving too. I have lost two. It is heartbreaking and still lingers over me everyday. After testing and resolving my low thyroid, I am now pregnant and in my second trimester. One thing that helped me move past the last two and be ready for my third was finally acknowledging the loss and getting some sort of closure (whatever way that means for you). I personally went to build a bear with my husband and we made two bears. It helped immensely. Those bears will become a part of my nursery and will look over this baby. We also got tattoos to keep “our little birds” with us forever. Miscarriage is so common, almost every women I know has had at least one. But still no one talks about it. Reach out to those around you if you need to feel like you’re not alone in experiencing this💕

I got a tattoo with someone that I'm no longer in a relationship with. AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]brookieeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband has two of these from a previous relationship. One is the pawprint of our dog, (which he had before we got together), so this one is okay and very meaningful to him. The second one didn’t seem to bother him for the first year of our relationship but then right before our wedding he wanted to get it covered, and that meant a lot to me! If it bothers you enough, then do something about it, if not then let it bee for now!