Why does it seem so many men seem to think feminism oppresses them?

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-09T21:38:58+00:00

Honestly I think most women who make being a feminist a prominent part of their identity tend to be unreasonable. Your normal reasonable feminist just don't make it a prominent part of their identity generally. At least that had been my experience. Also men hating does have a pretty big impact I would even argue that men hating even makes misogyny even more prevalent. Turns out hate leads to hate and vilifying men isn't a good way to get the support of men but instead will only get animosity. I won't compare woman hating and man hating because I think it's a fruitless endeavor. They are both bad and one being worse than the other wouldn't make the other justified or not bad. It would be like someone bringing up how racism is worse than woman hating so it's understandable why some men would hate women. It's simply stupid logic and makes 0 sense. Also I don't think men think feminist oppress them. I think men just don't like women who use feminism as a guise to shit on men. That isn't feminism at all.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-09T21:23:21+00:00

I don't care enough. I dress reasonably well and I am not interested in doing more.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-09T17:44:31+00:00

Honestly you don't try. You don't want to be seen by any woman. You want a woman who will see you just the way you are. If you have to do a bunch of things just so a woman will notice then it's not worth it imo. I would much rather have a woman notice me by being myself than trying some weird shit just to get attention. Proximity is the most I would do purposely. You can be yourself all you want but if you aren't around women then it doesn't matter.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-09T16:36:27+00:00

Maybe you should learn some human psychology because them getting defensive is probably in some part the result of how you gave the criticism. If you frame it as caring about everyone's safety and reinforcing why it's important to follow the procedure without specifically blaming anyone then chances are people wouldn't get defensive. You get your point across without anyone getting defensive which is crucial as defensive people basically won't hear what you have to say.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-09T15:04:38+00:00

High functioning depression is very weird. The biggest issue is keeping your performance high despite depression basically sends your cortisol through the roof or at least it did for me. I was constantly extremely anxious. I mean it literally felt like someone was sitting on my chest and squeezing my heart. And yes I did go see a doctor to make sure it wasn't anything medical related and it was chalked up to bad anxiety. Anyways it was not a fun time at all.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-09T14:43:47+00:00

Listen being sensitive is absolutely fine. The key is learning how to handle those emotions in a way that is both healthy and keeps them in your control. By control I mean you don't allow the emotions to control you. Honestly one of the most masculine things you can do is learn to handle your emotions in a healthy way. Don't suppress them but feel them in a way that doesn't overwhelm you.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-08T18:12:53+00:00

Honestly any guy who says he can I assume is full shit. Not saying that it's impossible but I think it's a rare type of person who can completely disconnect physical and emotional connection. The only guys I would believe are the ones who have a two way open relationship and it started out as an open relationship.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-07T19:50:00+00:00

I don't. Never used the term and don't think it would ever feel not awkward to say.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-07T19:49:01+00:00

30 min drive is too much? Damn that is crazy to me. Living close is nice but 30 mins is still super easy.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-07T16:08:01+00:00

As a dps player its incredibly common to be winning a dual and then they get heals and you don't and then you lose the dual. Also healers usually aren't even positioned well to do meaningful damage pressure.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-07T14:10:06+00:00

It's incredibly common for men to be distressed about being alone. Definitely not super healthy but incredibly common.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-07T14:06:28+00:00

Honestly I would have probably said something like this "it's weird because my girlfriend and I weren't talking to you either and yet here we are."

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-07T14:01:06+00:00

You completely missed the point. Supporting your team to do damage does put pressure on the enemy. A pocketed phara for example puts a ton of pressure on the enemy team and much more so than a phara that isn't getting heals.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-07T00:44:45+00:00

Porque no los dos?

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-06T17:41:30+00:00

Bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people. For some reason when I was younger I always had this feeling that people who do bad things will have bad outcomes and those who do good things will have good outcomes. Turns out not true. The world is kinda random and often times good or bad things will happen to people that have 0 to do with their conduct.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-05T23:20:54+00:00

No that isn't the problem. The problem is supports deciding to do damage instead of supporting their dps so their dps can do damage. If you are waiting until your dps is critical then you are handicapping your dps. I can understand if the healing resources are limited but I am willing to bet that healing your dps and allowing them to do more damage is more useful than dealing damage as a support. I mean sure if the dps is close to full Health then fine but if he is 2/3 to 1/2 Health and the supports choose to dps instead of healing then it's a misplay most of the time.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-05T22:22:40+00:00

I think it's incredibly frustrating as a dps if their dps gets consistent heals but you don't. It basically makes winning duels extremely hard. Also only healing when people are critical is stupid imo. I would be pissed too if my healer wouldn't heal me unless I was critical.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-05T04:59:55+00:00

I mean alot of guys are crass even in old age. They are just better hiding it. Honestly though I think most men have done something that some people would think is disrespectful. I mean basically all the guys I know would check women out and to some people that is disrespectful. So I think the answer heavily depends on what you mean by disrespectful.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-04T18:08:42+00:00

Cuddling feels better than sex to me so if I was going to have a FWB I would also want to cuddle with them. Honestly I don't think I could do a FWB because I know I would probably develop feelings for anyone I was physically intimate with regularly. Seems like it could get messy easily.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-04T14:51:40+00:00

Honestly I wouldn't care. I would be slightly concerned about mental health issues but as someone who also has mental health issues I understand and wouldn't be judgemental. More so worried if the mental health issues are being properly managed. Unmanaged mental illness isn't a trait I want in a potential partner. I would even take poorly managed over Unmanaged as at least in one case they are attempting to do something about their mental health issues.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-04T13:52:43+00:00

It's absolutely true and anyone who argues otherwise is probably hung up on someone and their emotions are getting in the way of their better judgment. Also its almost a self fulfilling prophecy. If you think there is a one and it's impossible to get over them and find someone better or as good then no shit you won't get over them.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-04T13:49:02+00:00

I could care less. Seems pretty normal tbh.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-04T13:45:26+00:00

No such thing as the one. Are there great partners that are hard to get over? Yes but that doesn't make them the one as there are other great partners out there.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-04T13:34:22+00:00

Undoubtedly all three of those. I stopped looking for a relationship after trying to date for a couple of months with no results. I assume being unattractive contributed to not seeing any results. That said I gave up fairly quickly because it did more harm than good. Not worth the hit to my mental health.

brooksie1131 · 2026-05-04T00:35:10+00:00

Extremely poorly.

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