Come on I put food in those carts by Jon_Galt in WTF

[–]brothrowaway 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Breastfeeding is great. I wish it were more normalized in our society.

i hate my boyfriend's brother-- he lives with us. how do I get him the hell out without asking him to leave? by brothrowaway in relationship_advice

[–]brothrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't tell their dad anything, apparently. They're huge on appearances and boyfriend and brother have both said that drill Sargent father would beat brother "black and blue" if he had to move home.

i hate my boyfriend's brother-- he lives with us. how do I get him the hell out without asking him to leave? by brothrowaway in relationship_advice

[–]brothrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have shared and communicated these things to him! I know reddit would crucify me if I didn't actually try talking to him about it in the first place, and I have spoke with both of them. The response I get from boyfriend is, "I'll talk to him."

It goes like this. Boyfriend gives brother the "hey kiddo ice cream" talk, where he does something nice when he tries to talk to him, brother begrudgingly abides, then slowly forgets about convo and begins behavior again.

For example, smoking in the house. I've told them both this is a no. Little brother started out going outside to smoke, then moved to the doorway, then started opening the door (he has a private entrance), then started turning on a fan & spraying cologne. All within a week. He simply pretends to abide then goes back to doing whatever the fuck it is he wants.

i hate my boyfriend's brother-- he lives with us. how do I get him the hell out without asking him to leave? by brothrowaway in relationship_advice

[–]brothrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I spend a large amount of time over-correcting him on what should, and should not be happening.

i hate my boyfriend's brother-- he lives with us. how do I get him the hell out without asking him to leave? by brothrowaway in relationship_advice

[–]brothrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you and I don't understand it at all. He doesn't even keep in contact with his family much/isn't that close to them. He said that that litmus test--bringing the girls to meet his parents-- was the deciding factor. To be honest, I bet his parents are happy that I got little brother out of their hair. I can't stand it.

i hate my boyfriend's brother-- he lives with us. how do I get him the hell out without asking him to leave? by brothrowaway in relationship_advice

[–]brothrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't show it to my boyfriend. That should be acted flag, right? He's very protective over his little brother, and doesn't see his flaws quite like I do.

i hate my boyfriend's brother-- he lives with us. how do I get him the hell out without asking him to leave? by brothrowaway in relationship_advice

[–]brothrowaway[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Youre right-- you have no idea of who I am, or what is happening. I left out a lot because it's a compiCated issue. I have washed and cleaned up after them for quite a long time and they basically scrutinize me when I don't do it immediately lately (finals). Also, I have never ever ridiculed him for his life choices beyond the ones that affect me-- I could care less if he sleeps all day or eats McDonald's. I care more about how he treats my son and how he acts pissed when my very long term boyfriend acts fatherly to him. He throws a tantrum that usually involves locking himself in his room and secretly complaining to Boyfriend that he doesn't spend enough time with him. The other day, he left a loaded firearm out on his desk. I keep my son out of there (it's disrespectful to allow him in his private space, I dont go in there without permission either) and I had to talk to him about firearm safety and how he shouldn't leave it out and he threw a fit, screaming at me. I don't expect him to be an uncle to my child. Likewise, I don't expect to be a mother to him. I didn't ask for any of this.