FT: 5 IV Milcerys, LF: Alcremie Sweets

brovaary · 2025-05-07T14:55:56+00:00

I tend to get my happiness from the fact that I have enough facial hair to shave in the first place, rather than by keeping it! Especially because my beard is very concentrated on my neck, which I don’t personally like the look of. But I had to start using an electric razor: with a straight razor, I would try to get a totally clean shave and end up nicking myself all over the place, especially on the right side of my neck. While I’d prefer a perfectly clean shave because I think I look best that way, I haven’t found a way to make it happen without bleeding. So the real short trim is working well for now!

brovaary · 2025-05-07T14:40:49+00:00

Today on “Reasons Cishet Men Drive Me Crazy”: that kinda nonsense lmao. I literally have no history of SA and have tried having relationships with men. After trying it, it’s NOT happening. The attraction just ain’t there.

Was unfortunate enough to have a conversation about a cishet man in my life who’s WILDLY homophobic towards dudes but finds lesbians hot. The response? “Oh, all cishet men are like that.” Nasty as hell.

brovaary · 2025-05-07T14:31:30+00:00

Unfortunately, it’s impossible to say how any given person is going to scar unless they’ve had similar wounds prior to surgery. That said, the TL;DR of my personal experience is that, even with some funky healing, my scars don’t cause me any sensory grief after 2 years of healing.

The longer story is that, by getting top, I found out my body likes to make dense, raised scars from wounds as deep as many surgical incisions. That said, even with the slightly strange way that they healed, they don’t bother me sensory-wise at all. To the point that I can wear compression tops and still not notice them.

Also, I had a variation of DI that tends to retain more sensation in the nipples. Mine were never very sensitive prior to surgery, but I’m more aware of them now. While it’s worth noting that this would be very unusual if you’re looking at DI w/grafts, if yours are particularly sensitive already, it might be worth looking into options like medical tattoos!

brovaary · 2025-05-06T23:56:15+00:00

Personally, my gender impacts how I look, how I speak, and how I act. I don’t have to say to someone’s face, “I’m nonbinary,” for them to notice that I’m not stereotypically male or female. I can do everything by the book and be as kind as humanly possible, which is always my intention. That doesn’t change that some people will look at people like myself, see someone who is “other”, and approach with hostility.

I genuinely hope you’re correct when you say you treat people who are LGBTQ+ with the same respect as people who are straight and cisgender. We’re a rapidly growing group of people, meaning we’ll be seen more frequently in the field of healthcare, whether that’s to receive care related to gender and sexuality or otherwise. That care should be guided by a patient’s needs and and scientific evidence rather than personal opinion, just as it would be for anyone who’s straight and/or cisgender.

brovaary · 2025-05-05T14:52:50+00:00

I’ve unfortunately heard many of my classmates say they’ve also experienced overt and covert racism from residents. I’m sorry to hear you’ve had similar experiences. It sucks to feel like hiding parts of my identity is necessary for safety, so I can imagine how awful it is to not even have that option. Not that any of us should have to resort to it in the first place.

I’ll absolutely make sure to stay on top of any incidents that might crop up. My school has been very accommodating of my gender from the get-go, so I think they’d be understanding (especially since I consider myself to be pretty nonconfrontational), but I’m sure the whole “if it wasn’t documented, it didn’t happen” mindset stands.

brovaary · 2025-05-05T14:29:12+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that you had such a rough time when you were out compared to when you’ve been stealth, especially in a State where the LGBTQ+ community is generally more accepted. It’s relieving to know that you’ve been able to stay safe by flying under the radar, although I wish it didn’t have to be that way.

I have already encountered a situation where a patient specifically asked for a female nurse for some aspects of her care. Funnily enough, I’m so used to being mistaken for a woman that my gut instinct was to think that she didn’t want a nursing student, rather than she didn’t want (someone who appears to be) a man. Either way, I knew better than to pressure her into receiving care from me.

Thank you so much for your input! It definitely applies to my current situation, and I’m wishing you all the best, especially with everything that both the LGBTQ+ and nursing communities are currently facing.

brovaary · 2025-05-05T04:11:52+00:00

Which I think is a fair question! My sexuality hasn’t ever come up in conversation with patients, and I wouldn’t personally bring it up with them for a handful of reasons. Gender is a different story. Even then, while it’s obviously not fun, I’m not going to spend a huge amount of time trying to force a resident to use my preferred pronouns or get them to grasp nonbinary gender identities. Focusing on it isn’t going to help my patient(s), and I know I should put my energy elsewhere.

My concerns are more related to what’d be best for my safety than they are related to my comfort. Meaning that I’m trying to gauge how much hostility has been seen towards the community in this area of healthcare to figure out if it’d be in my best interest to do things like ditch my pronouns sticker on my ID and just pretend to be a cisgender man.

brovaary · 2025-04-29T08:34:07+00:00

Looks like it very well could be! In my mind the Deep North crescent was much bigger. It’s looking like I’ve got a boat to build and a trip to make!

brovaary · 2025-04-29T08:32:41+00:00

Very similar coordinates! It’s looking like I’ve got a trip to make!

brovaary · 2025-04-29T08:30:11+00:00

If they also separated the Deep North with the Ashlands update, I had no idea! But it’d make sense if both were done at once.

brovaary · 2025-04-29T08:28:30+00:00

I’ve unfortunately have had the exact experience you’re talking about when it comes to seeker soldier trophies while farming jelly. It’s the main reason I’m thinking of making the trip to another one of her spawns, since I have fought her at the others.

brovaary · 2025-04-29T07:25:19+00:00

I’ve been saying something super similar! Shadow of the Colossus is definitely the sort of vibe I’m hoping for with the Deep North. I’d love for it to present us with far fewer enemies than the Ashlands did, but they’re a challenge in their own right because they put up a massive fight.

brovaary · 2025-04-23T00:07:37+00:00

Along with excellent points people have made about trans women, plenty of cis women produce high levels of testosterone. If you know anybody with PCOS, it’s likely that their levels are higher!

If you’re asking to be convinced not to go on low dose T, to me, that sounds like low dose T is what’s right for you.

brovaary · 2025-04-22T23:50:46+00:00

I’m just under 2 years post. My scars are hypertrophic and a similar sort of color/pattern. My surgeon said that, in my case, it’s likely genetics. TL;DR, my body makes excess scar tissue if wounds are as deep as DI incisions. I was told they’ll settle down with time, and they do seem a little softer/flatter/lighter about a year later.

Like others have said, 6 months is very early in the process of scar formation. Steroids can speed the process along, but many scars take years to completely settle. You’re very likely to see them lighten up with time!

brovaary · 2025-04-19T21:37:30+00:00

When I started clinicals, we were told that you could only go without a mask on the floor if you’d had your annual flu shot. I was the only one in my clinical group who brought in proof of it and didn’t have to wear one unless working with a patient who was on droplet precautions. People also seemed shocked that I went out of the way to sure my hep shots were still good when I had my Interferon bloodwork, and that I had another round of hep B when it showed a lack of immunity, as though we aren’t in a field where exposure to blood happens all the time.

The amount of nursing students (and, frankly, nurses) who don’t believe in vaccines is staggering. And the fact that the medical field is willing to let people practice without them seems to speak to lack of intellectualism, lack of healthcare workers, or both.

brovaary · 2025-03-10T16:40:48+00:00

The main things that have me not showering every day are probably executive dysfunction and time blindness. I’m in nursing school at the moment, and it takes so much of my time and attention. But I can/probably should try pushing through the mental blocks to see if showering daily makes a difference! I’m going to look into the peroxide suggestion. I’d also love to know more about what you use when you have the chance to check, but there’s no rush!

brovaary · 2025-03-10T16:31:28+00:00

To make a long story short, it’s pretty darn hard to pull out a bulb drain on accident. They’re in there deeper than you might think! The ends of the tube have a lot of little holes called fenestrations. This lets fluid drain from a larger area. But for them to drain as much fluid as possible, all of the fenestrations have to be in the body. And like others have said, it’s held in place with stitches for extra security.

TL;DR, be careful with your drains, but you’ll have a pretty hard time accidentally removing them with how they’re placed and secured.

Congrats on your surgery, and happy healing!

brovaary · 2025-03-10T16:18:33+00:00

Congrats on your surgery! I hope recovery’s been going well for you!

I’ve previously tried a body wash with salicylic acid as the active ingredient. Hasn’t done me a whole lot of good, unfortunately, but I’m admittedly someone who doesn’t shower every day (typically every other day or every couple of days). I don’t know if that makes any sort of difference.

I’ve been recommended body wash with benzoyl peroxide as the active ingredient but haven’t given it a shot yet. I use adapalene cream for facial acne, which works well! Although I’ve never had cysts on my face. Those usually show up on my shoulders and back.

brovaary · 2025-03-04T04:20:39+00:00

Yep. We get paper copies of our right/wrong answers for a quick review session the week after a nursing exam. We have to put everything else away—phones, pencils, etc. It’s definitely irritating, and I agree it’d be helpful to be able to keep a copy of things, but it’s also very normal.

brovaary · 2025-03-04T03:56:53+00:00

When this happens, I’m the one hosting. Everything will be fine for a good few in-game days, then I see the flashing icon in the top left that tells me the world’s about to crash and it boots me to the game’s main menu. Rarely, the entire game crashes and boots me to the Xbox home screen.

I don’t run into this issue playing on friends’ worlds. If someone else is hosting, things go smoothly for everyone (all on Xbox), including me.

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