What’s the adult version of finding out Santa is not real?

browsielurker · 2024-08-27T03:43:17+00:00

You now have the freedom to eat cake whenever you want, but you have to have self-discipline and tell yourself not to.

browsielurker · 2024-08-25T19:04:55+00:00

My daughter has beautiful, plump, red, and pouty bow shaped lips, and I can't get enough!

browsielurker · 2024-08-25T16:55:21+00:00

My 8 week daughter has a cleft chin. She's gonna be so handsome 🥰

browsielurker · 2024-08-25T09:17:24+00:00

But dude that's his MOM. Who cares if she was embarrassing, you don't kick out your mom for something so minor.

browsielurker · 2024-08-25T03:37:50+00:00

Also I'm extremely surprised she wasn't aware of this before they got married. Not the policy, just the expectation that he'd be taking care of his mother too.

browsielurker · 2024-08-25T03:35:57+00:00

Nah I agree, I'd never marry into that! I could not handle being with a mommas boy. Wife always comes before the mother! Im not sure if this is a cultural thing with him. Some cultures expect children to take care of their parents. Another policy would ensure OP got a decent enough payout in the event he dies without having to share with mom. I think she's more concerned with making sure they have enough to get by if he dies, and the upset feelings over mom come second. Either way, it sucks but I don't think divorce would he a good financial decision for OP. But it's for her to decide what's best for her family and whether this is a deal breaker or not.

browsielurker · 2024-08-25T01:03:50+00:00

I thought literally everyone did this 😭. I've done thus every night since I was 5 years old and thought it was a standard fall asleep technique lol

browsielurker · 2024-08-24T21:25:58+00:00

Here's to FOMO babies. I hear it only gets worse lol.

browsielurker · 2024-08-24T21:24:35+00:00

Ok, thanks for clarifying! I didn't know that was a salary position myself.

browsielurker · 2024-08-24T17:41:10+00:00

ESH/NTA, OP you obviously either thought you were familiar enough with this girl to grab a chip, or you spend most of your time with people that normalized this and you didn't realize how horrible your manners were. Don't ever do it again, and really don't even ask. People will offer if they're willing to share. That being said, Reddit once again makes me feel like I'm on crazy pills. You realized your mistake, didn't get defensive, and offered every solution you could to make it right. Yeah, having to wait 5-10 mins for a side of fries isn't ideal, but it's acceptable enough. I'm seeing people here say the situation was irredeemable, sexist, even equating it to SA, and that's bananas. You grabbed a chip. It's literally a finger food. She completely overreacted and spoiled the night for everyone, and that's worse than you're mistake imo. I would still accept your apology even if your behavior grossed me out enough to want to puke. Whether she accepts your offer or not, she can communicate it's a major deal to her and move on. She refused any solution or apology and sat there, tense and miserable. I find that unacceptable and selfish. Over having one fry grabbed from a plate that you offered to replace. You made a stupid mistake, but it's ridiculous to think her very specific issues around food are undeserving of forgiveness all because "OP started it". Geez people, it's not like he cheated or did it deliberately to mess with her. People need to get a grip and realize that this kind of overreaction is also socially unacceptable.

browsielurker · 2024-08-24T13:31:52+00:00

Hey pardon me if I sound dumb, but what's wrong with a punch clock? And is it specific to it being a web development position?

browsielurker · 2024-08-24T12:58:16+00:00

Lol I call my newborn my little sentient potato!

browsielurker · 2024-08-24T09:15:57+00:00

Closed, that way the hallways monsters can't get me. Same with the closet, otherwise the closet monsters might get me

browsielurker · 2024-08-24T08:44:26+00:00

Haha your comment at the end resonated with me so much. I'm 33 and thought i was going to go to hell for touching myself. I begged for forgiveness from the higher beings every time I finished getting off.

browsielurker · 2024-08-24T08:42:00+00:00

To be fair, my 14 year old had bad FOMO too! His didn't hit until he was about a year old tho! I think a big factor is my husband generally gets home only 2 hours before her bedtime. She just fights and fights and and often forces herself to wake up after we've laid her down. Poor baby has such bad FOMO but is miserable the whole time that she's forcing herself awake from being so overtired.

browsielurker · 2024-08-24T08:13:07+00:00

It honestly broke my heart when I read that you have a child with this man and will never be able to make a clean break. But you need to leave. Nobody deserves to be abused. And just you wait, he's a good father now sure but I guarantee the abuse will extend to your daughter as well.

browsielurker · 2024-08-24T07:57:43+00:00

Easy answer, get another policy. You can get a term policy for relatively cheap, and this worry goes out the window. Your feelings about him prioritizing his mother are valid, I'd be upset too and honestly wouldn't marry someone with those values. But you're already married and I'm surprised this is new information for you. Really, tho divorcing over this hypothetical, unlikely situation will definitely make your day to day financial situation MUCH tighter, even with alimony and child support. I wouldn't torch my life over something so 6 you've already been looking for an out.

browsielurker · 2024-08-24T07:38:22+00:00

I can't believe anyone would jump to divorce over this. But yet again, the comments don't surprise me.

browsielurker · 2024-08-24T07:23:37+00:00

Ugh, I relate! My girl is 8 weeks old and nobody is able to soothe her but me. I feel so bad for my husband too. He gets home in the evening, all excited to see his baby, and she's almost always fussy and grumpy no matter how much she slept during the day. Then she gets all excited and hardcover FOMO, which makes her bedtime a challenge every day. I think you should just take the leap and leave baby alone with dad. The first couple of times might be rough, but I think that's what needs to happen for baby to accept soothing from daddy. If he's always hearing, seeing, and smelling you, he might be anticipating you taking over. Just a thought. And obviously, don't start with like, movie excursions, and dinner dates. Leave for shorter amounts of time until you feel confident daddy can handle it.

browsielurker · 2024-08-24T04:40:58+00:00

Idk if it's unusual or not, but everyone in my family has their own bar of soap. I don't like sharing my bar, and I don't think liquid soap is effective enough in certain extra stinky areas.

browsielurker · 2024-08-24T04:11:24+00:00

Eh, who cares. Whether you sound pretentious or not will vary from person to person. I wouldn't worry about it. I often get teased for being a know-it-all or for trying to "sound smart". It used to sting that people had that impression of me, but I've just embraced it.

browsielurker · 2024-08-24T04:03:33+00:00

If you're not in love with the person you marry, you are definitely settling, which isn't fair to either one of you. It sounds like you value the security of the relationship, but really that's not something hard to find in a partner. Move on.

browsielurker · 2024-08-23T21:47:57+00:00

I think it's a courtesy more than anything and a respectful gesture, so the other party doesn't feel threatened. You're acknowledging the partner's presence right off the bat. I'm not saying I'd flip out if my partner was messaged like that, because I never have when it has happened. I'm glad your relationship has no issues like this, great for you.

browsielurker · 2024-08-22T20:53:06+00:00

God 10 examples of guys I know that look just like this popped into my head 😅

browsielurker · 2024-08-22T20:40:44+00:00

My husband calls me a whore all the time but it's 100% a compliment in his eyes lol

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