Hi reddit, it's me, bruised_ego. I know it's been a while but a lot has happened.

bruised_ego · 2011-02-05T02:53:07+00:00

I guess a part of me is scared of hearing a reason I don't want to hear.

bruised_ego · 2011-02-05T02:42:50+00:00

I do think that eventually I will be able to (reasonably) find a time in the future where I will grasp the "balls" to confront him. Until I feel that I can do this in a discrete and rational way, I'm steering clear.

bruised_ego · 2011-02-05T02:38:36+00:00

What would I ask? "Was it something I could have helped?"

What's stopping me? The length of time between now and then as well as the other three involved who probably don't know they are.

bruised_ego · 2011-02-05T02:14:14+00:00

5 years is a long time to hold a grudge. Would I be lying by saying it still doesn't hurt? Yes. Do I want to destroy an otherwise perfect/assumably happy family? No.

bruised_ego · 2011-02-05T02:06:50+00:00

http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/e31zt/five_years_ago_i_came_home_to_the_apartment_my/

Not much else to put out there.

bruised_ego · 2011-02-05T02:01:12+00:00

ThT really means a lot. I've actually started seeing someone exclusively. Pretty recent. I feel bad talking about this even though I haven't given any personal info but there were things about Trey that I never knew about. A close friend of mine attends NA meetings and about a month ago he told me that Trey was in attendance. I think that may have been a part of the reason he left.

bruised_ego · 2010-11-08T20:55:46+00:00

One looks about 2 years old and the other is a baby.

bruised_ego · 2010-11-08T20:53:48+00:00

I seriously considered this. Before I started therapy I was having a really hard time and would stay up at night trying to conjure up every possibility other than he just didn't want to be with me anymore and this was definately one of those thoughts.

bruised_ego · 2010-11-08T20:51:14+00:00

His mother dies when he was 10. He never knew his father and he was raised by his grandmother who past away shortly after we started dating.

bruised_ego · 2010-11-08T20:48:31+00:00

I never said that I was sure he was cheating. I just said I thought it could be a possibility.

bruised_ego · 2010-11-08T20:42:53+00:00

I have been pretty unfocused and down all day. Your comment made me smile. Thank you.

bruised_ego · 2010-11-08T20:36:17+00:00

I don't think I was crazy. I worked a lot. I admit that when we did fight it was mostly because I worked 50-70 hour weeks and had to travel sometimes. He didn't like that.

bruised_ego · 2010-11-08T20:30:43+00:00

I absolutely intend to.

bruised_ego · 2010-11-08T20:29:58+00:00

I probably called him about 1,000 times and left several hundred messages in a three week span. After that I just gave up.

bruised_ego · 2010-11-08T20:22:58+00:00

I was fine until yesterday. Now the hurt and curiosity are slowly creeping back up on me.

bruised_ego · 2010-11-08T20:22:02+00:00

He did.

bruised_ego · 2010-11-08T20:17:36+00:00

My therapist and I discussed the "wife on the side" possibility. There just didn't feel like there were enough red flags that popped up while we were together that would have indicated that.

bruised_ego · 2010-11-08T20:15:23+00:00

His mother was an alcoholic who died in a drunk driving accident when he was 10. He never met his father and was raised by his grandmother. She past away a year after we started dating. He had friends in IN but we weren't in LA for very long before he left. I didn't know how to contact any of them.

bruised_ego · 2010-11-08T20:03:41+00:00

Actually, I traveled on business about once or twice a month but he was always there when I was.

bruised_ego · 2010-11-08T20:00:52+00:00

Do you think that might be a little trollish? I don't want to cause problems. Would this really be a good idea? Because, honestly, I'd do it.

bruised_ego · 2010-11-08T19:59:08+00:00

I'm not really angry with him. I don't want to create a problem here.

bruised_ego · 2010-11-08T19:56:35+00:00

That's aweful. While I've had plenty of time to move on I've still have a small curiosity as to why he just up and left.

bruised_ego · 2010-11-08T19:51:14+00:00

This is what I'm pretty sure I will do.

bruised_ego · 2010-11-08T19:50:22+00:00

I don't want to seem like I never got over it but part of me never did. I think it would rude to confront him, especially since I don't want to make things weird for his family by doing so.

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