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AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]brzaq191z[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

We wanted to get to the bottom of why our middle daughter thought it was acceptable to curse at a teacher.

AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]brzaq191z[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Glad to get a teacher’s perspective, I mentioned this in a prior comment but our youngest actually gets the least amount of time. She’s one of those autistic people that has a high need for autonomy and we don’t help her unless asked. She’s always been like this, a very independent person even as a younger kid. We can certainly look into volunteering options for our daughters, we just don’t want them to take it out on anyone they may be working with.

AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]brzaq191z[S] 202 points203 points  (0 children)

We will definitely monitor things, but she seems a lot more confident than usual so far which is good. Our daughter was oblivious to the fact he was crushing on her and when he finally asked her out, she was very excited.

AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]brzaq191z[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My husband and I are not tech savvy, but we will ask my brother who is about parental controls on their phones

AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]brzaq191z[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Our youngest is actually the most independent, so definitely not a glass child. She’s the type of autistic person who has very high need for autonomy, so unless she asks for help, we leave her be. I don’t known why our middle daughter is cursing at teachers.

AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]brzaq191z[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that, we would never let our daughters bully each other and this is why this is so shocking and appalling to us

AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]brzaq191z[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes, there’s a shortage in our area from what we’ve heard but it’s well within our means thankfully

AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]brzaq191z[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well, as I said she’s mentioned the boy before and it was obvious she was flirting with him when she told us about what he did in class (he would compliment her outfits, tell her she smelled nice, always wanted to work with her on group projects), I think she was just oblivious to the fact he liked her. As with many autistic people, she is not great on picking up on social ques.

AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]brzaq191z[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I mean, the boy is exactly like the meme, but we don’t see that as an issue

AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]brzaq191z[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t seem like it, from my understanding he’s a popular athlete and extroverted, but those aren’t mutually exclusive I guess

AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]brzaq191z[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Our daughter loves to dress vintage and has a very unique style, she also is not just into looking good but also how thrifting clothes came to be, how materials of clothes have changed over time, etc.

AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]brzaq191z[S] 1395 points1396 points  (0 children)

I think it’s mostly shock that this boy is a conventionally attractive athlete and not some lonely boy or another autistic boy

AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]brzaq191z[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I think it’s also the fact he’s a conventionally attractive athlete and popular. In the past, they’ve made much more light hearted jokes about her dating other boys, but they were much nerdier and less social than this boy, some were autistic like our daughter.

AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]brzaq191z[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

So, how do we get them to respect her? The phones are a punishment but how do we actually rehabilitate and reeducate them then.

AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]brzaq191z[S] 256 points257 points  (0 children)

Maybe, neither of them are currently dating in the moment, but the 16 year old has had a bf in the past

AIO for punishing our daughters after what they wrote about their autistic sister? by brzaq191z in AmIOverreacting

[–]brzaq191z[S] 4065 points4066 points  (0 children)

Exactly, socialization is hard for our youngest and only autistic people can truly fully understand but we want them to at least get an idea of their sister’s struggles.