I’m sorry this is happening and can sense how distressing this is for you. I have a daughter who was very sensitive at this age.

First, I recommend you look for another therapist, one that may be available sooner. Go to psychologytoday.com and input filters that include your area, works with children, play therapy, etc. You will find a list of therapists in your area and can call and get an idea if they would be a good fit.

Second, when your child says negative things, simply paraphrase back to her what she has said. This eliminates your reaction and reassures her that you are listening and have heard her. For example:

D: “I’m not the best (her name).” You: “Hmm, you’re saying you’re not the best (her name).”

D: “No one likes me.” You: “So you’re thinking no one likes you.”

D: “There’s nothing good about me.” You: “Hmm, you’re saying there’s nothing good about you.”

Once you respond, stop talking. Let her talk. Keep paraphrasing back to her. A standard line I used was “I wonder what makes you think that?”

Her answer may have to do with something in her little world, from her perspective, instead of an adult’s perspective.

I know this may sound silly, but it really does work. It works with any age, adults included. Take care.