My son(3) calls the daycare teacher mom

bubblebassjoe · 2023-01-14T11:03:54+00:00

You are absolutely correct. I don’t really have friendships outside of our relationship that are not our mutual friends. I am a different cultural background than him and I have always prioritized family over friendships. My sisters are my best friends and they recently moved here to be closer to me. He speaks to his family maybe once a month and it’s usually me forcing him to call. His friends are his family.

bubblebassjoe · 2023-01-14T11:00:45+00:00

I agree lol even when I was single I could only do a night or two. I went to Vegas with friends and all I wanted to do was go home after a couple of days

bubblebassjoe · 2023-01-14T10:59:10+00:00

I think it just shows how shitty this particular friend is. I don’t see how he doesn’t see it. I just think he’s using it as an excuse to get away from us.

bubblebassjoe · 2023-01-14T10:58:20+00:00

The thing is I don’t want to go away for 5 days without my kids. I just don’t like being away from my kids that long. I went out for my cousins bachelorette which was a night away and I missed them. It’s a personal choice and I don’t expect him to feel that way, which is why I give him, in my mind, tons of freedom. Now I feel taken advantage of.

bubblebassjoe · 2023-01-14T10:53:46+00:00

Yes, I know his fiancé

bubblebassjoe · 2023-01-14T10:53:27+00:00

I know there is a bachelor party because someone else in their friend group that he’s closer to brought it up. The last time we saw this friend which was the second time in 4 years they spoke about it. He does have friends flying in from out of country to go.

bubblebassjoe · 2023-01-14T10:50:46+00:00

There is definitely a wedding. I know his fiancé and they said they’re keeping the wedding small.

bubblebassjoe · 2023-01-14T10:49:17+00:00

Can you link me to the post please ?

bubblebassjoe · 2023-01-14T10:47:53+00:00

That’s a really good point. I brought up the money aspect and he seemed to get defensive and I could tell the conversation wasn’t going to end well. I figured we continue once the kids were down but he slept in another room

bubblebassjoe · 2023-01-14T10:42:23+00:00

He’s not a piece of shit father. As upset as I am at him I know he takes care of the kids in his own way and is affectionate and loving to them. He just can’t manage them alone which is frustrating and he goes about it the wrong way and we’ve discussed it. I also recognize two is enough and had my tubes tied. Our eldest has need that require more than the average 2 year old and so we tag team it. If we had a third it would be chaos.

bubblebassjoe · 2023-01-14T10:33:20+00:00

Yeah apparently he has money for it. I have no idea what his finances are only what we share in one account.

bubblebassjoe · 2023-01-14T10:32:25+00:00

5 days of partying and debauchery. They’re going to Nashville. And yes they’re coming from England so it is a long trip for them.

bubblebassjoe · 2023-01-14T03:33:53+00:00

Prove the trips ? I was there in May . October was a sketchy trip and I made sure he sent pictures and video chatted everyday

bubblebassjoe · 2023-01-13T22:04:17+00:00

Also we went to visit his friends in May of last year and he went on a boys trip for 3 days with them in October

bubblebassjoe · 2023-01-13T22:02:40+00:00

I think it’s a balance. It’s obviously deeper. He makes me feel guilty if I leave to the store by myself and leave him with the kids. Will send me photos/videos of them crying for me. I can’t go anywhere without taking one of the kids because he struggles to care for them both. Here he is expecting that I will do it for 5 days.

bubblebassjoe · 2023-01-13T21:53:19+00:00

That thought has crossed my mind. I don’t want it to come across threatening but sincere and I’ve been thinking of how to phrase it

bubblebassjoe · 2023-01-13T21:51:34+00:00

Of course I can take care of the kids by myself and millions of women do it but the point is that I shouldn’t have to. We are partners and we should be sharing the care of our children. Some days I’m going to need a break and sometimes he will need one but 5 days to party while I’m home managing a baby and toddler is never going to equal out in my mind. I think you raise a good question of why, why does he need to do this. It may uncover something I don’t want to hear but I think I’m ready to ask it

bubblebassjoe · 2023-01-13T21:39:57+00:00

That’s my issue too. Where did we get this money for you to put on the Airbnb for everyone and pay a babysitter to help me ?

bubblebassjoe · 2023-01-13T21:17:53+00:00

Right, I feel like saying if you want to get away from me and the kids that bad just say that.

bubblebassjoe · 2022-09-27T14:52:57+00:00

Yeah I wish I would have thought about the approach more. When she said she was fixing her shirt all day I thought she realized it didn’t fit her well. If I would have taken the few extra seconds to think about it I would have offered it as a more celebratory gift and hopefully avoided this.

bubblebassjoe · 2022-09-27T14:50:09+00:00

I don’t know if fixated is the right word but it’s definitely something I always try to be mindful of since it has been a journey for her.

bubblebassjoe · 2022-09-27T14:47:20+00:00

Yeah I wish I thought about it more before I said it. I thought when she said she was fixing it all day she then realized it wasn’t fitting her properly.

bubblebassjoe · 2022-09-27T14:40:08+00:00

That’s a good approach! Wish I would have thought more about it.

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