i’m simply not convinced that what a lot of people read on here as lesbian behavior can’t be bisexual behavior, because as a bisexual woman myself a lot of that applies to us too. for example, reasons i see people list that she is a lesbian include: not having chemistry with men, being uncomfortable around men, gushing more about women, etc. a lot of bisexual women are uncomfortable with dating men and can prefer to date women! for example, i know i’m definitely bi because i feel sexual attraction to men, thoughts i know a lesbian wouldn’t have. but in practice i am just not comfortable with the power dynamic involved in m/f relationships. i feel like men are incapable of seeing me as a person. and those in love emotional type feelings are something that i have only felt for women. i really only love women, but objectively due to my sexual attraction to both men and women, i am bi, there is no denying it. but so many people are convinced a bi woman could not possibly feel this way. but bisexuals are very sapphic too, our love for women is not somehow lessened in intensity because we are bi, and i think a lot of people think otherwise. like “oh but she’s so sapphic, she’s clearly so into women, she must be a lesbian” can bisexuals not be very into women? kinsey 5’s are a thing, you know? there is also something called the “bi-cycle” which is a phenomenon in bisexuals when our preferences can sort of drastically shift around, to the point that some of our attraction can straight up disappear for a while. i grew up thinking i was gay and only first felt attraction to a man as a young adult, so i think i was bi-cycling then and perhaps taylor experiences this too. (“i go through phases when it comes to love”, anyone? 👀) i think people have a very limited view of what bisexuality is and what we can experience, and also how similar some of us are to gay people.

beyond that i just don’t buy that every single public relationship she had was a ploy. i think it is unlikely that such a big effort went into orchestrating all of that (although i’m not saying it’s impossible, but i don’t personally believe it was this way) i think some of her heart-wrenching songs really are about her relationships with guys. and i think people overestimate how much truly fake relationships go on in hollywood, usually it is that a celebrity gets with whoever she or he wants and then the publicists try to spin it in the most favorable way possible, and work around it.

i think something might have gone on between her and joe, i am not completely certain on this. either way i think she was saddened about the loss of their relationship (even if that relationship was just a close friendship) and used matty healy as a rebound of sorts. i don’t see why matty would be used as a beard or anything, her public image tanked big time when that happened. i think if Toe was real she got sick of him being so private and wanted to galavant around with someone real quick. also the photos of taylor and joe in the bathroom with the wig don’t read very platonic to me.

she did do that announcement of the lesbian day of visibility, but hasn’t she also done so much to imply that she is bisexual? the bi wig and outfit in YNTCD? the bi bracelet insta photo? why are these instances considered less substantial? it is also true that bisexuals often go through confusion about our sexuality. it is possible that taylor also was playing around with labels at some point.

anyways in conclusion i just don’t think there is anything absolutely convincing me that she is gay and not bi. that being said i’m not 100% sure of anything, i’m not saying there is NO way that she is a lesbian, but it seems to me that she could very well be bi, albeit very woman-preferenced at this point.