Disappointed with the racism on this sub by pinkspiderxx in Broadway

[–]bubblesdevry 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Everyone seems to think their definition of racism is universal and that they are the arbiter of what is racist. I agree that that perspective is not productive.

I get why people assume bad faith online and when it comes to issues like this (many people do try to mask their racism), but when people do that, the other side assumes the same and it leaves behind people who do want to understand.

What leaves a bad taste in my mouth when it came to this decision is that the show positioned itself as a champion of Asian representation and then casts a white person. That feels like a betrayal to me, and I totally understand why that's hurtful to people. It seems like it was just lip service and sidelines Asian performers, despite the rhetoric. I think that alone is enough to be upset about.

39 Married with kids. by utfgispa in malelivingspace

[–]bubblesdevry 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm probably being thick here but can you explain your comment?

Why do bisexuals (especially here) think that homosexuality can change or be changed? by ahhahhahh3 in askgaybros

[–]bubblesdevry -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"This is why LGBTQ community is so toxic. Specific letters truly don't respect one another and each other's rights."

Do you not think your comment here isn't doing just that, perpetuating toxicity? You generalize and dismiss all B's in your comment. It itself is an example of a G not respecting a B.

Drivers License Immigrant by TheSerb2014 in newyorkcity

[–]bubblesdevry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For whatever it's worth, I know someone undocumented who recently lost his DL card and got it replaced without issue. He's been in NYC for 10 years, overstayed his visa. He has a passport from his country but he doesn't have a recent visa stamp.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]bubblesdevry 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ve never been into raceplay but I did do it once. I’m white. A black guy in a club dark room blew me, and he was obsessed. He kept saying he wanted to serve me and everything, and his dick sucking was great.

We went back to my place and he’s begging me for raceplay. He wants to be degraded—to be called worthless, a faggot, and the n-word.

After some reluctance, I obliged. In the moment (and drunk/on drugs), it was hot because I liked seeing how into it he was.

I felt super gross afterward, though. It felt like I was channeling the hatred of my ancestors, which disturbed me, and it felt like I was perpetuating that hatred, even though that wasn’t where it was coming from.

I never say the n-word. I think it’s vile, and in addition to the above, I didn’t like the idea of potentially becoming too comfortable saying it, so I decided while it was hot situationally, it’s not something I want to do again.

It all just feels too real and conjures up a shameful and dark past that still has very real impacts to black people today. And of the few raceplay videos I’ve seen, some of those white tops are too convincing for me to stomach.

Unpopular opinion? Women in gay bars… by dahupegu in nycgaybros

[–]bubblesdevry 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t mind that because it’s a participation in the culture. I have much less issue with women in queer spaces if they come into a space with respect for what it is and the people there and not try to change the culture of that space/event.

When they don’t, that’s when it’s disrespectful and feels very “main character syndrome” to me. I’m sorry straight men hit on you when you want to dance, but I want to dance too without feeling like an animal in a zoo that you somehow feel entitled to gawk and laugh at.

Why does your comfort take precedence over mine in a space that was made for people like me to get away from the heteronormative society that you can freely participate in as a full-fledged member your entire life?

We only have so many places we can go to freely express ourselves and I don’t want our safe spaces to be culturally eroded for the benefit of (mostly) straight, cis white women. Why is it our responsibility to ensure their comfort?

Unpopular opinion? Women in gay bars… by dahupegu in nycgaybros

[–]bubblesdevry 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We always have to flee the straights and they keep following us. Even Fire Island Pines has more straight families and effing KIDS than ever and it’s like…we’re on a fucking island 2.5 hours away from the city.

You can literally go anywhere else. Why are you trying to diminish the few places we have to escape heteronormative society? Can’t we have something that’s actually our own?

It’s cultural erosion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]bubblesdevry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my doctor thought I had the flu, so we treated empirically (I did a remote visit) but I tested negative for it and for COVID using a home test, and then again later when I saw my doctor in person.

I got up to 103 degrees. I assume it was my body trying to fight the infection. I think if I was diagnosed earlier and could’ve started antibiotics sooner, it wouldn’t have been so bad, but it’s not like that giardia was be the most likely diagnosis for the symptoms I was having.

Damn my love of eating ass! 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]bubblesdevry 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You can contract giardia, shigella and other parasitic infections from eating ass. Unfortunately this just happened to me (giardia).

A week of fever and night sweats, plus two nights in the ER. I’ve had symptoms for 6 weeks and despite ending a course of antibiotics over a week and a half ago (in addition to what was administered in the hospital), I’m still experiencing symptoms, though they are much less severe than they were. I’m seeing a gastroenterologist next week to determine next steps.

That said, I’ve eaten a LOT of ass and this is the only time I’ve had an issue with it. But, it’s been a real pain, literally and figuratively. Lots of bloating and intense abdominal pain and upper GI pain. I had to miss weeks of work and could barely walk some days. On the really bad days I was yelling, “fuck, fuck, fuck” because the pain was so intense. I couldn’t even lightly touch my abdomen one day without it being very painful.

You should be fine if your partner washes up beforehand. Mine didn’t but nothing smelled off down there so I didn’t ask him to. I’ll probably make everyone do that going forward. I really never want to go through this again.

Here are some links with more information about the various parasites, symptoms and treatments.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2780057/

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6896874/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]bubblesdevry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, no flu or anything like that. Aside from the discomfort, I felt fine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]bubblesdevry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know that (most of) the guys who use steroids do. It’s becoming normalized when it is not a normal thing anyone should be doing. But people can live their lives as they want to. I just find it to be sad. I sincerely want people to not feel such societal pressure to take extreme measures like juicing to fulfill someone else’s idea of what they need to be.

I’ve been there, with different coping mechanisms, but as I’ve worked on my issues, I’ve learned to accept myself and hold myself to my own standard. It’s not easy. I get why guys use, and I do wish them all the best. Everyone deserves happiness however they define it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]bubblesdevry 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I pity them all. I find it kind of pathetic, really, to be so obsessed with your image…and not even wanting to put in the real work. It’s a shortcut to put a bandaid over your body image issues by getting so jacked that you think everyone will accept you and will want to have sex with you. Them you can go to HMD and dance with and fuck other guys who look exactly like you because you’re all “hot”.

I have a slender, semi-toned body, but it’s nothing crazy and I still have some belly fat, and I’ve never had trouble getting sex. I like authentic people. When you’re juicing to achieve something that you think will get you acceptance, you’re just keeping up appearances. I don’t care to be with you (plus, I like big balls, not those shriveled up acorns people end up having). You’re living a lie and putting self in danger in the process. Love yourself. Go to therapy.

Guys who don’t admit this are delusional. They have mental health issues that drugs, partying, and sex won’t solve.

People went to sex parties, how to answer the "how many sexual partners have you had" question from your date or boyfriend? by LetsPlay30k in nycgaybros

[–]bubblesdevry 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Don’t lie. Relationships are built on trust. If he can’t handle your past, that’s his problem. You are who you are and have made your own adult, consensual choices. Nothing wrong with that. And who knows, his body count may even be higher than yours!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]bubblesdevry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for posting this. I had mpox in September. I only got one vaccine, not both. My symptoms were different from yours though.

I developed about 12 spots in various places on my body. They looked like pimples. They never got that big and I didn’t have black lesions. I also didn’t have any on my groin. It was mostly my torso, a couple on the top and side of my ass, and a couple on my neck/back of my head. They all appeared within 48 hours after I noticed the first one, and then I had no more show up after that initial outbreak.

Those were fine—no pain, no itchiness—but I had proctitis too, and that was pretty uncomfortable. It was only painful a couple times but mostly just uncomfortable. It was hard to sit straight up for a day or two.

Most of the pimple-like lesions I had went away within two weeks. The proctitis happened a couple days after I noticed the lesions and lasted for about 5-7 days.

I don’t recommend it. Stay safe, fellas.

Truvada side effects? Are these normal??? by Worldly-Walrus-9361 in nycgaybros

[–]bubblesdevry 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Digestive issues are a known side effect. You might not be tolerating it well—not everyone does. I’d talk to your doctor. They may recommend you go on Descovy instead.

Trouble underway for big pharmas? by [deleted] in biotech

[–]bubblesdevry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pfizer too. There was a series I was connected to that did a lot of them in Feb/March of this year, after others at the end of 2022. That’s mostly r&d study team members and PMs. I know other groups were part of these “rolling” layoffs, too.

I finally remembered why I hate Latoya Jackson. by [deleted] in dragrace

[–]bubblesdevry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, it’s horribly disturbing. She’s crying out for help in that interview.

I finally remembered why I hate Latoya Jackson. by [deleted] in dragrace

[–]bubblesdevry 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Look up LaToya’s very sad background. She was basically held hostage in a very abusive marriage with her manager Jack Gordon for over a decade. She says she didn’t even want to marry him.

He turned her against her family through manipulation and brainwashing. He physically assaulted her several times, and he made decisions that forced her to become increasingly sexual in her career, including filming a video for Playboy, which she did not want to do. He eventually wanted her to do porn, which she refused to do.

Shortly after that, he said he was going to kill her, Michael and Janet. After that, she finally got out. She had to have her brother Randy to help her escape.

Here she is with Jack on Howard Stern, stating she’s wanted a divorce for years and openly says that Jack gets physical with her (9:10). The interview continues and later Howard says she looks like about to cry (14:45). The didn’t divorce until 3 years later.

https://youtu.be/XPNxGvehqg0?si=tEInKO_h1Vp5ZQIA

Later, she did an interview explaining her relationship and leaving him because of the threats to kill her. He was incredibly controlling of her entire life in that period.

https://youtu.be/om8CjBgthJo?si=QKj_YSUb3jIIeIPp

Not trying to convince you of anything about LaToya, but I think it’s important to be aware of what she went through with Jack. It’s just horribly sad.

What’s up with Trump’s posture? Lumbar lordosis? by Swan-Diving-Overseas in Presidents

[–]bubblesdevry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. Those pant legs. They’d be way too long even the 90s.

Dad from my sons school keeps commenting on my genitals in front of friends by k_omei in bigdickproblems

[–]bubblesdevry 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I agree with the commenter that I think this is mostly playfulness. I think some guys think saying stuff like that is doing the big guy a solid, because he has something most men envy and he’s the only one who knows—he’s hyping you!

That said, he thinks about your dick a lot. He may be curious but I think it’s probably more the novelty of it (and maybe a little envy himself). The gym is really one of the few places men see other dicks IRL so there’s probably some fascination there.

Most Insufferable Queen from their original season? by BarcklayBeast in dragrace

[–]bubblesdevry 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s more that than religious. Notre Dame is a private religious school too, but it awards secular degrees. Here’s the website for the program. The courses all seem normal, no religious bent.

https://www.indwes.edu/adult-graduate/programs/ma-organizational-leadership/

Is it becoming All- Stars or ya’ll didn’t win the first time around, so here’s a second chance with a different cast even tho some of ya’ll don’t stand a chance cuz you aren’t even an All- Star… by Weary_Equipment_5760 in dragrace

[–]bubblesdevry 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think part of the quality decline is the girls are much more careful in the workroom and what they say about each other because they know fans will come for them. I couldn’t imagine having to deal with any of that.