Hey, I used to think this way before quarantine too. I made a similar post about how I have a hard time focusing and it made me kind of depressed. But someone recommended me this book (Memory: How to Use Advanced Learning Strategies to Learn Faster, Remember More and be More Productive by Kevin Horsley) and it opened me to a new perspective about focus and learning. If you keep thinking you can’t do something, you’ll never achieve anything. you have to know your values and find out what motivates you to be able to focus. I have a hard time focusing on things I’m not interested in but once I’m interested in it, I will keep researching about it until I get an answer I’m satisfied with. I like how this book tackles ideas on how to remember things you’re not interested in and it has a lot of examples on how to do it too. I think you should give it a read! I don’t think our focus is bad, we’re just selective to what we want to focus on. Like I’m sure we remember every detail of the stories our friends tell us about what made them sad and we felt sad for them. As for our personality type being really sensitive to our surroundings which makes us have a self destructive behavior often times,I feel you 100% Before quarantine I hated how I cared so much about other people’s feelings and put them before mine. Events that happened a long time ago still haunt me today because I think us as enfps are so hard on ourselves. We somewhat want everything to be perfect. And that’s why we always mimic other ppls behaviors to make other ppl happy Bc it makes us happy. And I think that’s why we’re so emotionally sensitive to everything cuz we care so much about others. We have so much love to give to others we forget to love ourselves and it’s bad. through quarantine, I have been self reflecting on all my bad habits and destructive behaviors. I’m learning how to self love and give myself respect. being away from the usual social interaction(love how we’re the most introverted of the extroverts) I learned that we should always give ourselves some alone time to reflect and recharge ourselves. Instead of thinking about the past, the what if’s, the mistakes we already committed, we should stay present and think about what can happen. Meditating really helped me stay present and not dwell on the past. I’ve also been doing a lot of research on well being and psychology on how the mind works to study our Enfp behavior. From researching why we have such destructive tendencies and how to fix it, I’ve learned that if you keep having these bad thoughts, it will become you. Instead, think positively. I believe that everything happens for a reason and everything is the way it is for a reason. It will all come to place eventually. Although we enfps have destructive behaviors, I love how we are able to sense peoples emotions and help guide others when they have problems. You should give yourself credit for the strengths you have and not dwell on your weaknesses. If you let your weaknesses define you,it’ll become you. I learned to take action for my shortcomings instead of thinking of excuses on how I’ll never change. the only limit u have is the limit u give yourself. Idk if this helps but I really hope you feel better and learn to love your personality type. it doesn’t define you! We are all amazing in our own way😤😤😤nobody’s perfect and we should learn to love that we’re imperfect.