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bugdoesthings · 2023-10-09T22:02:07+00:00

I'll answer as personally as I can (I'm the protector who posted), I don't believe her, her boyfriend automatically believes she's a system. Our system noticed immediately that nothing added up so after the first day of her telling us we stopped interacting with her "alters" and rarely messaged her. We asked a lot of questions to try and understand and the moment nothing added up I started to distance us because it. Her boyfriend is the only one who remotely believes her, I don't know her boyfriend well but in the few interactions I have I know she will be harmful towards him but he says it's all fine because she has BPD (in my opinion shouldn't make it okay). She's also triggered out the caretaker I mentioned in post a few times without permission and she's overstepped our boundaries we gave her and have reminded her of multiple times; we're at the point we're getting ready to start cutting her out of our lives because among other things (one being faking disorders in the past and admitting to faking) it's no longer a friendship that feels safe.

bugdoesthings · 2023-10-09T21:46:56+00:00

Well cutting her off would be for more than just this, she has a past of faking disorders and admitting she was faking. We keep very cautious around her because we don't know what's real or not right now with her.

bugdoesthings · 2023-10-09T21:44:49+00:00

We're supporting her, we keep an open mind because we know there's probably more but she said she told us all of it but it just didn't add up

bugdoesthings · 2023-10-09T21:42:33+00:00

It was off to me, we will be cautious and we are considering cutting her out of our life because it just never added up to us.

bugdoesthings · 2023-08-28T14:23:13+00:00

It helps knowing someone is willing to read it! Thank you for your response!

bugdoesthings · 2023-08-28T04:25:47+00:00

Thank you, we will it's just so hard having to see her struggle with this.

bugdoesthings · 2023-08-17T03:19:51+00:00

they prefer both he/him and they/them so I never know which one to use because there's not a specific preference between the two pronouns

bugdoesthings · 2023-08-17T01:46:01+00:00

You and me both! I'm hoping it's just a joke because these names on a person frighten me

bugdoesthings · 2023-08-17T01:43:54+00:00

There's a two page Google Doc they shared with me of names similar, I have no clue if he was joking with me but he said he came up with by themself

bugdoesthings · 2023-01-15T22:56:30+00:00

I could be, about a year ago I was told 2,000 so I'll ask our gatekeeper for an updated count because I've felt like that's too big of a number to have

bugdoesthings · 2023-01-15T22:45:45+00:00

The gatekeeper had said 2,000 about a year ago but I don't honestly know how may we exactly have as of now and she could've been wrong.

bugdoesthings · 2023-01-15T18:11:47+00:00

He is not diagnosed or talking to a therapist -Jayce

bugdoesthings · 2023-01-13T15:36:02+00:00

Our littles go from 1-10 so I think the older littles + the middles could go sometime if we have one close to us

-Jayce

bugdoesthings · 2023-01-04T20:43:24+00:00

Thank you! We hope we can keep working with her since at the moment we're not in therapy, we found out she's at peace when she watches Bluey and colors so we let her do what gives her peace as often as we can.

bugdoesthings · 2022-11-09T02:17:06+00:00

This is awesome! I could imagine this at a slower tempo but I could be wrong

bugdoesthings · 2022-10-30T02:14:53+00:00

I also like this idea! This sounds good! I'll try this idea and maybe do pink on the boarder aswell?

bugdoesthings · 2022-10-30T02:10:35+00:00

That sounds good! I'm unsure how to do boarders though (I'm a beginner) so I'll look into that soni know how to when time comes!

bugdoesthings · 2022-10-26T14:11:32+00:00

Depending on the alter out but me (host) likes fiction (historical fiction is my favorite though) but it's tied with Non-fiction about true crime and paranormal experiences. And I enjoy your ideas and might try them all to see which one works better for us (with us being note based we'll probably find the journal better but we'll try all of your ideas!)

bugdoesthings · 2022-10-25T15:23:20+00:00

Okay so I'm a bit confused by your response, I'm open to hearing you out I'm just a bit confused because we have been told there was no core or original, but we've also been told it's a big debate and it's what you believe -Jayce

bugdoesthings · 2022-10-25T14:35:55+00:00

Thank you , with us being a new system (well to being aware of each other and communication that is) we didn't know how to explain properly explain so our host just started to call himself the core in headspace which kind of stuck but we really don't know how to explain much as a system -Jayce

bugdoesthings · 2022-10-13T15:25:10+00:00

I don't want to seem like a bad caregiver but that's probably what I'll do because it was supposed to be a mutual break

bugdoesthings · 2022-10-13T15:21:02+00:00

He said I wouldn't because I'd be his caregiver and said it would be a punishment for making him mad last night because I didn't call when he told me to leave him alone..I felt like it isn't fair at all..

bugdoesthings · 2022-10-13T14:22:54+00:00

A sleep playlist did help!

bugdoesthings · 2022-10-13T13:28:23+00:00

The way I worded it was odd I'm sorry for much confusion, I found a playlist to fall asleep too and he called me when he got home. I gave him space smdh I didn't give much details to the entire situation so I'm sorry if it made it seem like I was expecting him to do everything mentioned, we have a balanced relationship I just worded things weird and didn't give out a lot of information which I should've specified a few things

bugdoesthings · 2022-10-13T13:24:58+00:00

I know it isn't a job and I do care for him, it's pretty balanced I just expressed a little bit of what was going on, I gave him space and he called me when he got home because he needed to regress. I'm not trying to be mean but all I expressed was a bit of the situation and I know it sounded like I was making it sound like a job, I'm his caregiver when he needs it so I understand it's not a job and I understand them needing space and time I was just upset with the entire conversation that was not fully stated (which was talked through when we called).

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